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Original poster

To ask class teacher who went in my childs bag?

376 replies

SamAntHaHa · 09/10/2019 14:09

Something has been taken from my childs bag. It is not valuable and I won't get it back because it's a single use item for personal use.
I don't mind it being used by others but it's unsettling for things to be taken and not be informed by staff or my childs friends if one of them decided they wanted to take it. It feels like something being stolen from their bag since someone went in there without permission and took what they wanted when the bag was in the classroom with everyone elses bags.
AIBU to ask staff who went in my childs bag?
And then to ask the person apologise for taking it from my childs bag without mentioning it since it is stealing?

OP posts:
PinkFlamingo888 · 09/10/2019 16:23

My child came home with a tampon that didn’t belong to him today. Terribly sorry, he’ll put it back in your child’s bag tomorrow. Case solved.

Fresta · 09/10/2019 16:24

What a stupid thread!

If you talk to the teacher in the same way you are speaking to Mmsnet then I doubt she'll be able to work out what earth you are talking about!

Redglitter · 09/10/2019 16:26

Being so vague is absolutely ridiculous.

And how on earth do you think the teacher would know who was responsible

Snuggleworm · 09/10/2019 16:28

Am I the only one that thinks it is a bit weird that a parent would know how many "items" were in the child's bag in the first place and then for the child to have to tell you how many "items" they have used? My child could have had 10 squashed bananas in their schoolbag before I would have noticed.

InsertFunnyUsername · 09/10/2019 16:29

OP blink twice if I guess correctly.

Pocket tissue, Sanitary towels, Mars bar, knickers, Epipen or a puppy.

CoffeeAndToffee · 09/10/2019 16:29

My legs meet just above my knees Blush

HappyHammy · 09/10/2019 16:31

I have to know what was in the bag, or not in the bag anymore, please come back OP and tell us.

Beebeezed · 09/10/2019 16:31

Place marking!

theoriginalmadambee · 09/10/2019 16:31

My dc are too old for school bags.

My luck, because if you compile the items suggested on this thread, packing a school bag is so much harder than when I did it 🤣.

And by the way where your legs meet, must be at the feet surely 😇.

Coffeeandchocolate9 · 09/10/2019 16:32

The wife code? The type of one that changes every 30 seconds or so?

Gingerkittykat · 09/10/2019 16:32

Those special wet wipes you get in a single sachet to wipe her delicate little hands after eating lunch.

purplecorkheart · 09/10/2019 16:32

As others said it hugely depends on what the item is. If it is medication the school do need to be told.

I would not blame the teacher nor expect her to notice someone going into your daughters bag. Have you asked your daughter has someone else got a bag similar or the same as hers? Maybe someone took the item thinking they were taking it from their own bag. Could the item have fallen out without your daughter noticing or that your daughter used one and genuinely forgot about it?

Again, it all depends on what the item is. If it was a food item maybe a hungry child took it knowing that your daughter has a supply in her bag.

Carrie7899 · 09/10/2019 16:33

It's got to be a sanitary towel.

Sorry, I mean a single use personal hygiene item designed to be placed where the legs meet

LynetteScavo · 09/10/2019 16:34

I'm just here to find out what the item is.

TheQueef · 09/10/2019 16:36

I'm gonna say two words, it's perfectly obvious when you think logically.

County. Lines.

Wink
Clettercletterthatsbetter · 09/10/2019 16:36

@FurnitureAndBackgammon thanks - now I’m back on trying to work out that stupid ‘joke’ again. Which is almost as irritating as trying to work out what single use personal item an 8-year old might need multiples of at school.

I like the Trident Missile idea. Much more interesting than all the mundane san pro suggestions.

But, being serious, it’s like a PP said - if it’s medicine/epipen/similar, tell the teacher. If it’s a sanitary pad, feel sorry for the poor kid who has to nick them as she doesn’t have her own.

theoriginalmadambee · 09/10/2019 16:36

Noo @Carrie7899, personal use and kicked where the legs meet Wink.

Teenagemaw · 09/10/2019 16:37

Ive only skipped to the end to see if we found out what the item was 🤷‍♀️

shiningstar2 · 09/10/2019 16:37

I think it must be sanpro and if the op is very uptight about checking/counting these things out the child is too anxious to say she gave one to someone. What could be more normal for another child to be caught short/suddenly start at school and then ask a friend who she knows has some in her bag to give her one. Kids get embarrassed about these things and might rather ask a friend rather than the teacher or office. And if op's child has spare handy what could be more normal than to help her friend out. But if op is very uptight poor kid might be anxious about telling her mother she gave one away so has invented that it was taken from her bag. Awful to think that as it means the kid is worried about being told off for something most mothers would praise her for.

Of course it could be something far more serious missing but as the op has opened a very vague thread on AIBU so presumably wants answers all mumsnetters can do is conjecture unless the op gives more info.

Original poster
SamAntHaHa · 09/10/2019 16:38

How many messages?!! Oh dear. Right Inspector mumsnet...
I don't like people going in my own bag without permission. I also don't want my child paranoid about her bag so we don't put things in there that matter. Anyway...deep intake of breathe and prepare to be disappointed that it's not a gold bar.
Child had a wound. It had just about healed but I left a pair of sterile pads dressing thingies for when needed. I can see them when I send her off each day as they are in an outside seethrough part of her bag. No secret they are there.
One had gone so i checked with her incase of problem with the wound.
Possibly some other kids got curious to take one but no idea if anyone needed one and their need trumped getting permission to go into someones bag or to inform them after if they were their friend in the class.

It's that difficult thing of I don't need the item but someone still went into the bag without permission which isn't a good thing to let kids think they can keep doing.

OP posts:
Coffeeandchocolate9 · 09/10/2019 16:38

Oh I know, a small single-use smoke signal kit, comprising two matches, a sheet of striking paper, a s.d mall ball of tinder, two pieces of kindling, three miniature logs in a handy fold-out tripod configuration and a small cardboard water, with basic key to signals on the reverse. Did the naughty steely child send you a false distress signal?

Compact single use flares are better for late primary school children imo. They do look a bit like a tampon though. What if one of her classmates took it unwittingly??

EdersonsSmileyTattoo · 09/10/2019 16:39

What a bonkers thread.....

MutedUser · 09/10/2019 16:39

If it’s a sanitary towel then counting and keeping tracks of the amount your daughter uses is sick. Would you really want an apology over a sanitary towel. Maybe your daughter gave it to her and lied to avoid an inquest about a missing towel.

DanielRicciardosSmile · 09/10/2019 16:39

OP isn't coming back. Which is clearly because she's been outed. Single-use personal item stolen from the bag of a child who was previously kicked where her legs meet - it can only be Tabitha's mum Caroline.

Coffeeandchocolate9 · 09/10/2019 16:40

Cross posted. How dull. I'm going to pretend it was the bag of single-use gerbils.

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