To ask for a brief history of netmums/mumsnet politics

[Springfern]

I keep reading about the Troubles on netmums, how mumsnet is becoming like netmums, and people referred to as netmum types.

I've never been on netmums and have only been here about a year. Can someone enlighten me on key differences...and these mysterious troubles?

There are significant differences between the two camps. From what I can gather, the main differences are as follows:
Outlook,
Average income,
Use of fucking swear words,
Ticker-things at the bottom of a message,
Glittery shit- 💖💖💖🦄🦄 XXX,
Hunning,
Hubbies,
Bubbas called names such as Evie-Mae and Jaden-Clarke to whom one has been a "mumma" for 7,678 and 3,298 days 💖💖, IQ points,
Common sense,
Gin.

I've only tried netmums once while I was on a compulsory break from mnet.
I found the language disgusting.
Oh and I got a ban first day second post

Stickysnot

Net-mums is all babes and huns, MN is all cunts and fuckers

It’s all much of a muchness these days.

Also, people seem to get banned on NM for reasons I’m not sure of, then register here where swearing and being opinionated are encouraged rather than frowned upon

...which leads to a thread a week about how there’s too much swearing on MN and the posters are meeeeaaaannn and horrible and everyone should just be nicer cos the sisterhood and mummies should support each other whatever the issue. Oh and asking why non mummies are on here

and every poster has a first name and the initial of the surname as their username. Anyfuckers there aren't!

@TheQueef "shit out of curtains". I proper sniggered at that! 😂

The SN boards are a lot closer to the SN boards here. I think probably the more specific topic boards are similar. Just with more xxx and huns.

Tbh i do think Mumsnet have it pretty spot on. I recently tried the trip advisor forum boards. My god they can be absolutely brutal, i found myself looking for the "report" (personal attack) button only to remember it isn't mumsnet so its not there. Posters who are perfectly reasonable on one post absolute twats if they feel you've asked a stipid question l.So much for MN being a nest of vipers....

Mumsnet has @AnyFucker.

That’s all you need to know.

@Chillyourbeans I love that your daughter is studying this in school!

I was banned from Netmums for saying I didn't like the name Shakira

Other posters are available. I'm not even sure the hero-worship AF receives even sits comfortably with her since she doesn't react to it. There are so many posters who give valuable advice and take the time to share their own experiences then some fangirl will come on and say, 'yeah, what AF said!' even if her post was a sentence long.

@ibanez0815 - I know the internet and MN are not as anonymous as one may think, but I've always found NetHuns (on my brief fact finding forays) really odd in that regard. I know you could give a false name etc (and perhaps some of them do) but I think they mostly use their real details, given the ticker tape antics. Seeing the anonymity preserving lengths people go to on here to talk about sensitive topics like DV, their gas lighting families, PND, recurrent thrush, sex problems, even just to post funny stories or complain that their Dd isn't Mary in the nativity, I don't see how NM works?

If I was Katy J, mum to my wonderful little monkeys Jason 6 and Mia 3, Wifey to Steve, not sure I'd want to then mention that Steve hits me. I'd feel SO identifiable. Even if I did make a new acc or change my details, it must be easy to spot people?

@Sagradafamiliar

There’re about 3 or 4 other regular posters like AF who give plain, simple and (more importantly) good advice and say it like it is. I quite like reading their replies.

Which site has more people from outside of the UK posting? I’ve always found a comfortable amount here.

Really, Bez
I found it hard to get banned, even 'personal attacks' (towards victim blamers, nothing regrettable) and swearing all the time didn't do it. They just kept giving me friendly warnings.
Troll hunting was what did it in the end.

Sagradafamiliar

Im glad someone else said it. Mumsnet
Really shouldnt be defined by Anyfucker and i dont think anyfucker is actually at all representative of most of Mumsnet. Im not even convinced the Anyfucker now is the same Anyfucker of days past.

Exactly, smellbow.

I had thought the same, Volcanion.
It's the blind reverence I just don't 'get'. I don't get it. Nothing against her. Maybe she doesn't get it, either.

There are many posters who give good advice, whittling it down to 3 or 4 seems very limiting.

Also, many people are regulars but frequently name change.

@Sagradafamiliar

Thank goodness someone said that. I've seen a few hero-worshippy posts on here recently and it's all a bit cringey tbh.

I have to say, I've been around long enough to remember the days of MN 'royalty' and AnyFucker certainly never acts like royalty even though she's treated that way. I respect her for that.

(And am aware I'm now treating her like royalty by referencing her in a thread...)

I never pay any attention to the name of the poster, just the content. I only notice the name if they're persistently trying to derail a thread and getting on everyone's nerves.

Not really understanding the hero worship of specific posters, the person mentioned hasn't posted anything that I've thought was particularly outstanding.

I was on Netmums many years ago, and lots of us crossed over both forums in those days (very easy to recognise posters, and often the same thread would be posted in both).

I even have a quote in one of their books

I left when they had their 'Good Enough" parenting campaign. It just seemed to give parents reason a to justify truly crap parenting.

Cuddly that does actually have a sound psychological basis... if handled correctly... that's the issue

I was on Netmums many years ago, and lots of us crossed over both forums in those days

I often feel like I missed out when I hear about these times, when the Internet was so much smaller. It's like the beginning of a story, when the elves and the dwarves all lived in harmony together.