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To ask class teacher who went in my childs bag?

376 replies

SamAntHaHa · 09/10/2019 14:09

Something has been taken from my childs bag. It is not valuable and I won't get it back because it's a single use item for personal use.
I don't mind it being used by others but it's unsettling for things to be taken and not be informed by staff or my childs friends if one of them decided they wanted to take it. It feels like something being stolen from their bag since someone went in there without permission and took what they wanted when the bag was in the classroom with everyone elses bags.
AIBU to ask staff who went in my childs bag?
And then to ask the person apologise for taking it from my childs bag without mentioning it since it is stealing?

OP posts:
AudacityOfHope · 09/10/2019 15:02

This thread is Confused

Cohle · 09/10/2019 15:02

I think you are underestimating how likely it is that you or your child have lost count or misremembered when they used one of the items in question. Maybe your child lost one or gave one to a friend and is sensing from your reaction that you would be annoyed etc etc.

Obviously we don't know what the item is but it's hard not to feel like you're overreacting.

Drogosnextwife · 09/10/2019 15:03

If its a tampon or a towel then pretend it didn't happen for God sake. If one girl took one tampon in a moment of need, would you really want to shame and embarrass her for it?
Just say what it is this post is infuriating.

Ellisandra · 09/10/2019 15:03

I’m voting Sanpro, based on the ridiculously coy “kicking where her legs meet”. Come on OP, tell us what it is, and if you need to say genitals, say genitals.

I’m very sorry your daughter has been through this, but it really is better if you just SAY when what’s going on.

WeBuiltCisCityOnSexistRoles · 09/10/2019 15:04

It's an item that people of female persuasion sometimes put it between their legs, but throw it away later. Beyond that, I'm not willing to say."

You mean where her legs meet Hmm

Said by no one ever, btw

Hesafriendfromwork · 09/10/2019 15:04

Where her legs meet?

Mine meet at my thighs. So that's not really a helpful discriptor Grin

LolaSmiles · 09/10/2019 15:04

Do you think the cryptic nature of the thread mean it's more likely to go poof at some point?

Lindy2 · 09/10/2019 15:04

If something was missing from my child's bag I think my first thoughts would be that they possibly dropped/lost it rather than it being stolen.
If there are several in there and you count them, possibly you miscounted or forgot the correct number.

Jumping to the conclusion it was stolen without evidence is rather odd. Then again, refusing to say what it is, is also odd.

Juells · 09/10/2019 15:05

This thread is gold 😂

Hotpinkangel19 · 09/10/2019 15:06

What was it?

Juells · 09/10/2019 15:07

@WeBuiltCisCityOnSexistRoles

You're right, WeBuilt. I used the incorrect terminology for that area of the mysterious female anatomy.

justintimberlakesfishwife · 09/10/2019 15:07

I really need to know what it is now!

Ellisandra · 09/10/2019 15:07

Advanced search says that the daughter was 7 last December, so sanpro not as likely now Confused

AudacityOfHope · 09/10/2019 15:08

My legs sadly meet about half an inch above my knees Grin

IncrediblySadToo · 09/10/2019 15:08

If I were the teacher I’d hope you moved schools if you’re this annoying in RL.

Ellisandra · 09/10/2019 15:08

@Hesafriendfromwork high five! Really laughed at that Smile

QueenieMum · 09/10/2019 15:08

Unless the teacher was Coleen Rooney you are highly unlikely to find the culprit. In all seriousness I think you should say something to the teacher but I'm not clear on what you want the outcome to be?

Zebraaa · 09/10/2019 15:08

@Hesafriendfromwork Grin

RedskyLastNight · 09/10/2019 15:08

I'm also surprised that you've just jumped immediately to "stolen" rather than assuming that you'd miscounted or possibly that the item has just fallen out. Or maybe even that your child has given it to someone else, and is now lying because you are so bothered about it.

I hope it's not sanitary towels. My daughter has a stash in her locker and I've always told her to freely offer them to anyone that needs them. I can't imagine being so petty over them.

pumkinseason · 09/10/2019 15:09

It is very unlikely that this mystery item was taken in front of teacher, so other than issue a general don't take stuff from people's bags what do you expect the teacher to do?
If this is about sanpro then surely you have bigger things to worry about?
Talking to the teacher about someone taking a pad would surely sound ridiculous.

Hesafriendfromwork · 09/10/2019 15:09

@Ellisandra Grin

Is it the same OP who pops up every few weeks with an ridiculously coy thread?
Or is there loads of people that cant use grown up words?

IncognitaIgnorama · 09/10/2019 15:09

Audacity I think in my case, half an inch would be an overly generous estimate Grin

Oysterbabe · 09/10/2019 15:10

Child is 8 so maybe not sanpro.
I'm going to guess some kind of snack.

honeybunlatte · 09/10/2019 15:10

YABU to say 'where her legs meet' alone. I hope you're not this coy about female anatomy with your daughter.

keepondreaming · 09/10/2019 15:10

Tampon?
Tissue?
Ten pence piece?
Tenner?

My reaction would be different depending on item.