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Original poster

You can just go chong a dong you lil charmer you (Lunch Dramas)

719 replies

Amelia2000 · 14/10/2019 13:14

Previous thread here:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3714806-AIBU-over-non-paying-colleague-Lunch-dramas

As yet, still waiting for B to pay the remaining £11.

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Sushiroller · 15/10/2019 09:01

Literally be super breezy right back. As you ar egoing past just say "Morning B! How are things? Grin"

She is trying to unnerve you...

BrightYellowDaffodil · 15/10/2019 09:02

My money is on either her claiming bullying and getting short shrift from HR because they know the background, or HR having called her in to tell her to stop her shitty behaviour or else.

Either way, this isn’t your problem OP. Worst case scenario is the end of lunch club Smile

myusernamewastakenbyme · 15/10/2019 09:04

@Amelia2000....I would be livid if B had done this to me...I would no longer include her in the lunch club even if she pays the rest of the money....It is hassle you dont need....fwiw once she owed me more than a week id have not bought her any more lunches....

NoSquirrels · 15/10/2019 09:07

You've done nothing wrong, OP. Just stick to your guns about the new rules, and act as breezy back as you can.

coconutpie · 15/10/2019 09:07

I'd say she's faking the happy mood. Did you update HR that she paid part of her debt but not the remainder? Are you going to confront her about the lack of payment?

Original poster
Amelia2000 · 15/10/2019 09:09

I've just said "Oh B I've got your money for the lunches for last month, but as I mentioned last week, I will need everything up front now as I'm having trouble keeping track of everything". She has just said "Oh OK that's absolutely fine, I set up my internet banking yesterday whilst I was off so I can do it right now". And she has. And I have my £11.

Do you think she's seen this?

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QueenofallIsee · 15/10/2019 09:10

I think it’s more likely that she had taken advice and been told in no uncertain terms that she is out of order.

NoSquirrels · 15/10/2019 09:11

Also OP - you don't need to say anything to her. You sent her a text outlining it. So you can leave it till Thursday, if you like, and then remind her everyone that it's bank transfer up front from now on and all outstanding money to be paid before you'll order.

You don't need to do anything for MN hordes or for your colleague E if you would rather leave it til Thursday.

BackOnceAgainWithABurnerEmail · 15/10/2019 09:11

Bollock did she not have internet banking. HR have called her in and she’s acting her way out of it.

No apology I notice!

BadLad · 15/10/2019 09:11

E is trying to get me to say something to her

We're all trying to get you to say something to her.

"Where's my 11 quid, you feckin thief".

BananasAreTheSourceOfEvil · 15/10/2019 09:11

Say Chong a dong really loudly and watch for her reaction. If she’s seen this... you’ll know and you can just give her a knowing nod.

NoSquirrels · 15/10/2019 09:12

X-post. Result!

I too think she's been bollocked by HR.

BadLad · 15/10/2019 09:12

Cross post

billy1966 · 15/10/2019 09:13

OP, you were doing a favour for your colleague's.

You have done nothing wrong.

If HR say anything to you, ask them to explain what the problem is.

Do not accept any responsibility for her repeatedly ignoring your request for payment.

This is not your bad.

💐

prettyretro · 15/10/2019 09:14

Say Chong a dong really loudly and watch for her reaction. If she’s seen this... you’ll know and you can just give her a knowing nod.

^^ this!! 😂😂😂

Ps delurking and have been following from first thread! Glad you have your money back!

NamechangeWhatFor · 15/10/2019 09:14

Wow, she has one brass neck. "Oh OK that's absolutely fine" as though you're the one being difficult!
She's probably gone to HR to complain about you and been told to sort it out right now. And always had internet banking.

I did wonder if she had a job interview yesterday and was hedging her bets.

Pinkyyy · 15/10/2019 09:14

Chances are that HR told her that they would instruct you to stop it altogether. Great result really, she's paid and there's no bad atmosphere! Yet

AdoreTheBeach · 15/10/2019 09:16

Now we all know there isn’t enough information on this thread to actually identify the CF (nor where they work) but do wonder if the CF has read the thread and went to HR to complain about it as being identifying and a form of cyber bullying?

hellsbellsmelons · 15/10/2019 09:16

Thank goodness for that.
Hopefully you can all now put this behind you and move forward and be friends etc.....
Well done on sorting out and not taking any shit.
Let's hope she has learned something from this and doesn't mess others about with money. Especially when she's getting a good deal anyway thanks to you.

Blanca87 · 15/10/2019 09:17

I think B has seen this goes by user name @MadameButterface

Blanca87 · 15/10/2019 09:18

*and

BuzzShitbagBobbly · 15/10/2019 09:18

Yeah, she got a bollocking!
Nobody in that context is that chipper unless faking it.

HR told her to sort her shit out no mistake.

BrightYellowDaffodil · 15/10/2019 09:19

I reckon the smiley niceness is to try and cover up her embarrassment in being pulled up on her behaviour?

Marinetta · 15/10/2019 09:21

@AdoreTheBeach I also have concerns regarding her reporting this thread as cyber bullying. I really hope it isn't the case as OP has only posted the facts but there have been some posts that were pretty derogatory towards B and she may claim that by starting this thread is facilitating bullying and public ridicule. Sounds a bit ridiculous but if she's out for revenge she'll probably try anything.

madeyemoodysmum · 15/10/2019 09:23

She probably got told by hr to shape up and is embarrassed. Like a cat that slips and then sits there all like that didn’t happen to me.