Friends have put a pole up in the middle of their living room.....

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Two friends of mine, who are married and in their mid 30's. Let's call them Tom and Ann. One DS.

Ann's been getting into pole dancing recently. So last month Tom put a fixed pole up right in the middle of the living room. She 'practises' on it and they've had a few 'Pole parties' where other female friends come over and all have a go. Tom and all the other husband's love it and will just sit there while their 'amazing' wives are 'exercising' while they sit their toasting each other with their beer

To be clear, it's a proper, fixed, permanent pole, that runs from the floor and attached to the ceiling. House is a small two bed semi. Living room normal size for that kind of house, ie - not extended and now there's just enough room for the corner sofa and TV.

Anyway this morning I get a text from Ann saying their DS, who's walking and bolting around now, ran into the pole and was in A&E all night! She sent me a photo and he has a massive golf ball size lump on his forehead, with lots of bruising already.
She told the doctor he hit it on the doorframe.

They are 'okay' parents but generally seem to want to change very little in their lives since DS came along.
Tbh this friendship has been on its way out for a long time on my behalf anyway, this is the cherry on the cake.

AIBU to say this is:

• Incredibly selfish
• Dangerous
• Dishonest
• Bit weird
• Generally just pretty grim?

The husband's sitting round watching and drinking beer

I'm a two bed semi with hardly enough room for a sofa and a TV? How many couples can they actually fit in there to have the men oogling their partners as they go round a pole?whilst actually having space for them to use said pole.

@Igotthemheavyboobs

I agree we haven't got enough room to swing a cat in our living room let alone some woman swinging on a pole.

Nice user name btw

JoObrien7

Thank you :) and we are the same! Normal 2 bed house you would not be getting multiple men sitting on the sofa whilst their wives all take turns spinning around a pole. With the women standing up and waiting their turn, the blokes wouldn't even be able to see!

It sounds to me like they had some mates around and a couple of the women had a go. Probably a bit of a laugh and in no way the sleaze feast as described in the OP

Am I the only one who just finds @DarlingBuds19's posts utterly GRIM

I think it sounds bizarre. A pole in the middle of the living room and a bunch of horny men watching each other’s wives? Sounds seedy to me and totally inappropriate. The kid thing is unfortunate but as the mum of a ninja I can say that it doesn’t take much for kids to get bumps and falls.

@BertrandRussell
It's not part of P.E because there are some people who even if they saw the sports side of it only, if they saw the P.E curriculum of the tricks and strength building moves that their kids would learn that year, and if they were shown a list of all of the benefits to the body from doing it......they would still say eh no strippers use these in strip clubs.

My daughter does aerial classes and I think they're fantastic, hoop, hammocks and pole. She's very strong for her age!

Don't go with common sense there user. It ruins the argument

Plus it's not exactly an accessible sport with easy progression for all. Some people I know spend 6 weeks worth of lessons just learning how to get their legs off the floor in a controlled spin for the basics (which can be completed in shorts and t shirt). Could you imagine the logistics of having half a year group at a time in a sports hall having to take it in turns 3 to a pole focusing on shoulder alignment and core control just to get off the ground? Then think about what goes into safe climbing and mounting for aerial arts too, can one PE teacher teach half a year group at a time to do that safely? Can teens who have no interest in PE be expected to spot safely?
There's so many obvious reasons why pole and other aerial arts aren't in PE, but I fear those who've never tried them are too busy frothing to consider that.

Hats off to your DC for hammock by the way. I tried it once with a friend for a taste session. It's bloody hard!