To think the carotid artery is not a porn prop.

[SmileEachDay]

This from Twitter today.

link to the Tweet

breath play

If it's all so innocent and dandy, why the coy, cutesy name?
Why not call it partial asphyxiation? Or strangulation? Or deliberate oxygen deprivation?

Why make it sound like a fucking My Little Pony happy clappy funtime game?

Cause that's what they do. They come up with all these cutesy names to cover up what BDSM really is - sexual abuse, wrapped in pretty language. Same with 'aftercare' - it's basically trauma bonding, re-worded to appeal.

You can sprinkle glitter over shit. It still stinks.

@Divebar - Thankyou. Not sure why anyone would come to a forum, offer an opinion and continue to post despite criticism in order to 'get off' when, as we've already determined, there is an abundance of porn out there.

As @TemporaryPermanent says, there is no safe way with this.

Anyone who says it's safe is either lying or doesn't know enough to know what they don't know.

Breath play My friend likes this. She was abused by her father and has zero boundaries around sex. She will let any man do anything they want to her, even on a first date. I'm frightened and sad for her.

Men who want to hurt and/or control women can go to hell. Wrapping it up in a 'game' doesn't fool me.

My dm nearly died from being choked, dsis and I heard it happen.

@gingersausage

Not remotely naive. I’m going to hazard a guess I’m considerably more worldly wise than most people here.

@SBD1 I'm so pleased you've listened to what I said. Good for you

Also, there's no point listening to women knee-deep in denial in BDSM relationships. Of course they'll insist it's all rainbows and unicorns. Try listening to the women who have LEFT the scene. They tell it like it really is.

But BDo83 why are the two things not comparable? At the point where she asked you to choke her first time, presumably you’d never been in a situation like that before, because it was the first time, so if there was a first time for one thing, why would there not be a first time that someone you cared about asked you to punch them? I know it’s unlikely, but it’s unlikely that someone actually enojoys being strangled, so why would you strangle a woman in the bedroom if asked, but not thump someone in the face if asked?

Oh my fucking god, do people really think that there are no perverts on here. What planet have I just landed on?!?!

My guess would be that they do realize and enjoy seeing the pervs annoy others.

@Whatisthisfuckery why do you bother asking him these questions? Every abuser will swear up and down that he isn't an abuser!

I’m not annoyed, I’m just incredulous that anyone can be so stupid!

I had v little sleep last night and have, as pps have pointed out, strayed from FWR to AIBU.
Not that my comments would have varied a great deal if I had realised.

@BoreOfWhabylon I'm never one to miss a chance to be educated. If it really only takes slight pressure to end up having a stroke, I'm sure I can find something else to amuse me

I in asking these questions because the fact that they aren’t properly engaged with and answered says it all.

I’m not annoyed, I’m just incredulous that anyone can be so stupid!

Well I’m sure if there are guys who get off on being patronised that they’ll be here in droves.

Anyway, to sum up.

A. There is no safe way to choke someone. Listen to the professionals on this.

B. The fact that this has become normalized via porn to the point where young men are going around randomly choking their sexual partners out of the blue because, hey, that girl in that video they wanked to seemed to like it is very worrying, particularly if you are likely to be one of the young women on the receiving end or have a daughter, niece etc who might end up in that situation.

Have been asked to punch someone in the face during sex before

That, tbh, was a bit much.

So I’m going to assume PBo83 won’t answer my question because to admit Tarentino did it to get his rocks off would interfere with his world view.

Feel v uncomfortable posters are sharing their friends' etc stories publically on here. It's private to them and not your tale to tell. Honestly, imagine being abused and finding out your mate has been posting about it on a forum for attention.

Disgusting.

I haven't seen any of those who engage in BDSM activities describing their sex life in great detail.

Breath play / partial asphyxiation is something that SOME people choose to engage in. I don't think anyone is saying it's great and safe and everyone should do it.

@XXXXXX42 it's not breath play, it's strangualtion. There's nothing remotely playful about strangulation.

Fine - strangulation.

Strangulation is something SOME people choose to engage in. I don't think anyone is saying it's great and safe and everyone should do it.