To call out everyone who puts kisses on their post xxxxxx?

[NoDontLookAtMeImShy]

It's really annoying. It's making Mumsnet something it isn't.

All these posts from "Mummytojakeandkayleighxx"
Ooh I love that hun xx

Makes me feel like flouncing.
But I still get loads of out of being here.

But the Troubles in Netmums have bought it all over here.

These constant threads about how much MNers hate the word ‘hun’ are 100x more irritating than the word itself.

I’ve got very close ‘hun’ friends who are teachers and accountants so it doesn’t correlate with intelligence at all.

Get over yourself love.

At no point did I suggest that hunning equals lower intelligence.

Honestly from what I've seen on this forum, it appears that everyone over at netmums do not come across as inverted snobs or aspirational

Hmm. I see what you're saying to a point. As a new Mumsnetter a couple of years back I tried to adapt to the social customs and cultural practices I observed from regular users. So I may give or, if overwhelmed by sympathy, an 'unmumsnetty hug' to posters in need of a bit of support. And it took a long time for me to venture into the verbal mosh-pit that is AIBU because it became clear early on that it isn't a place focussed on being nice and that no one will pull any punches there, or sugar-coat anything. I think any new users expecting that to change are being fundamentally unreasonable. When in Rome, you do as the Romans do.

As for xxx at the end of a post, that's a habit some folk get into when typing, so I wouldn't get upset about it (plus, life is too short). As for Hun, it always makes me think of Attila, which is amusing enough for me not to care.

*text-based, not verbal

So you think an 'unmumsnetty hug' is better. I never understood that, if anything it is very mumsnetty written all the time.. Just shorten it to hug ffs.

I never understood that, if anything it is very mumsnetty smile written all the time

I believe it's an acknowledgement that some more senior posters prefer Mumsnet to be a far more matter-of-fact sort of place. Though, thinking about it, I did send a generic hug to a poster recently. Sometimes the situation calls for it.

@NoDontLookAtMeImShy

Have a nice day darlin xxxx

What is a more senior poster

What is a more senior poster?

Someone who's been around MN longer. Like the OP, who's been here for ages and is lamenting a change in the direction the site has recently taken.

@flouncyfanny 😂

'Senior poster'? Laughable. And true to the MN of about seven years ago.

I've never used netmums. Tried it once, had to run and hide.

I might occasionally have added a x or sent an unmumsnetty hug. Sometimes people write with such pathos that readers really want to send them comfort and reassurance. Those threads, hugs and kisses or no, show MNers at their best.

I didn't realize there was a hierarchy here

I don't think there is per se. Senior in terms of length of service, if you like, rather than in terms of authority.

I don't think there is a hierarchy, or at least this thread isn't alluding to one.

This is just about what MN is, or how it is, or was.

As mentioned in the other thread now running, NM is huns, bubs, huns and kisses which is why I fucking hate it don't use that forum.
I use this forum because it's straight forward, say it how it is, and you don't get banned for swearing like you're at school.

And the nethuns and changing that.

But in the old days someone would post in AIBU with something fairly run of the mill and they'd get absolutely pulled apart by the 'clique'. It felt like there was some kind of call to arms and they'd show up and pile on. Now there's a wider range of people that doesn't happen anymore and that is a bloody good thing.

Some of the old 'straight talking' people talk about on here was pure bullying and it wasn't pleasant at all.

I strongly disagree!!

Every thread is pulled apart!

See my above example of someone being really ill but a poster thought it was adequate to pull her up on her wording and make her feel bad.

NoDontLookAtMeImShy

You can't make a forum be what you want it to be or how it apparently used to be.

Things change all the time and with forums you either like it or lump it. Or flounce I suppose.

No i can't.

But I can complain about it. and it will change nothing.

Hey Nethuns, can you at least keep your kisses in Chat and leave AIBU to what it always has been?

And then there is straight talking and the posters who spend their lives shredding everybody to pieces on a daily basis and hide under straight talking.

Threads like this one surely is 'I'm so much better, and have been here much longer, so know the correct way'.

Make room for everybody please.

Some of the old 'straight talking' people talk about on here was pure bullying and it wasn't pleasant at all.

I agree about 'straight talking' being used to describe bullies. I'm not convinced it's improved that much. The clique are still here, I think even with changed usernames, you can sometimes identify certain writing styles. The wider range of people diluted them a bit though which is a good thing.

You’re upset because people are nice to other people? That’s really sad. What do you mean it’s ‘making Mumsnet something it isn’t’? It’s meant to be a website for people to support one another and chat. I don’t see how putting kisses at the end of any messages can really affect that. It’s also really snobby for you to make fun of the way other people talk...

YABU. And YABVU for saying ‘call out’. Hate that phrase. Just a way for people to obnoxiously bleat out their opinions while acting as though they’re somehow morally superior for holding these opinions in the first place. Very annoying.

Anyway. Rant over.