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To ask for a brief history of netmums/mumsnet politics

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Springfern · 17/10/2019 11:15

I keep reading about the Troubles on netmums, how mumsnet is becoming like netmums, and people referred to as netmum types.

I've never been on netmums and have only been here about a year. Can someone enlighten me on key differences...and these mysterious troubles?

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Cuddlysnowleopard · 17/10/2019 13:32

Cricle I'm sure it does, and the intentions were right, it's just the rubbish that followed.

YouokHun · 17/10/2019 13:35

Nethuns is just a massive multilevel marketing market place and recruitment ground from what I can see.

5foot5 · 17/10/2019 13:36

I am concerned. I have seen gin mentioned twice on this thread but I am not sure from the context whether we are meant to be for and against.

Please someone reassure me I am not in the wrong place Confused Gin

5foot5 · 17/10/2019 13:36

for or against

SnuggyBuggy · 17/10/2019 13:36

That "Good Enough Parenting" campaign must have been interesting

RolytheRhino · 17/10/2019 13:38

I have seen gin mentioned twice on this thread but I am not sure from the context whether we are meant to be for and against

For, generally. Unless you're in the 'tryers to be dryers' or other alcohol dependency support threads.

Personally, I can't stand the stuff.

TomHagenMakesMyBosomTremble · 17/10/2019 13:40

@5foot5 - I think MN are for, if the Gin is anything to go by. Plus empty bottles can be used as Molotov cocktails against invading NetHuns

elprup · 17/10/2019 13:41

Mumsnet really shouldnt be defined by Anyfucker

I’ve been lurking/posting on here for a wee while now and don’t think I’ve ever come across a poster by that name. I must move in the wrong MN circles!

I am not sure from the context whether we are meant to be for and against.

Definitely for I’d say, @5foot5 Grin

NoDontLookAtMeImShy · 17/10/2019 13:43

I think the OP is asking why there's issues Over There which is why they have infiltrated Here.

Apparently there was trouble with the website and they came over here in the interim and haven't fucking left xx

Sagradafamiliar · 17/10/2019 13:52

Ah that makes sense, No. I was thinking to myself last night that it seems netmummy around here now.

VolcanionSteamArtillery · 17/10/2019 13:57

I’ve been lurking/posting on here for a wee while now and don’t think I’ve ever come across a poster by that name.

She's much less prolific and visible. These days you could easily miss her (if it is the same AF, im not at all convinced). I cant remember the last time i reported her whereas it wasn't unusual to find threads peppered with deleted messages.

Her fans loved her though. Thats one thing MN has sorted. There is far less cults of personalities. Except on Restie on the Christmas bargains thread she is a very well deserved MN legend...

ChardonnaysDistantCousin · 17/10/2019 13:57

I really hope they will sort out their Troubles soon, before someone asks for a sparkly ticker here.

elprup · 17/10/2019 14:00

These days you could easily miss her (if it is the same AF, im not at all convinced).

I suppose it must be the same person if the username is spelt/formatted exactly the same?

FudgeBrownie2019 · 17/10/2019 14:02

I've been here for 7 years now and still find it odd that every so often a poster creeps in with xxx on the end of a post, or a 'hun' snuck in. It's just not that sort of place most of the time.

I have a few different sets of friends; my favourite ones are the ones who'll tell me if I look a twat and call me out on my bullshit. Mumsnet is an online version of that. It's more blunt than some might like but it's probably one of the most enlightened places online at the minute; all kinds of tomfoolery is called out, recognised and addressed.

I also love that Mumsnet users are predominantly not the women who use words like "hubalub" in any kind of sentence. It is a word for arseholes.

Inthemoment38 · 17/10/2019 14:02

Aaaargh... Just wandered over to netmums to have a look.

They have got their name "netmums" written in a babyish/ comic sans style font and in the first 2 posts I read something was "meant to be" and someone referred to sex as gender

No no no no no

ibanez0815 · 17/10/2019 14:08

and someone referred to sex as gender

MN is just as guilty of that!!!

Inthemoment38 · 17/10/2019 14:10

True but someone usually picks up on it and an enlightening discussion ensues??

TottieandMarchpane · 17/10/2019 14:18

Just spend a couple of hours over there.

Spend a couple of hours here.

Compare and contrast.

If NMs is too saccharine for you, congratulations you have taste.

However there are no “Troubles”, no war or armed conflict.

It’s just that they’re unbearable.

InsertFunnyUsername · 17/10/2019 14:20

Well I am only on MN, I visited NM a couple of times and couldn't get on with the hun babe xxx etc

But I wouldn't admit to being on MN either. Neither of them scream highly intelligent to me tbh, just a forum.

Faircastle · 17/10/2019 14:21

if I'm being an idiot the good folk of MN will tell me so, tell me why and back it up with peer-reviewed journal articles.
Grin
I find that Mumsnet has a good balance - support when needed but also people who will question and challenge when necessary. If I wanted unconditional validation, I would go elsewhere.

GimmeBread · 17/10/2019 14:24

Then you're not fucking drinking it right @RolytheRhino 🤨😀

saraclara · 17/10/2019 14:27

Do we really have to slag other women off?

As I didn't know the site I just spent half an hour reading over there. And as far as I can tell, any reports of cutesiness are highly exaggerated.
I only looked on a few branches, but as far as I could tell they're just women with the same sort of mothering and relationship issues as on here. They're just a bit more gentle.
It's fine to prefer this place. No-one needs to slag the other one off to prove a point.

Give them a break.

CAG12 · 17/10/2019 14:27

@FudgeBrownie2019 "hubalub" had me lolling. Is this same kind of thing as "hubby"?

I cant stand that word

DickKerrLadies · 17/10/2019 14:32

When Jeffreygate happened a few of us decamped to NM for a few hours. We were tolerated as they knew we'd fuck off soon enough. Someone was getting round the swear filter which was a little amusing but it was fun playing spot the MNer.

They discussed this in a session on feminism and social media that teen DD attended at school and concluded that NM users define themselves first and foremost as mothers, whilst for MN users their status as a parent is almost incidental. I'm very new here and have never visited NM so don't know how true this is but it seems like a interesting distinction.

There's at least some truth in that.

It is very middle class here in general but I don't mind that, because I think it's just easier to notice. If you need help with benefits, or you're actually skint (real skint) then you'll find support here. Equally, if you need advice on private schools, you'll find it. And everything in between.

Those that accuse MN of being a hive mind haven't spent much time on AIBU IMO!

NoDontLookAtMeImShy · 17/10/2019 14:32

Hang on - who's slagging them?

No ones saying they are twats or arseholes.

No ones even saying that are of lower intelligence as accused on another thread.

Simply that the posting style is very different. The replies are different. The sentiment is different.
That's what's nice about having two parenting forums. Not all folk are the same.

It's pointing out differences not slagging anyone off.