Feeling Stupid - Contacted First Boyfriend

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1997 - Holiday romance, lasted a year. Long distance, lots of letters and phone calls. No internet or mobiles back then. Slowly fizzled out.

1999 - Met my husband.

Very short dating history for me!

Often thought of my first boyfriend. How he did at uni, how his family was, what he did with his life etc. Not in a pining was, just curious.

So sent him a Facebook message, just a hello, remember me, hope you are well etc. 😀 Got a right mouthful back, asking if I was a bored housewife with nothing else to do. Was I bored of life, my kids to get in touch. ☹️ Now I feel like a right d**k.

Sounds like you had a lucky escape. Just be thankful you didn’t waste any more time on that knob and delete the chat history.

Even if he didn’t like the fact you made contact there was no need to be rude.
Forget about him.

They're being a dick. Or maybe their partner responded back 🤔

Never touch a naked flame...especially a naked old flame

Lucky escape.

I bet your his wife was beside him when he got the message.

Don't feel stupid. I often wonder about people from my past (both past boyfriends and old friends), I think it's pretty normal to wonder how they are doing. I've contacted an ex on Facebook before, and it was really good to hear how he was doing.

You just got unlucky as it turns out your ex is an arse.

Think it's a but weird you contacted to be honest, but even if he thought that there was absolutely no need to be rude, he could just have ignored your message

Did you reply? I hope you didn't apologise. He's a dick!!

Yeah. You’re not the dick in this scenario, OP.

Wow. What a priceless wanker! Unfortunately you found out how he turned out. Not pretty.

Wow

Sounds like he's the unhappy one if that's how he talks to people!

Hmm is he married? That sounds life wifey has replied.

Thank you for your kindness.

No, I didn't reply, just deleted and blocked. 😐

I was tempted to contact an ex when I briefly joined FB, thankfully I didn't bother and deleted FB years ago.
He sounds like a knob op. Delete and forget about it.

Sounds like you had a very lucky escape ... he’s either a nasty piece of work and you dodged a bullet or has a jealous significant other ...

Don’t worry about it ..it’s not you

Honestly don't beat yourself up over this, what you did was perfectly ok- I assume all romantic feelings have faded and you were just curious.

All of us think occasionally of our exes, people who have played a big role in our lives. They're significant.

Lad's a dick head. Now you know. Rejoice.

As it was such a vitriolic response and completely unjustified I reckon it was a jealous wife or girlfriend who replied.

Contacted my ex after 11th July bombings coz I knew he'd have been in the area. Two replies in he was suggesting we meet for sex.
Wish them well and move on, that's my motto!

Thank you. It was a time of long letters, phone calls to the house phone, 5 hour bus rides to see each other. All very exciting!

I'm not a bored housewife, I just wondered what happened to him. 🙄

Love the phrase about never touch a makes flame! So true! 😀

His wife answered

Thank you all for making me feel less crap about myself. 😊

I agree that it sounds more like his wife answered it, if not he's a massive twat to reply like that.

I saw my first (brief school age relationship) bf on an online dating site - he sounded EXACTLY what I wanted but by the time I joined, he'd left. I don't have social media so wouldn't have been able to find him again. I was a bit gutted but half of me was worried I'd get a similar response to what you got

Yup probably their wife or gf replied. Don't feel bad. They have no class whoever it is.

Either his wife responded or he’s very bitter about the break up. The thing you know for sure is that you are happier in your life than he is and that everything happens for a reason. IE your life is far better with your dh than it would have been with him.

Wife or partner definitely replied but I have to agree with others seems odd to randomly message an ex after so long.

what a bollocks he is. You don'y know what provoked that response, but my guess is he may have a chequered history that he needs to manage or as others on here have said, sounds like a response from a wife or girlfriend. Oh well, you did nothing wrong. Chin up and move on.