To ask for a brief history of netmums/mumsnet politics

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I keep reading about the Troubles on netmums, how mumsnet is becoming like netmums, and people referred to as netmum types.

I've never been on netmums and have only been here about a year. Can someone enlighten me on key differences...and these mysterious troubles?

Dont worry hun just do whats best for you and babs. Sparkles and rainbows
Xxx

That should help with the differences...

I think mumsnet has become a bit shit used to have a read most days but I'd say in the last year's its become a bit like a That's Life! magazine problem page. I don't come on here much now as a result.

I don’t know what these recent ‘troubles’ are either? Interest somewhat piqued, but I’m prepared to find out that it’s just some stirring and there’s not actually anything wrong at all!

Ah well, it’s all very silly really, but it is interesting I admit!

Thanks Volcanion that does help. Might explain why I've never been to netmums.

Troubles...?

When anyone accuses Mumsnet of being middle class:

Actually, I come to Mumsnet because it's a diverse place, so many different kinds of people on different incomes etc etc.

When anyone mentions Netmums:

Bunch of plebby hunbots, how dare they come here with their xxxx, Netmums is >>> hun.

I come to Mumsnet because on the whole the standard of discourse here is far, far higher than most other internet forums. That comes with a side effect of predominantly m/c backgrounds, and people who think my £52k income is 'not that high'.

Meh. I can live with that.

Netmums had glitter and sparkles, colourful tickers to keep tally of the glorious days their bubz has been here.
Mumsnet had none of that frippary, gin and useful tips on getting shit out of curtains.

Now the two tribes meet.

I don't come on here much now as a result.

yet has responded to the OP within 10 mins of it being posted

If you have been there, you don't need to ask...

Can't the two sites live and let live and co-exist without bitching about each other?

(I've never been to NetMums and hadn't even realised two different sites existed - but I really dislike tribalism and mockery)

I've just looked at Netmums for the first time in years. Someone signs off their post as "2 x caesarean mama". That tells you all you need to know!

I went onto netmums first, then read some DV apologist shit on how a poster needed to look at her own behaviour and work out what her DH's triggers were so she could avoid it.

I left and came here. Left my shitty ex as a result and now much happier.

Netmums is all babes and huns, MN is all cunts and fuckers

@Stickysnot - Netmums is all babes and huns, MN is all cunts and fuckers

I've never been on netmums but someone said on here a few months ago that it had ceased to be?

I never post on here

They discussed this in a session on feminism and social media that teen DD attended at school and concluded that NM users define themselves first and foremost as mothers, whilst for MN users their status as a parent is almost incidental. I'm very new here and have never visited NM so don't know how true this is but it seems like a interesting distinction.

I've never been to NetMums and hadn't even realised two different sites existed - but I really dislike tribalism and mockery

I have no problem with Nethuns. As long as the style of posting stays over there...

Seriously ever forum has its own style, generally you find one that suits you. I know one that used to autocorrect any form of text speak to stuff you really didnt mean to say. So in a way it is tribal, you find your people and get on with the conventions of whatever forum you pick. Light but fair moderating with an emphasis on free speech has always been Mumsnet hallmarks.

Mumsnet really hasnt changed much in the 10 years Ive been here. Feminism talks more about trans and less about porn, SN boards talk less about ABA. But otherwise many posts could have been posted just as easily 10 years ago as today.

(Settles down to gossip) I think there was some issues with the running of nethuns, either there was a swathe of bans or they had a series of technical issues, im not sure. It led to a suddun leakage of huns across mumsnet and xxx. It has led to abit of a reasserting of mumsnet conventions, it Will settle back down. Tbh its a whole lot softer than it used to be, mention hun in a post 10 years ago and the whole point of whatever you meant to say would be lost, didnt matter how serious. The only way to get a serious response would be to repost without the offending Hun or xxx Now you will get reasonable replies to the point of the post... im worried it only encourages it though...

NM users define themselves first and foremost as mothers, whilst for MN users their status as a parent is almost incidental.

Yes very much so last time i was there (about 10 years ago)

I love the capitalised "Troubles".

They discussed this in a session on feminism and social media that teen DD attended at school and concluded that NM users define themselves first and foremost as mothers, whilst for MN users their status as a parent is almost incidental. I'm very new here and have never visited NM so don't know how true this is but it seems like a interesting distinction.

I find this fascinating actually, because although my son is one of my top 3 priorities, first and foremost I am Bob, and I try to do something daily to remind me I am a person in my own right (I fail epically most days, but occasionally I'm successful)

You get banned for swearing over there which is why I don’t fucking like it.

These threads used to happen all the time and there would be bunfights!
I used to be on Netmums. I noticed that trolls thrived over there as they would be taken seriously and be supplied with endless fap fodder. There was one poster I really respected although we didn't always agree.
Towards the end, the amount of victim blaming and misogyny was disgusting and absolutely sanctioned by the mods. I made sure I was well and truly banned, it was depressing and intolerable being over there.

Swearing. It’s censored on NM. Also, people seem to get banned on NM for reasons I’m not sure of, then register here where swearing and being opinionated are encouraged rather than frowned upon .

I joined both at the same time, newly pregnant. Stayed here because I trust the advice more and if I'm being an idiot the good folk of MN will tell me so, tell me why and back it up with peer-reviewed journal articles.

Full sentences and proper spellings, decent political and feminist discourse, friendships that grow into real life, mountains of wisdom and support. I likes it here, I do.