CoatZilla and the Barbour Boy- The Second Saga

[LanaKaneIsWeirdedOut]

Hey everyone!

Bloody hell, in all my years of MNing I've never had a response like this, I was really helped by loads of your replies, and loads made me giggle (Roast Potatoes!!) and loads made good points.

I'm sorry I can't reply to specific posts but seriously there's so many.

or for everyone who replied and is sticking with me.

So on to the update.....

CoatZilla, henceforth to be known as CZ, text again last night....

Here it is word for word.
mate, your obviously upset and that was never my intention. I'm sorry that we argued, I honestly didn't see the conversation going that way when I brought it up. I think it's better we let the dust settle for tonight in honesty. Probably best to have a calm conversation tomorrow evening?

My reply....
Yeah tomorrow evening much better I think

And she didn't come back last night (good!)

So she's made a mistake anyway......cos Dad was actually out last night ! So we'll all be sitting there when she comes back.

My plan is, to write a list of bullet points for tonight of things she definitely said, so I can't forget and she can't back out of it or claim she didn't say it (I also remembered another bit in the fucking row- where she went "Oh, so a fucking ghost did it?" in that tone of voice- fucking horrible)

Also to sit calmly and let her explain to my lovely Dad and DP that she thinks they might have maliciously cut her coat.

Then see what she says!

TBH unless she fucking grovels on her knees (not likely after that fucking last text- minimization or what??) I'm going to be asking her to pack her stuff.

I'm not being "spurred on by hysterical posters"

I have read all the replies, some have opened my eyes, some have been excusing, some have told me not to rock the friendship boat....overall I have taken a middle(ish) ground.....but tbh it's clear she is
a) weird/horrible enough to think that of her oldest friend and her family
b) fucking vicious in a row
c) now backtracking massively

So....thoughts???

And again for the troll hunters in the back......my username currently is always "LanaKanesomething", and I've had various other names going back years.....so bloody well report me and see what MN has to say, yeah?

Whatever happened to the lady on the plane who's husband left her and the kids in wet clothes and upgraded himself? That OP just disappeared too!

You know how really good threads get moved to Mumsnet Classics?

Threads like these should be moved to a specific board called "Unresolved".

@EggysMom that's a great idea, an unresolved mystery board.

I really thought she would be back.

@MNHQ take note of what @EggysMom says!

Seriously? You are actually signposting where people go when they need to hide from violent, dangerous and abusive men. I have just reported a string of the posts here, and would urge the responsible posters to have a think about whether it is wise for their posts to stand and report themselves.

@Catsandchardonnay
lunch club thread

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3714806-AIBU-over-non-paying-colleague-Lunch-dramas

I wasn't asking!

I'm sorry if you thought that.

I knew the OP on that thread wanted it kept quiet so I didn't ask then and I wasn't asking now. Just commenting.

I'll report my post - and I apologise if it seemed that I wanted to be told.

Has anyone called the Territorial Army in yet? Or are we waiting for the UN special report?

What about the woman who's friend wouldn't leave her house? She had her own room? And the OP was really pregnant?
Was there a resolution?

@GooseFeather sorry I was stupid, I didn’t realise what it was, I’ve reported myself. However apparently a quick google can get you there anyway so I don’t think It’s as secret as people think it is.

The problem is goosefeather that a very quick google points you to The Other Place

Hollyivywillow
By all means have a conversation OP but please don’t treat this as a soap opera for a captive MN audience.

.....
No!!! Don't agree at all.
Oh Lana, please do continue!

@Happityhap what forum is that thread in?

Soz, no idea now.

Still nowt? 🤷‍♀️

Shannon Richardson Oct 2018

Unresolved
I don't know what to think
The questions pile up
I still don't have the answers
I guess I've been stood up
I'm not sure what happened
You changed then changed again
And after all that happened
We're still not even friends
Maybe it's my fault
Did I come on too strong?
Those moments we shared all to ourselves
I guess I read those wrong
I'm searching for the answers
There's nothing there to find
I'm grasping for some context
But I can't read your mind

A crash of drums, a flash of light
The barbour coat flew out of sight
The colours faded into darkness
I was left alone

May I return to the beginning
The light is dimming, and the update is too
The world and I, we are still waiting
Still hesitating
Any update will do....

Joseph

There should be a legal requirement to post up dates/resolutions! Dammit - that's an hour of my life that I'm never getting back ...