To think this unacceptable in a cafe

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DD and I are out having lunch in a nice cafe. Beautifully spacious with great facilities for baby, there are often mums with kids here.

We were just eating, I look up and there are baby twins, laid out on the table, one by mum and the other I assume to be grandma - changing their nappies.

Gross. As I mentioned there are good facilities, easily accessible...and it's not as if the mother was having a nightmare - babies were being quiet, not fussy and she also had grandma to help.

A worker here had a word with them, but seemed to just be laughing how cute they are...

AIBU? I'd personally never do this. I'm not a clean freak by any stretch but my god.

@SellmeyourMLMcrap i don't think you would.

Disgusting!! Was leaving soft play once and staff member was clearing tables and someone had left a nappy on the table to be cleared away. I was horrified but the staff member said it happens all the time. Also getting a potty out everywhere where there are also toilets close by!!

GRIM!

I feel for the next customers who sat at that table

People who think it should ok if it was on mat.... you do know that if you use your travel mat on on change top, and person before you didn’t then you could literally have multiple other kid piss and shit coming into contact with the bottom of the mat and then the table? The main use of a change mat is to make sure your baby has a clean surface to lay on, to a standard to find acceptable.

Also my 7 year old is disabled, can I change his pads on a table? He is just a child. Same piss and shit coming out of him, same body functions.

It’s grim and not ok. Reminds me of a thread years ago where a postman shit in someone’s garden. Some many people thought that was ok too. Some people’s standards are filthy scanky vomit inducing vile.

Sometimes toddlers can't wait if they are being potty trained. We had to whip ours out in public before, not great but we had to leave the house and would have soiled himself otherwise. I understand that as training depends on the child. But who changes even wee on a dining table! That's not pleasant even if you're alone let alone with other customers.

That is vile, and if I'd seen it I wouldn't be using that cafe again (and I'd be telling the staff why).

Totally gross. And I'd put a review on TripAdviser too.

Errrrr postman poo comment, so so gross. Never heard that story thankfully

I think sometimes when people are in the trenches of the baby days they just forget. My friend will change her wee one on her knee wherever we are (including in a cafe the other day) she’s honestly lovely and just doesn’t think about it I think. I agree on the table is pretty gross though.

I saw this a few weeks back in a pub in Covent Garden and was horrified! YANBU

That's a bit grim! 🤢 I was once caught out with a newborn screaming because of a dirty nappy and a line a mile long for the toilets (people were using the disabled/baby change toilet too as the line was so long) so I had to change him in public. However we went to a corner and I did it in the pram with my little change mat on the pram top.

I'd never do it at a table though people have to eat there.

Oh that's vile! Definitely complain. 😮 that people can be so disgusting

disgusting hope the table was bleached after

I was in Wetherspoons once with a family member who was going to change her pfb toddler on the sofa, I have 4dc and was mortified at the thought, I said you can’t do that, people all around us are eating!! Thankfully she disappear to the change room but if I hadn’t of said anything she would of changed him right then and there! The worst I’ve ever done is change a dc in their pram when caught short with no facility’s/in boot of car, certainly wouldn’t entertain changing a child in a eating establishment!

To posters who think it's not a problem ... would you change your mind if the same person did this on your dining table?!

DIRTY!

Put it on Trip Advisor then people will know not to go there for hygiene reasons.

That is disgusting and unhygienic in a cafe. Hope they washed the table afterwards

This is one of my pet hates, for lots of reasons! My daughter is 4 months old and would always go to a baby change, and if there isn't one I usually run her back to the car!

Firstly, it's really unhygienic, people eat off those tables 🤮

Secondly, the poor people in the vacinity at the time, my baby hates being changed and usually screams blue murder, and, if it's a number 2 they can stink!!! No-one needs that while they're tryna have a coffee in peace

Thirdly, I don't wanna have my baby's private parts out in the open for all and sundry to see....again, poor people tryna have their coffee in peace, last thing they wanna be seeing!!

I imagine the couple involved are also the sort that leave a car crash of kids food debris on, under and around the table and a high chair when they leave he cafe too.

I agree it’s unhygienic. I would’ve said something to the staff

I've done it in the pram or the boot of the car when we've been caught out but never where people are eating, usually at these places there are toilets available! Potty training is hard but never in a million years can I imagine anyone thinking whipping a potty out in a cafe is a good idea?

When a place has good changing facilities, absolutely no excuse for it. They are just grim, you have to wonder what the homes must be like

Of course it's not acceptable.

If you want to hear me retch then get ya babys nappy out

bloody disgusting

Pretty sure that the first rule of sanitation is not mixing shit and food.