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CF Request - just ignore?

159 replies

OpheliaBee · 07/10/2019 07:06

I’m on a short break in Spain with DH and DC. Someone I know from a job I had 10 years ago and very occasionally bump into has just messaged me, asking to buy her cigarettes. Literally nothing about me suggests that I am pro-smoking. She’s never seen me smoke, I’m incredibly sporty, I’m asthmatic, and I have a young child. (She definitely know all of the things) I’m fine if other people want to smoke, far away from me, but no chance am I buying cigarettes for others.

AIBU to think this is really bloody inappropriate? Unsure whether to say something or just pretend I didn’t see the message. She’s quite a confrontational person.

OP posts:
Tink88 · 07/10/2019 07:07

I would ignore and if she messaged again block her

Cherrysoup · 07/10/2019 07:07

I’d text back saying no, pretty outrageous request given I barely know you. Then block. CF!

ThanosSavedMe · 07/10/2019 07:08

Just ignore or message back that you won’t be able to do that , no room in the luggage. She’s not a friend or colleague, you don’t need to remain friendly or polite.

Icantthinkofanewname87 · 07/10/2019 07:08

It’s not really inappropriate to ask you to buy cigarettes just because you have asthma or a small child. She’s not asking you to smoke them for her, and I think you’re overreacting a bit in that sense. However, it is CF to ask you to buy cigarettes when you haven’t been friends for 10 years. Just ignore the message.

Thehop · 07/10/2019 07:08

Ignore and pretend you didn’t see it.

Helpmestartagain · 07/10/2019 07:09

Do you think it was meant for someone else?

TwiddleMuff · 07/10/2019 07:12

She's entitled to ask, you're entitled to say no. It's mildly cheeky but I wouldn't give it a second thought!

TellMeWhoTheVilliansAre · 07/10/2019 07:14

Delete her from Facebook, then she won't know where you go on holidays. I don't think it's a cheeky thing to ask. I don't smoke, I'm asthmatic, I have young children, I like to keep relatively fit. I have brought cheap cigarettes home from holiday for people.

If you don't want to buy them for her just say no. And remove people you barely know and don't particularly like from your social media. There's no need to tell a person you knew 10 years ago, and occasionally bump in to that you're in Spain. There's probably loads of others on your friends list that don't need to be told either.

Pinkyyy · 07/10/2019 07:16

Ignore it. What a CF.

icelollycraving · 07/10/2019 07:16

I would find it a bit odd that an ex colleague messaged me after 10 years to ask me to get cigarettes. Having asthma and a child is completely irrelevant. Just reply no. No drama needed.

ScreamingValenta · 07/10/2019 07:17

I agree with Icantthink - the CF-ery lies in the fact you barely know this woman. I would either ignore the message or go back to say 'sorry, that's not possible'.

I say this as a smoker who can understand why your acquaintance would ask this - cost of cigs overseas is ridiculously low compared to here - but I wouldn't ask even a close friend to faff about on holiday buying them for me. I'd say yes if they offered, but that's it.

DeathStare · 07/10/2019 07:17

"I think you sent this to me by mistake"

Cornishmum00 · 07/10/2019 07:27

Ignore the message and in future don't post on social media that you are away until you return that will stop anyone who isnt an actual friend being able to ask

fedup21 · 07/10/2019 07:31

Literally nothing about me suggests that I am pro-smoking. She’s never seen me smoke, I’m incredibly sporty, I’m asthmatic, and I have a young child.

That really has nothing to do with anything-she was asking you to buy them, not smoke them!

Just ignore if you don’t want to.

itsgoodtobehome · 07/10/2019 07:31

Probably sent to the wrong person.

Drogosnextwife · 07/10/2019 07:35

I'm not sure what you being sporty, having asthma or a young child has to do with it. Definitely don't buy them for her though, if thatessage was for you then she is a cf.

Smelborp · 07/10/2019 07:35

I’d just say you don’t have room in your case and leave it at that.

Witchinaditch · 07/10/2019 07:38

It’s a weird request as you’re not in each other’s lives but also you seem a bit like a pearl clutcher.

LtJudyHopps · 07/10/2019 07:39

She’s asking you to buy them for her not smoke them for her! It’s a bit cheeky but you’re overreacting quite a bit! I don’t smoke but when I go abroad I usually bring some cigarettes back for my cousin.
Just say sorry no can do. Don’t say no room in the case as it leaves it open for her to say “well you can always get them at duty free!”

NoNoNoOohmaybe · 07/10/2019 07:42

Just ignore. Very cheeky.

But the rest of the info is a bit unnecessary unless this was all for a quiet Monday morning stealth boast. Actually if you were a smoker you'd be more reluctant to buy them as you'd want to use your own allowance.

FamilyOfAliens · 07/10/2019 07:42

Out of interest, what is “incredibly sporty”? Is it the same as just sporty? Grin

chuckeeee · 07/10/2019 07:42

She can't get them duty free. She's in Spain. An EU destination

chuckeeee · 07/10/2019 07:43

But yeah, it's odd to message that. Your points about children, being sporty Hmm are all irrelevant though

NoNoNoOohmaybe · 07/10/2019 07:44

Haha based on the reaction to this thread just reply with "don't you know I'm super sporty" and she'll fuck off chuntering about you!

Fairenuff · 07/10/2019 07:46

Who dis?