Are they friends or jealous of me

[Maudacious]

AIBU to be upset that a couple of my so called friends don't respond when I ask for feedback on my work (designs that take about 1 minute of their time to look at). I give them lots of listening time and prop them up when they're down without fail but i'm now beginning to think they might be jealous of me. I'm less inclined to respond to their feedback requests as a result but am struggling with why some women can't be happy for their friends successes and why they like to try and put dampners on.

@loopytiles I really cannot see how responding to my friend's message asking why I wasn't around and what was keeping me busy and me responding with both messages explaining and asking how she was followed by a link to the vid. It wasn't like I just flipped the video link with no message. Maybe I should lie in future about how I spend my time?! Pretend I've been doing something else all week? Honestly if we are living in an age where sharing creative stuff with each other is inappropriate then doomsday really is nigh.

Judging by your responses on here, I'd be terrified to tell you your work is shit IRL.

@maythelordopen -lol

Perhaps their non-response is a mixture of hating what i've sent, hating that I've sent it and a bit of jealousy.

Why does it have to be any of these things? Your language is at extremes and then you contradict yourself, sometimes within the same post.

They probably don't hate the piece, or hate that you sent it, or are jealous. Their reactions to your work doesn't have to be all or nothing. They can simply be a bit meh about the entire thing.

You are annoyed they didn't give you feedback. Then say you didn't ask for feedback. You mention dropping them and not inviting them to your screening and then say you're not going up drop them.

I know creative types can be a bit airy-fairy and disorganised. After all your posts I still don't know what you are looking for from your friends. If they had sent a thumbs up emoji would that have been sufficient or would you want something more substantial.

Your friends not being as excited about your work as you are doesn't mean anything. It doesn't mean they hate it, it doesn't mean the are jealous. It just means they got the text. Maybe didn't even open the clip because they meant to do it later. Maybe forgot. We are the centre of our own universe. We're just a part actor in everyone else's life though. We cannot always be overjoyed for everything to do with our friends. If my friends were exclaiming excitedly at a new pair of jeans I bought I'd think they were taking the piss

Maybe I should lie in future about how I spend my time?! Pretend I've been doing something else all week? Honestly if we are living in an age where sharing creative stuff with each other is inappropriate then doomsday really is nigh.
Except nobody is saying you should lie.

Your whole approach to this and your language and reactions is really quite dramatic for a situation which is essentially:
I send some work to people who hadn't asked for it, hadn't directly asked for feedback and am annoyed enough to flounce and consider not inviting to them an event because clearly they're jealous of me.

Lol

Bloody hell op - just directly ask your friends for feedback of that’s what you want... but now you’re saying it’s not what you want - you wanted someone to share your excitement which is completely different.

“Dear friend - my work has just been chosen to be shown at x” - friend responds with “how exciting”.

Dear friend - here’s a video please review it” ... silence.

I’m starting to wonder though whether English isn’t your first language which may be causing confusion both on this post and irl. If that’s the case, perhaps speak to your friends in person as email and text can cause misunderstanding

This is a bit of a weird thread to be honest! I've read the OP and some of the thread, but not all of it.

I have never been asked to provide feedback to my friends on their work (well, at least not in those words!!)

I think you sound a bit odd OP, and a little arrogant. You might be neither of those things, but this thread is all a bit strange and I don't think I've fully grasped exactly what you are asking of your friends, and exactly what is so wrong with them that you think they are jealous of you?

Are you asking frequently? Maybe it's making you sound needy