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AIBU to have been sarky to DP about doritos

299 replies

gwackywacky · 13/10/2019 14:30

NC because his mums on here.
I decided to make us nachos which I then regretted because messing around with making chili, guacamole, salsa, grating cheese etc was really pissing me off when I just wanted to chill today actually.

So Im at final stage laying it all out and melting the cheese on top when dp comes behind me and rubs his hands down my sides (ugh) and then steals a posh dorito (UGH) and says 'these any good then?'. I didnt reply and he said 'oh yeah, they ARE good!' and i said 'im so relieved they meet his majestys standards'.

Then we had an argument, he accused me of being sarky, and I said I was pissed off at having to cook on a sunday actually. Btw, if I didnt cook his solution would probably be a bowl of cereal (slow clap).

OP posts:
PablosHoney · 13/10/2019 14:53

😂😂😂😂😂😂

Bluntness100 · 13/10/2019 14:53

Blimey. Why did you decide to do it if you didn't wish to? And why are you so horrible to your husband?

AChickenCalledDaal · 13/10/2019 14:53

I get it. If I'd spent time and effort making home made chilli, guacamole and salsa, I'd be feeling quite stressed. And "are these any good then" sounds a bit dismissive and sarcastic. Especially if the person in question has basically been sitting on his arse all afternoon and is not appreciating that I'm trying to do something nice that everyone will enjoy.

I also hate being handled when I'm busy doing something else. Makes me feel intruded on.

PixieDustt · 13/10/2019 14:54

I wouldn't class making guacamole and salsa as cooking but okay.

You asked him are you ready. You should have said dinner is done.

And Doritos aren't posh, sorry OP 😂

GaaaaarlicBread · 13/10/2019 14:54

I’m so confused . I don’t see the big deal ?
You feel like a 50s housewife because your husband showed you affection whilst you made dinner ?
Secondly you are annoyed because he said he liked the Doritos ?
In my opinion you’re just being very, very petty . But maybe I’m being unreasonable.

BraveGoldie · 13/10/2019 14:55

Op in the Natchos situation he did nothing wrong. If you are upset, either you get upset about a ton of stuff unreasonably, or there are lots of underlying issues in your marriage and the natchos are just a trigger.....

Seems like you are feeling very victimized....?

Bluntness100 · 13/10/2019 14:57

Just don't decide to do things you don't wish to do. You have not said he in some way forced you to do it. You said you decided and then regretted it.

Next time get a takeaway and stop being a grumpy martyr.

adaline · 13/10/2019 15:00

If I'd spent time and effort making home made chilli, guacamole and salsa, I'd be feeling quite stressed

Then don't make it all from scratch if it stresses you out so much!

Fuma · 13/10/2019 15:00

I like this thread. The underlying concept is expressed with great clarity, it touches on universal themes and with the inclusion of nachos there is also multicultural diversity and culinary excellence.

Well done, OP. This will run and run.

Lolwhat · 13/10/2019 15:01

Have you phoned the police? Sounds like you need to get out ASAPHmm

TomorrowsPrincess · 13/10/2019 15:01

You sound narky. My partner often nicks ingredients that I'm using to cook..... I certainly don't bite his head off. Maybe your in a mood and taking it out on him?
Also..... since when were Doritos 'posh' 😂😂😂😂

Petrichor11 · 13/10/2019 15:01

YABVU

you chose to make nachos, you chose to make life much harder for yourself by doing everything from scratch. You have only yourself to blame for being in a shitty mood.

73Sunglasslover · 13/10/2019 15:01

You wanted him to cook instead. You were cross. You acted in a passive aggressive way. If there is an unequal distribution of labour in the house I'd suggest addressing it directly. But if he doesn't' mind eating a bowl of cereal and you do maybe it will be that you cook more than him - because that's what you want.

butterybiscuitbasic · 13/10/2019 15:02

@Fuma it also carefully deals with class issues - what with posh Doritos and all

Witchinaditch · 13/10/2019 15:03

It doesn’t sound like you like him at all

CheekyFuckersDontGetPastMe · 13/10/2019 15:04

Did you wear a sombrero whilst “cooking” guacamole and posh Doritos?

MitziK · 13/10/2019 15:04

Nachos are the easy get out for DP when he really doesn't want to cook. He makes refried beans, guacamole and salsa - it takes him, from start to finish, about 3 minutes to put the various things on tortillas and shove it either in the microwave or in the oven. If he made chilli as well, that would take 25 mins; five to chop onion, 1 and a half to chuck everything else in the pan, 15 to ignore and the remaining time to dollop it on.

It's a Saturday afternoon hungry-but-not-that hungry thing. I can't imagine anybody getting arsey about that, other than if presented with it in lieu of a proper meal on Sunday.

StroppyWoman · 13/10/2019 15:04

@butterybiscuitbasic

I snorted so loudly I woke the cat. Excellent punnage

butterybiscuitbasic · 13/10/2019 15:05

Honestly op - in every sense - there’s no need for beef.

AloeVeraLynn · 13/10/2019 15:05

Did you wear a sombrero whilst “cooking” guacamole and posh Doritos?

Grin the image OP in a sombrero furiously assembling her nachos with a face like grumpy cat... I snorted.

butterybiscuitbasic · 13/10/2019 15:06

@StroppyWoman I’m here all week 🥁

LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD · 13/10/2019 15:08

I want the salsa recipe.

AnneLovesGilbert · 13/10/2019 15:11

Since when was making guacamole and salsa cooking?! My DSS who can barely remember to flush the toilet makes decent guacamole.

butterybiscuitbasic · 13/10/2019 15:12

@AloeVeraLynn Now add a mariachi band to your vision...

DefinatelyAWeeGobshite · 13/10/2019 15:13

What a sour dip!