To be sat here thinking WTAF??

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Sat watching Gogglebox SU2C celeb special with DH, both in tears at the stories they're showing. The voiceover comes on and says 1 in 2 of us will get cancer, my DH through his tears says 'I hope its you"........WTAF???? We're just your average couple, ups and downs like everyone, no bad blood yadda yadda yadda. I asked him WTAF and he said he was joking, I guess maybe he was trying to lighten the morose atmosphere, but ffs my dad died of cancer a few years back so yeah, you fucking dick, this IS NOT funny. AIBU to actually be crying about what he said or am I being overly sensitive?!

@Dyrne is right that even though most people might find it funny, clearly the OP didn't so the correct response should have been 'it was only a joke and I really didn't mean it but I'm really sorry it upset you'

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Yes I would have laughed too and we are a family with all the cancer (both DP's parents dead from it before 50 and my mum a breast cancer survivor). But he was BU not to be apologetic or more sensitive when he realised that you didn't share in this particular humour.

Sounds like something DP would say, I think it is quite funny. Sorry about your dad but at the same time pretty much everyone knows someone who has suffered from, is suffering with or has died from cancer.

But that still means that he's hoping it would be Op rather than him?

But if he has said, through his tears, 'I hope it's me' then it wouldn't be funny would it?

To be fair, if the OP was hurt then he should have apologised rather than just gone off in a sulk, but the joke was funny!

By the way the stat is now 1 in 2 will get cancer themselves. Scary really, but some of it is to do with the ageing population.

Ooops I was in the middle of a reply and my toddler lunged at me and switched on the mic on my phone....

But that still means that he's hoping it would be Op rather than him?

And also, part of the joke is in the knowledge that statistics don't work like that and it doesn't have to be either of them who gets cancer.

@ThatssomebadhatHarry That is amazing. What did bad daddy do?!

This is the sort of thing I’d say to DH or he to me as a completely inappropriate joke.

Only you can know I’d be meant it.

Fuck sake autocorrect.

IF. HE. MEANT IT.

Re: the 1 in 2 statistic, a lot of elderly people can be diagnosed with slow-moving cancers that aren't really worth treating because general old age will get them first. My grandad had bone cancer for quite a while but it wasn't aggressive in the slightest and he died of something unrelated.

Yes and the 1 in 2 will also include some really not very serious cancers, eg some skin cancers that can just be removed. It’s still a LOT of people getting cancer.

Yes that’s right, 1 in 2 people based on as they state an

‘estimated national average’.

Half a million people die each year in the UK, from heart disease and strokes followed by 1 in 4 of those deaths from cancer.

Thank you for all your words people! I tootled off to bed so he could play and sulk, woke up to a text this morning (hed gone to work) apologising "morning darlin, sorry for being such an insensitive prick last night. I know how much you hate crying (cos it makes you all puffy eyed-your words!) I just thought a laugh would brighten the mood. Unfortunately my gob started moving before my brain could tell it to stop! I've had words with the gob and it's on a warning. Enjoy your present!" and a flower delivery this afternoon! After a much needed sleep, I saw the (only slightly) funny side!

Wow he has more than made up for it!! He sounds lovely OP.

Just some silly words at the wrong time, no need to LTB!

That's good that he's finally apologised, and made up for being a dick.

You weren't wrong for being upset and not finding it funny, regardless of the pps telling you they thought it was funny. They're not you.

I'm sorry, I giggled. A lot 😅😅😅

I’d have found that hilarious 🤷🏼‍♀️

Aw I’m glad he gave you a decent apology. I hope he’ll make an effort not to sulk in future as part of it. Fair play to him.

(As part of the apology)

Really glad he apologised. He and you both sound lovely.

Having lost 7 family members to this bastard illness, I wouldn’t have found this funny but then my DH would know not to say that.

Glad he made it up to you.

Hope his words don’t come back to haunt him.

Glad he apologised OP. We all say thoughtless things sometimes or misjudge the appropriateness of certain jokes - the key is recognising and apologising!