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Original poster

To ask if you would report family to ss

119 replies

Littlebearstrousers · 26/10/2019 02:31

So if you heard that your 8yo dn was slapped in the face by stepdad and called a "mong" (sorry hate that word but thats what was used) by stepdad. Would you still report to ss even though it was your dsis partner? Its keeping me up, only heard today

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AliceAbsolum · 26/10/2019 02:33

Yes. 100%

HPandTheNeverEndingBedtime · 26/10/2019 02:33

If a child told me this at school I'd report it to safeguarding lead, so yes.

Weenurse · 26/10/2019 02:38

Yes

MutedUser · 26/10/2019 02:41

Yes no doubts

PrincessPeach08 · 26/10/2019 02:56

Wouldn't hesitate for a second. Physical violence and unbelievably derogatory language and you really need to ask?

Original poster
Littlebearstrousers · 26/10/2019 03:05

Thank you

Not that i need to ask. Cannot explain how sick I feel at this, just needed support and reassurance I guess

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MontyBowJangles · 26/10/2019 03:09

It's not going to be easy, but yes report please. Better safe than sorry.

pinksparkleunicorns · 26/10/2019 03:13

I would report this.

Original poster
Littlebearstrousers · 26/10/2019 03:14

Thank you for all replies. Truly

I know it is disgusting. I have told dn it is disgusting and should not have happened to them. Ds is minimising (it wasn't that hard) but I need to report

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Greatnorthwoods · 26/10/2019 03:24

No, it’s family, it would be handled internally with a educational walk in the woods with a few male family members.

LeftoverPizza · 26/10/2019 03:35

Definitely report iy

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Littlebearstrousers · 26/10/2019 03:41

Greatnorthwoods

I like your style! It wouldn't need any males though tbh i'd happily teach the lesson myself. I just keep imagining my own DD being slapped in the face by a grown man and knowing I would do life.

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Purpleartichoke · 26/10/2019 04:17

If I thought it might help, I would start by offering assistance leaving the abuser. If that was not taken, I would report.

Blondebakingmumma · 26/10/2019 04:21

Yes report. I’d also have a stern talk to your dsis! I couldn’t imagine staying with a man who did this. I’m not a violent person but I’m unsure how I would react to this. I’d have definitely have called the police

Blondebakingmumma · 26/10/2019 04:22

That wasn’t very clear. If I was in your sister’s shoes and a ‘d’p hit one of my kids, I’m not sure how I’d react

Aquamarine1029 · 26/10/2019 04:51

Your sister is doing nothing about this?

MrsxRocky · 26/10/2019 05:17

I'd tell your sister first. How horrendous would it be for her if the first she heard of it was ss at the door but her own sister already knew.....

Bluerussian · 26/10/2019 05:20

Yes!

Candle1000 · 26/10/2019 05:23

100%

Chottie · 26/10/2019 05:32

Report 100%

TheMsMurphy · 26/10/2019 05:35

Does your sister not know what happened?

TheMsMurphy · 26/10/2019 05:36

Oh sorry just seen the post which says she’s minimising it

NameChangedNoImagination · 26/10/2019 05:37

No absolutely not. Would do absolutely everything I could with dsis first. Only as a last resort would I report. I'm actually gobsmacked people would report as the first thing to do.

avocadoincident · 26/10/2019 05:45

@NameChangedNoImagination

Can you give specific examples of all the things you would do please?

user1493413286 · 26/10/2019 05:46

Have you addressed it with your sister? I’d do that first; I do think it deserves to be reported but I’d definitely be trying to address it first.