CoatZilla and the Barbour Boy- The Second Saga

[LanaKaneIsWeirdedOut]

Hey everyone!

Bloody hell, in all my years of MNing I've never had a response like this, I was really helped by loads of your replies, and loads made me giggle (Roast Potatoes!!) and loads made good points.

I'm sorry I can't reply to specific posts but seriously there's so many.

or for everyone who replied and is sticking with me.

So on to the update.....

CoatZilla, henceforth to be known as CZ, text again last night....

Here it is word for word.
mate, your obviously upset and that was never my intention. I'm sorry that we argued, I honestly didn't see the conversation going that way when I brought it up. I think it's better we let the dust settle for tonight in honesty. Probably best to have a calm conversation tomorrow evening?

My reply....
Yeah tomorrow evening much better I think

And she didn't come back last night (good!)

So she's made a mistake anyway......cos Dad was actually out last night ! So we'll all be sitting there when she comes back.

My plan is, to write a list of bullet points for tonight of things she definitely said, so I can't forget and she can't back out of it or claim she didn't say it (I also remembered another bit in the fucking row- where she went "Oh, so a fucking ghost did it?" in that tone of voice- fucking horrible)

Also to sit calmly and let her explain to my lovely Dad and DP that she thinks they might have maliciously cut her coat.

Then see what she says!

TBH unless she fucking grovels on her knees (not likely after that fucking last text- minimization or what??) I'm going to be asking her to pack her stuff.

I'm not being "spurred on by hysterical posters"

I have read all the replies, some have opened my eyes, some have been excusing, some have told me not to rock the friendship boat....overall I have taken a middle(ish) ground.....but tbh it's clear she is
a) weird/horrible enough to think that of her oldest friend and her family
b) fucking vicious in a row
c) now backtracking massively

So....thoughts???

And again for the troll hunters in the back......my username currently is always "LanaKanesomething", and I've had various other names going back years.....so bloody well report me and see what MN has to say, yeah?

You could then rename the thread Barbour- Ann (Beach Boys -cringe..

Go home Aurea. You obviously need a lie down in a darkened room.

This is the most ridiculous thread! Have you nothing better to do then bait someone into falling out with their friend. Surely op Just laugh it off and move on.

pineapple don't be so ridiculous. Laugh it off? Really?

“OP said they were talking this evening, it's highly likely discussions are ongoing.“

........Just like Brexit

You may think it’s ridiculous but all this storm the castle is just overkill. Clearly op and her family didn’t rip the coat, I doubt the friend even thought they did really it just came out wrong.

Surely a text after the even saying “I think we misunderstood each other earlier let’s chat etc” would of avoided all this nonsense.

Event.*

Tell her she’s been a cow and to give you a break and move out

Why’ the need for the drama! Honestly it’s like being a a year 10 form room.

@PineappleLumps

After doing so much for someone could you really brush over such a hurtful accusation?

yeah! I mean I just don’t see the point in screaming marches. Honestly if she wants to think like that let her. I fully agree she needs to move out as I’ve read other things not related to the coat that say welcome outstayed!

I used to be quick to anger and fall out with ppl and it realised they don’t care it’s me who’s getting burnt so I stopped.

*matches

Pineapple is obviously the friend...

This is the most ridiculous thread! Have you nothing better to do then bait someone into falling out with their friend. Surely op Just laugh it off and move on.

Hello barbourella 😁good to see you found the thread, shouldn't you be working on your apologies rather than posting on MN

Id agree about the other things gone too far-how could you watch someone struggle to feed their family whilst you just sit there and buy your own food

its not just the coat accusation

The OP had been pretty sensible and measured, I doubt she is going to start a screaming match. Whilst I agree posters are often fond of whipping an OP into hysteria and I often wonder how people who ‘fume’ so regularly over minor things get through life, I think writing down what has happened and receiving some objective insight has made OP realize she is very much being taken advantage of. The friend really doesn’t sound like much of a friend and I wouldn’t have her in my house.

You ppl are so ridiculous lol 😂

Pineapple

Op
Just want to say something - it's
Very easy to get caught up in the drama of a Mumsnet thread because no one in it is involved.

Your friends text seemed sensible and conciliatory to me .

You're now thinking she owes you because you showed real kindness to her when she needed- I understood why you felt aggrieved but only you can evaluate this relationship and work out if it's worth the effort of saving. Not a bunch of faceless posters caught up in the drama of it.

Think carefully.

I agree, PineappleLumps is very likely to be the friend, she certainly hasn't denied it. Are you Barbourella?

@Lizzie0869 don’t be ridiculous of course I’m not.

100% what @TowelNumber42 has suggested

Just want to say that I also suggested that the rip was left by a security tag but early on the first thread. It's the first thing I thought of.

But pineapple it's not just about the coat

Will you not think about the roast potatoes

Off the cut, have you hurt my coat... You can move on.

Doing tests, with others fuming for a week and then demanding friend admit they did it. Being rude, avoiding and trying to put friend in their place.. not OK.

Good luck, OP.

Ignore the idjits who've cropped up today. Your friend behaved very, very poorly out of the blue towards all of you, and you deserve an explanation and an apology. Her rewriting of history already before she's even come home say a lot about her, none of it good. And she does appear to have been using you along the way, which she probably realised she's about to lose.