You can just go chong a dong you lil charmer you (Lunch Dramas)

[Amelia2000]

Previous thread here:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3714806-AIBU-over-non-paying-colleague-Lunch-dramas

As yet, still waiting for B to pay the remaining £11.

I have internet banking but can’t remember my details. But I do have paypal but if someone was ordering me lunch I’d make sure I’d have cash. I wouldn’t walk into a shop and just help myself to a sandwich saying I’d pay them at the end of the month.

Glad you got all your money back in the end op.

HR emailed her yesterday asking her to come in to see them as soon as she arrived and they told her to sort it out. The cheerfulness was a mask, as was her response to you. If she sorted her internet banking yesterday, then she could have sent you the money then, and if she intended to give it to you today, she would have brought in the cash and given it straight to you as soon as she came in. She had no intention of paying you today, until HR pulled her up on it.

I think this too. She's been sorted out, professionally and fully. Serves her right.

I don't have internet banking, but I do have PayPal an use cash points.

Glad you have your money back. PLEASE, OP, do not buy her or anyone a lunch (if HR lets you keep the club) unless you have the money first.

I think she got a little bit of a talking to from HR.

If you're reading this, B, you're a megatwat.

Did no one else thing chong a dong sounded very sexual and/or racist??!

@itreallyisanicefence it IS sexual. It means eat a willy.

Yeah, she got a bollocking!
Nobody in that context is that chipper unless faking it.

I agree with Blobby

I suspect that in order to take a day off at very short notice and without leaving any notes regarding her work* she told the directors/HR whatever, that there was a family emergency of some sort and she really^ had to leave that very minute.

Then you breeze in, apologise if there's an atmosphere and explains why.

HR aren't bothered about her debts (with the best will in the world it's not their concern), but they are bothered that she is causing problems in the workplace, and that she has most probably LIED through her teeth in order to get some time off at short notice.

This is something they will come down on like a ton of bricks.

Doubtless she came out with "Oh, but they are all cruel to me, and I have two horses to keep and no spare cash, and I always pay eventually - every time a pig flies past the window i pay something towards my debts " sort of thing, and they've said "Tough shit. You're here to work. Stop whinging, pay your debts, get back to your desk. We want to see all of your faces happy and smiling again. A debt-free office is a productive office. Or piss off."

And as she reached for the door handle "Oh - B!" "Yes?" "Don't pull this crap again. Lie to us once more and you're on a written warning. Shut the door after you."

And take Drum's advice about the tea . . .

I'm glad this is sorted Amelia. Please don't worry that she could use this thread against you. You cam on for advice, have revealed nothing identifying either with regard to her, or to your employers, and you haven't been rude or unkind about her - we may have, but you have been a perfect lady (). There is nothing to identify - and in the unlikely event that she has seen this and complained about it (I really don't think she has) any HR rep who skimmed the content would just say to her - if you don't like what people are saying, don't read the posts.

The only thing that is personal is that she likes nice clothes and dancing horses. It would be hard to narrow it down from that.

OP, you cannot just sign off from this thread!
We need to know what happens on Friday, we need to know what HR said and if you also get called in.

To be fair to HR, their advice to stop it was probably for the best as they can’t be dealing with this sort of non work but work type of disputes as it’s not set up through the company!
HR could set up a credit card and offer it out for people to use and just deduct the money each month from their pay (but this is probably too much of a faff for them)

Yep, it's racist, Really. Doesn't seem to bother everyone slapping their thighs in hilarity though.

@Sagradafamiliar How is it racist? Perhaps you can educate us. I am asking genuinely because I'm not aware of it meaning anything else other than a sexual pun (as I learnt on this thread)

Chong a dong does sound like the racist ‘ching chong’ people come out with to mock the Chinese language or Chinese people.

I can’t see anything remotely funny about it

But different things do sound like other things though. I'm still asking this genuinely, not trying to start.

If the origin is racist, then consider me no longer partaking of it even if it doesn't mean it now but if its racists because it sounds like a different racist term meanwhile that has never been what it means, surely that would apply to a lot of things.

I have always know the word "dong" as one of the numerous names for willy. So is chong the word of contention here or the whole phrase?

I haven't googled it because I assumed it would bring up inappropriate searches and dont want google using that to show me "relevant ads".

Well the internet says Chong a dong means small Chinese penis, so yes, racist.

By the way, I have never and would never mock anyone or anything. I see no reason why anyone or any language should be mocked at all, so I am really asking to know what the issue is.

Oh wow! I'm so sorry. I knew it was sexual but didn't know it included nationality. I will stop now. I will also ask MN to delete where I wrote it in jest.

I think it originated from the troll who was blistering on about shitting ears too...

Good luck, OP I hope that B's nasty behaviour didn't extend to complaining to HR about you "bullying" her. Even though she doesn't have a leg to stand on, I know it's horrible being complained about.

You seem like a lovely colleague and I hope things calm down a bit for you. and

Fingers crossed we won't be needing to hear from you on Friday Amelia. 😁

@CallMeRachel Just from the context alone, I took it to mean what I wrote earlier because it seemed pretty obvious but Oh well, I have reported my own posts where I wrote something about it. Hopefully MM will take them down. Don't want to be in that wagon even by omission if I can help it

Did no one else thing chong a dong sounded very sexual and/or racist??!

I do, but I'm in the US so I know words are used differently here.

MN*

@HEMammajamma don't worry about it, many posters have used the phrase innocently without any racist intent.

If Mn deem it racist I'm sure half this thread will be zapped as it's seemed to have become a new phrase.

Don't mind Sagradafamiliar. They call EVERYTHING racist

I was thinking it means this whole thread would be taken down then because it's everywhere, even the title!