You can just go chong a dong you lil charmer you (Lunch Dramas)

[Amelia2000]

Previous thread here:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3714806-AIBU-over-non-paying-colleague-Lunch-dramas

As yet, still waiting for B to pay the remaining £11.

I'd go with Joxer's suggestion myself - but obviously I don't have to sit opposite her pitiful tear-stained face all day, not look at the photos of her dressage horses wh are going to have to wear last year's bright red "Warning I kick like a bugger!" on their tails because she can't afford new ones for them because you OP are TAKING THEIR MOTHER"S MONEY before you need to and are PROBABLY MAKING A FORTUNE WITH IT BETTING IN CASINOS!

Poor little Chong and Dong probably haven't had a bag of carrots since B was forced (very possibly at gunpoint, by the OP) to pay the £24.

it's going to be REALLY hard to say no to her if she does pay me the money up front?

Trouble is, you obviously find it hard to refuse her even if she hasn't paid, otherwise you'd have refused to let her order last Friday ... which is why HR's suggestion of ending the whole thing may have been wise

Really pleased you had time to update about the part-payment just as Thread 1 was finishing, though ...

As she wafts away the moths, blinking in the unaccustomed light and flying clumsily into filing cabinets etc poor things

photos of her dressage horses who are going to have to wear last year's bright red "Warning I kick like a bugger!" on their tails because she can't afford new ones

On a side note, can I nominate Schadenfreude as the thread winner for these brilliant mental images?

I thought the text was okay too, but maybe I'm also a sap.

@itswinetime it's more of a "store card" type set up but for employees and friends, it's not something that you can just get from Natwest etc for example.

Soooo... I've sent my text. You may think I'm fluffy but I do actually have to work with these people, I'd rather not add to any atmosphere. Damage control over here! Also I think if I piss her off anymore I'm unlikely to ever get my bloody money .

With agreement from all the others, if I still haven't got anything from her by Friday, I won't be ordering any lunch for anyone (in the hope that she feels bad that she is ruining it for everyone). I will just say that it is on HR's advice, which is the truth anyway. E and others have all agreed that they can then get involved to hopefully get my money back, and say "FFS B, you are ruining it for us all now, pay Amelia".

If she pays up before then, we can just go back to lunching but payment up front.

It shouldn't be hard.

If she pays up front she gets lunch and if she doesn't then she gets no lunch.

Just like all the rest of the office staff! No one person is different from any other person which means there is no allusion of unfair treatment.

Everyone has been prewarned of the new rules (food order only after payment) and if they want to participate in the discount they all follow them and if they don't then they have made a choice through their actions that they do dot want to participate and therefore they make alternative arrangements.

If she pays up front she gets lunch and if she doesn't then she gets no lunch.

This, exactly.

Aaaw!

< blushing furiously >

Thank you, Puzzled

I will just say that it is on HR's advice, which is the truth anyway.

This is rather nice, actually.

It lets her know that HR are aware that she is a thieving twat somewhat unreliable colleague, and that if there is an atmosphere, she is the one responsible.

if I still haven't got anything from her by Friday, I won't be ordering any lunch for anyone

And if you get nothing, don't forget to warn everyone (except her) on Thursday evening that there is no discount lunch, so they will know to bring in a sandwich.

There was another thread last week (coincidentally also over £35 owed) where the person who owed it kept offering to pay insultingly different lower amounts, and the OP kept repeating “you owe £35”, and eventually the CF got their partner to pay £34.99 into OP’s bank (also because they ‘couldn't’ bank transfer).

Coincidentally, my CF DBro also owes me £35 from last bloody November. He's a cheeky fucker and my DM sticks up for him, 'well can't afford it all in one go as his exgf is taking all his money in CSA' - Erm hang on a minute, he works full time, travels abroad regularly for FOOTBALL & lives at home paying minimum board. As a result I don't do anything for any of them - all spoiled by one individual. I have a mortgage, child, house to run, car to run and I can't afford to sub his lifestyle.

OP, Please stop lunch club before it happens again, burnt once and all that!

I'd keep ordering for her but get her sandwich ridiculously wrong. Can you choose your own sandwich fillings? Tuna, egg and horseradish? Chilli sauce and Flora?

@JoxerGoesToStuttgart 🤣 maybe it’s a regional thing? But which region I wonder? 🧐

I actually cant believe the cheek of her!

@Amelia2000. Thank you I will stop looking for a way to get cheap food now

I hope you get your money back without having to spoil the treat for everyone

She has had no qualms about her cfuckery though as she?

a new Thread, thank gawd.. I thought I'd lost you guys

Shes a CF of the highest order, I thought ordering food when she hadn't paid was the cherry on top but only paying in part was the bloodt cherry, whipped cream and 99 flake on top!

maybe it’s a regional thing? But which region I wonder

I also wonder- mainly so I can be sure to avoid it

When you go.in with the "I'm only doing it if I get paid up front" she'll try and argue about you not actually paying it off until the end of the month so why should she pay early?

This is when you need to be firm. Something along the lines of "It's not a charity B, I was trying to do a nice thing and you've taken advantage of it. I'm the one doing it, I get to decide how it works. Pay now or don't be a part of it anymore. That's the bottom line."

She is playing control games with you OP. Paying just enough to look like she is complying but ignoring your request to pay everything up to date! what a saddo this CF is!

a new Thread, thank gawd.. I thought I'd lost you guys

Get sat down Bumble - there's quite a bot on here already and you'll need to get comfy

@Amelia2000 very glad you're going down the bank transfer route, having cash in your desk that might get stolen by cheeky fuckers who don't bother paying debts makes you a bit vulnerable.

• And when she texts back

" but I'll pay end of month like normal..."

Text I AM NOT YOUR BANK BITCH!!!!!!! *

REALLY made me laugh

I reckon she's up to her neck in debt. All fur coat and no knickers as my dad used to say. Not an excuse, she needs to pay. Two dressage horses wouldn't have been cheap to buy, at full livery you're talking circa £500 a week for each (or you are where I live) plus all the expenses of insurance, entry fees for competitions, diesel for either the horse box or towing vehicle, plus she seems to like the good life, ie posh car and designer clothes. I worked with someone like this, all flash cars, designer handbags and my horse this, my horse that, and was always scrounging at work, just little things like forgetting to pay in the tea fund, forgetting her card if we went out for a group meal etc. we both had horses - I had one allrounder I kept modestly, did most of the work myself at a local yard, she had two show jumpers at a top notch yard she couldn't afford. She did a runner from there and was barred from a lot of yards in the area. Long story short - was made bankrupt in the end!