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Should I have shared my garlic bread?

345 replies

RobynsMama · 16/10/2019 18:52

Went to Nando’s with some pals, we all like doing this because we all order what we want separately and there’s no faffing with splitting the bill.

Our orders came, and I ordered garlic bread as my side. I love garlic bread, and I love the bread they put their garlic butter on and it’s my fave thing.

Friends meal arrives, she’s ordered chips and coleslaw as her side, looks forlornly over at my perfect garlic bread and says “I wish I’d ordered the garlic bread now”. Someone else pipes up with “oh you’ll know for next time.” And we all
Laughed.

So I just eat my meal and enjoy my (two slices of) garlic bread. She’s got an absolute face on at the end of the meal and I asked her what was up and she said to me “you could’ve offered me one of your slices of garlic bread instead of gutsing them both”.

I wish I was more mature and I wish that comment hadn’t hurt me but I’m in the middle of a weight loss journey (still treating myself to sinful garlic bread sometimes) I have to say it really shocked me and I’ve been thinking about it ever since (i know iabu because it’s just a comment but still). She made me feel like a right gutsy git.

If it was something like an Indian meal I’d have had no problem sharing bits of everything because that’s the kind of meal it is but with something like Nando’s surely you just pick what you want? Was I right to eat both my pieces of garlic bread or should I have offered to share?

OP posts:
bigmumsymcgraw · 17/10/2019 17:54

Why didnt she just order some when she saw how nice yours was

Sahej · 17/10/2019 17:56

You were obviously in the right but it's ridiculous that you have to ask this question. Your friend is an idiot she could have ordered some it wouldn't have taken long for them to bring it out

Areyoufree · 17/10/2019 17:56

She didn't ask! I hate it when people drop hints about what they want. She didn't say "Can I have some of your garlic bread?" she made a Daily Mail style sad face, and hoped that you would pick up on it. Drives me crazy when people do that - just ask! (Then say no, buy your own).

SpiderCharlotte · 17/10/2019 17:57

Haven't read the full thread as I'm in a rush but YANBU. This is one of my pet hates - she eats her own fucking food not yours!!

Well done on losing weight, I think she used the term 'gutsing' to be horrible. Ignore her and keep doing what you're doing, including enjoying your garlic bread!

gingerbiscuits · 17/10/2019 17:57

Don't give it a 2nd thought - your friend is a twat!!

bobby2step · 17/10/2019 17:58

I was in ikea and I saw a guy with (what I could see was) 10 slices of garlic bread on a plate. That was all.

Living the dream.

Beveren · 17/10/2019 17:59

Didn't you ask her why she didn't order it if she wanted it so much?

CauliflowerBalti · 17/10/2019 17:59

She wanted some of your meal as well as hers... and YOU are the ‘gutsy’ one...? Nah. Get lost.

CountryGirl1234 · 17/10/2019 18:01

“Oh if I’d have known you wouldn’t be satisfied with your own choice I’d have ordered two sides so you wouldn’t have gone without or had to pay for what you wanted, pleased your in a huff about it though and make me feel guilty you childish shit

DanceItOut · 17/10/2019 18:01

I honestly would've replied with "so you wanted both your sides and half of mine but I'm gutsy? Charming!" In an offhand joking way while secretly seething and feeling hurt and offended because I'm very weight and food conscious also. But saying something immediately after loud enough for anyone else will here would make it clear that she was the one being a bit spoilt and bitchy.

CountryGirl1234 · 17/10/2019 18:01

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Pliudev · 17/10/2019 18:02

Well, though I agree with everyone that she could have ordered her own, I think, given that you are trying to lose weight, I would have given her some. But, you know, things like garlic bread get much more special when you are counting syns so I don't blame you at all. And she was rude. I'm very envious, we don't have Nandos where I live so I've never been. My (grown up) DSs seem to think it's very funny when I say I'd like to but I don't know why.

Tessabelle74 · 17/10/2019 18:03

Wow! What a bitch! 😲 You did nothing wrong, I wouldn't share either

Kittyhawksue · 17/10/2019 18:03

You only had two slices, she had a cheek to expect you to give her half. I bet she wouldn't have given you half her chips. Just ignore it.

Hullygully · 17/10/2019 18:03

If my friend said to me oh I wish I'd ordered X, I would have shared because it is the polite and kind thing to do.

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NoSauce · 17/10/2019 18:05

Even if she’d inferred you were “gutsing”? And she had two sides of her own? Sod that.

CampingItUp · 17/10/2019 18:07

I might have offered one bite.

But even if she really hoped you would give her a bite, or a slice, to have a face on by the end of the meal, be sulking and tell you...seriously out of order!

Hullygully · 17/10/2019 18:08

Is that to me NoSauce?

If it was my FRIEND I would happily share. Because I like them and who cares about a piece of garlic bread?

I think attitudes have changed, it seems like this thread is for not sharing in the vast majority. I think it's normal to share.

Emmak789 · 17/10/2019 18:09

If she wanted garlic bread she could have ordered some. If you want to eat the food you paid for...there is nothing wrong with that, she was bloody rude for saying that to you.

NoSauce · 17/10/2019 18:13

Sorry yes Hully it was. I get what you’re saying but being friends is a two way street. A good friend wouldn’t imply you were being greedy just because you’d not offered her any AND she two sides herself.

peachdribble · 17/10/2019 18:13

Remind her next time to order her own!

LH1987 · 17/10/2019 18:14

Cheeky cow! It's not like you had a whole garlic baguette, it was only two pieces. I wouldn't have offered her any either.

LittleMissMe99 · 17/10/2019 18:14

Is your friend 6?

SpaceDinosaur · 17/10/2019 18:15

Oh my good god I need garlic bread now!!!

Once the toddler is asleep I'm going to raid the freezer in case there's some hidden in there!

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