Oh come on lose the faux naïveté
“But individually, why should another person fund your lifestyle?”
“Because it's our choice - we earned it.”
“I work FT and do all of the admin, school type things you mention. I think you are just making excuses as to why you didn't take the £50k job. Bottom line is, you didn't want to. Which is fine by the way, just don't make excuses about admin, homework etc. Most people manage to do this as well as work full time.” Families who spend more time at home have more that needs done at home. Plus as has been pointed out to you several times, some families contain members/circumstances which mean there’s more to do.
Bit more subtle than other comments but still op straining to make it clear she has ALWAYS earned HER money.
“when I was on maternity leave, I continued to contribute towards the joint accounts as I got maternity pay”
“But, he doesn't get to have an opinion about what I spend MY money on”
“and feel the satisfaction of earning your own money?”
“what stuff? She'll be there 7 hours a day - what are you planning to do, stand outside the school and offer her snacks throughout the day?” This whole post was plain nasty!
The sarcasm and the dismissal of the fact that some children, some families for a number of reasons find that actually the school years can be harder to organise childcare for and for some children can be a time when they need MORE support not less is pretty offensive.
And that opinion compounded here
“Most children I know go to school when they are 4, so fair enough you might stay at home with them until then, but that's only 4 years which is only a small proportion of a working life. Why do you need to 'sacrifice' a whole career just for those early years of children?” For starters 4 years can significantly impact someone’s career so it CAN mean an entire career is sacrificed to parenthood. Then there’s all the reasons myself and others have given why school age children need support and childcare might not be easy or affordable.
“Be honest about it though - it must be through choice or you wouldn’t make that decision” it’s NOT always a choice though, it’s not a choice for parents with disabled children, it’s not a choice for parents where one has a job that limits the other parents working availability (eg my ex was army so I and many military wives have to operate on the fact that you cannot rely on the other parent for childcare at any time as if they’re on duty or exercise or deployed they’re plain not there! So if you work it has to be a job that fits with available childcare which is generally 8-6 Monday to Friday, no weekends, no bank holidays and for employers who don’t mind it always being you that has to take time off if kids are sick etc), it’s not a choice for parents living in areas where childcare is scarce. And I’m sure there are other scenarios I haven’t thought of too, but I’m open minded enough to be aware that every family’s circumstances are different.
“and how you need to be at home to do all the housework and admin - as that really doesn’t take all day every day!!” again depends on each family and their circumstances.
And that’s not including the deleted posts which I can make a fair guess at what was said from others comments!
So cut out the disingenuous claim that you haven’t disparaged sahms.
You’re like a child saying “but I didn’t say that swear word” when they did say it but in a pig Latin type way that they think was clever enough for them to be able to deny what they said when they did say it!
You have throughout disparaged not only sahm but also part time working mums, anyone you consider doesn’t “pay their way”.
You’re clearly one of those people that attaches far too much meaning to money and not enough meaning to the non monetary ways in which people contribute to their families and indeed wider society.