To point out a friend's mistake

[SunshineAngel]

Firstly please don't think I'm one of those people who pulls people up on spelling, grammar etc. God knows I'm not perfect!

But this morning, a close friend of mine (we're a group of 4, and all really close to each other) posted a Facebook status, saying she had a near miss, as someone pulled out on her. She included a bit of dash cam footage (which I personally think wasn't actually that bad - the driver was quite a bit in front, plus she was speeding, so if she'd been doing the limit it wouldn't have mattered.. but that's not the point).

She put in her post "Do people not know that the drivers who are ALREADY ON THE FUCKING ROAD have the right-away?"

I "sad-faced" her status, and commented saying "Hugs, hope you're okay! Think you mean right of way though lovely, hahaha xxxxx"

Now, we are close. It never crossed my mind that this wouldn't be an acceptable thing to put. We post funny things on each other's statuses all the time, with no problem whatsoever. She calls me out if I post a photo where I look a bit shit (I'm not the sharing type and only really post group shots, and I don't care what I look like in them).

I always find it quite amusing when people think a phrase is something completely different, and I genuinely thought she'd reply something like "Haha oh yeah I'm such a knob xx" because that's what we do!

Instead, she inboxed me saying how dare I embarrass her in front of her friends and family, and did I do it to feel good about myself, and prove I was better and cleverer than her. She said she felt bullied and wondered why she'd even be friends with someone who would do that.

I deleted my comment straightaway and said sorry, no offence meant, it was just a joke. And then I said I'd said something wrong for years and was eventually corrected and found it really funny (I always heard prima donna as pre-madonna and thought it referred to people who were famous before Madonna.. funny right!) so I though she'd find it funny too to learn what the phrase really was.

She has now BLOCKED me, and her boyfriend has messaged me saying she's in tears, and that I was a bitch for writing the comment.

Am I on another planet here, or is this up there with the biggest overreactions of all time?

I'm posting here as I don't want to get any of our mutual friends involved, and I can always trust MumsNet to tell me if I'm right or being an idiot!

I honestly can't see that I did anything wrong.

Also it's not like she crashed or was hurt. She was doing 37mph in a 30, and had to brake a bit faster than normal. Literally no harm done, and if anything she was the one in the wrong, though I'm aware that's not the point.

Right-away 🤣🤣 I think that's up there with bone apple teeth and Noah fence

She sounds horrendous, I would take this whole business as a massive red flag and be very cautious about asking for the friendship back. Firstly it was very attention seeking to post it on FB no doubt with the intention of receiving lots of 'you ok hun?' and sympathy. Secondly her reaction to your message suggests she is jealous of you and might well have been feeling like that for a while. If you do make it up with her I strongly suspect it will happen again, you need to question whether the friendship is worth the grief and having to change your personality to meet her extensive needs.

send her a box of grips as an olive branch.

She is massively overreacting. And had I been her, I would've been glad if someone had pointed out my mistake so that I could correct it before anyone else read it.
And why on earth is her boyfriend getting involved?!

She doesn't sound like a good friend.

Your comment was fine, friendly and obviously joking. She's probably feeling sensitive after what happened but still, no excuse for that message she sent you. Complete overreaction when you were just being a friend, maybe a bit superior. Her boyfriend seems a bit weird as well for thinking that reaction is normal.

Also, the whole calling you out when you look shit in a photo...she's a friend? Doesn't sound much like a friend to me.

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I don't like stuff like friendships like this personally! I have been Involved in them and it really grates even if it doesn't upset u.
It was VERY bad timing however she has over reacted.
Calling you out on shit photos is also bad.
Do all four of you do this to each other or is this a competition between u two?

I personally wouldn't have gotten upset and not to that extreme but FWIW I still think you was abit of a dick

She's massively overreacted!

Personally I think you'd be a bad friend had you not pointed it out - more people would've seen it and that's far more embarrassing in my book. You also dealt with it well by removing it and offering a genuine apology when you realised you'd upset her.

The bf is out of line too, in my opinion.

Personally, I feel that they both owe you the apology now.