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Original poster

To ask class teacher who went in my childs bag?

376 replies

SamAntHaHa · 09/10/2019 14:09

Something has been taken from my childs bag. It is not valuable and I won't get it back because it's a single use item for personal use.
I don't mind it being used by others but it's unsettling for things to be taken and not be informed by staff or my childs friends if one of them decided they wanted to take it. It feels like something being stolen from their bag since someone went in there without permission and took what they wanted when the bag was in the classroom with everyone elses bags.
AIBU to ask staff who went in my childs bag?
And then to ask the person apologise for taking it from my childs bag without mentioning it since it is stealing?

OP posts:
DanielRicciardosSmile · 09/10/2019 16:40

Ahh cross posted. Ignore.

KatyCarrCan · 09/10/2019 16:40

What's in the box bag, OP?

ImNotYourGranny · 09/10/2019 16:41

Well technically they didn't go in the bag as the plasters were in the outside seethrough part of her bag.

Honestly, I couldn't raise a sweat about someone taking a plaster.

NightOwl27 · 09/10/2019 16:42

A few years ago things were stolen from my childs bag and her teacher couldn't give a toss. The same teacher also didn't give a toss when a gang of boys were beating up my child and kicking her where her legs meet. But since it's a new term I have not yet spoken to her new teacher yet to gauge if this one will also not be interested in those things.

Forget the mystery item, the part about getting beaten by a gang of boys is more disturbing. I SERIOUSLY doubt any teacher or school will ignore such an incident if it really happened the way as described. Did she require medical attention afterwards? Were there injuries or witnesses? Did you file a police report?

If not, then it sounds like OP has paranoid personality disorder and perceives or exaggerates intentional malice in minor incidents. I feel quite sorry for our daughter TBH. I'm sure a lot of your hysteria is rubbing off on her, which is not healthy or productive for a growing child.

theoriginalmadambee · 09/10/2019 16:42

OP, it is only a dressing, lighten up. Not a big deal, and don't make your dd feel controlled, please.

MutedUser · 09/10/2019 16:42

Just read your update you have no proof of nothing you are putting 2 and 2 together and getting 100. YABU and will be a laughing stock if you make a thing of this. Are you this precious over everything ? It could have fallen out her bag.

Coffeeandchocolate9 · 09/10/2019 16:42

and a small cardboard water

Not that anybody gives a damn, but I meant to say wafter. For the smoke signals. As you were.

Thanks for being a good sport, op.

SummerHouse · 09/10/2019 16:44

I didn't see that coming! I was banking on tissue. I might mention it in passing if I was at a parents evening but I wouldn't go out of my way to mention it.

TriDreigiau · 09/10/2019 16:44

had just about healed but I left a pair of sterile pads dressing thingies for when needed. I can see them when I send her off each day as they are in an outside seethrough part of her bag. No secret they are there.
One had gone so i checked with her incase of problem with the wound.

If I was around at pickup drop time and saw the teacher I would mention it - but I wouldn't demand that they find out who took it or make a special appointment about it.

Bags are usually left outside classrooms in primary - so anyone could be going in them and the staff probably won't know or see it - best they could do is remind the children not to go into others bags.

Seeline · 09/10/2019 16:44

A sterile dressing!!

In an outside see through pocket of her bag.

It probably just fell out.

SoundsAboutRight · 09/10/2019 16:45

Sterile wound pads? Why on earth didn't you say that in your OP? Was the pocket zipped closed or open as they could have easily fallen out if not zipped away. And why, if your child has had bullying problems at school (I'm sorry to hear about that, my daughter suffered horribly) would you put something like that in a clear pocket so everyone can see something unusual in the bag? That's just asking for someone to go and take one out, (if that's what happened) they probably thought they were sanpro, which would be a cause for teasing at that age.

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TheQueef · 09/10/2019 16:47

if she'd said that in the OP this thread would have two replies, one of them being Hmm I reckon

County Lines would have made it a better thread.

HappyHammy · 09/10/2019 16:47

It's only a dressing but if you are concerned about the safety of your childs belongings then speak to the teacher, where do they keep their bags? on pegs, in lockers, on the side of their chairs, all dumped in the corner? if she needs a wound re-dressed then is this something she does herself or is there a teacher, school nurse who helps with this, maybe they can keep the dressings safe.

Mum918 · 09/10/2019 16:47

After all that it’s a wound dressing? It’s entirely possible that it’s fallen out when she’s gone in there and someone’s cleaned it up off the floor, or she has... dun dun dunnnnn.. forgotten to count how many times she changed her dressing throughout her busy school day.
In the time it’s taken to find out what it was you could’ve swept the entire school and found said ‘item’, come home, put the dinner on, drank entire bottle of Bombay sapphire and returned dressing to daughters bag ready for counting tomorrow.

PristineCondition · 09/10/2019 16:48

So.... a plaster then yah

NightOwl27 · 09/10/2019 16:49

It was in a "see-through part of her bag" and you had to start a thread on MN blaming the teacher for failing to stop theft?? Dear god. Kids will obviously take stuff out of bags if it's strange looking and visible from the outside. As PP posted, this sounds like very controlling behaviour and your poor daughter is probably mortified about failing to stop an incident that has set your mood off.

I had a school friend whose mum was very similar. She ended up extremely unhappy and was on a hair trigger all the time for anything that upset her mum.

isitautumnyet · 09/10/2019 16:49

This thread is peculiar. How outing can an item in a bag possibly be. Unless its some one use invention the OP has invented and doesn't want someone on this thread copying the idea? 😂😂

UnoriginalUserName948 · 09/10/2019 16:50

sterile pads dressing thingies or a plaster?

Original poster
SamAntHaHa · 09/10/2019 16:51

@Hoghgyni Years ago one of the items was a keychain toy attached to the outside of her bag. We had written her name on it too but then it was taken even though it was attached to the outside of the bag. Other kids had things go missing but no way of knowing what was going on.

OP posts:
feska5 · 09/10/2019 16:51

Good God! It was a plaster 🙄

Sallyseagull · 09/10/2019 16:51

YABVU.

This has been the most ridiculous thread. Mountain out of a mole hill.

Original poster
SamAntHaHa · 09/10/2019 16:53

"where her legs meet" was a direct quote from the teacher.
Plus my child pushing boys off her was "she gave as good as she got".

OP posts:
Ginnymweasley · 09/10/2019 16:55

But it's just a big plaster, it could have fallen out, she could have taken one out to mess around with, another kids could have taken it I suppose although I doubt it was malicious. What would you want the teacher to do exactly?

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