CF Request - just ignore?

[OpheliaBee]

I’m on a short break in Spain with DH and DC. Someone I know from a job I had 10 years ago and very occasionally bump into has just messaged me, asking to buy her cigarettes. Literally nothing about me suggests that I am pro-smoking. She’s never seen me smoke, I’m incredibly sporty, I’m asthmatic, and I have a young child. (She definitely know all of the things) I’m fine if other people want to smoke, far away from me, but no chance am I buying cigarettes for others.

AIBU to think this is really bloody inappropriate? Unsure whether to say something or just pretend I didn’t see the message. She’s quite a confrontational person.

Some of these responses are bonkers

She’s definitely a CF.
In which case, I would reply and take the opportunity to tell her “No, I won’t be buying you any cigarettes because I value you and your children’s health obviously more than you do”
She’s unlikely to ask you again. Job done.

I would reply no thanks I'm not going shopping.

If it is against your principles to buy the cigarettes, don't buy them. She's not to know you received her text unless you reply. Ignore.

Nothing really wrong with her asking though I wouldn't ask someone to do anything for me unless we were bosom buddies, I'm not cheeky. How did she know you were going to Spain?

Weird. Go and queue up and bring something home for someone you haven't spoken to in 10 years? The answer is 'no' OP.

Text back, 'sorry, probably won't have chance for any shopping' or...just ignore.

I wouldn't even reply. If she says anything later just say you didn't check messages while on holiday.
Not worth getting het up over.
BTW, as a warning, random people you worked with 10 years ago don't need to know your house is empty. Make sure your privacy settings are not set to friends of friends.

"As an asthmatic non smoker, I don't buy cigarettes."

Ginfordinner It's not exactly hard to find an address. The BT phone book is online, for one thing.

I had a neighbour like this - always asking me to get cigarettes and never paying. Does her name being with S and does she have four girls? She still owes me for the last ones.

Dont write back. Ignore her and if she messages again just say no. Dont explain yourself to her.

Jesus just ignore and move on, why the need for any dramatics? Fucking hell.

Not a good idea to say you’re on holiday on FB. You’d be amazed at how easy it is to gather info about where people live.

I refused to buy ciggies for my mum and dad when i travelled. It's a filthy habit and I was not going to encourage them. Smoking eventually kiiled my mum.

One word, ignore.

Never mind your sportiness, asthma blah blah blah. Did she give you the cash to buy her cigs? No she didn't. So she's effectively expecting you to lend her the money as well as go out of your way to go get the cigs for her. Tell her you have plans for your money and they don't involve buying things for cheeky bitches that you hardly know.

I do think its relevant that op isn’t known to be a pro smoker. I don’t like smoking so wouldn’t buy my mum cigarettes from the corner shop let alone bring any back from another country - especially given they are trying to avoid paying taxes on them!

How bizarre and rude

Ignore the message

I thought you meant you'd happen to bump into her in Spain. And she asked you to go and buy you some. Like a 13 year old asking a sixth former to buy her some fags...

I’d reply saying you didn’t bring any extra spending money.

My sister used to bring back duty free for people when she travelled. The last time she did it her bag was opened somewhere along the journey and the duty free was stolen. When she got home her friend was disappointed not to have any cigarettes but didn’t offer my sister the money for them!

I don’t buy cigarettes for people either.

If u feel the need to reply, just say you're already bringing them back for family members.

Pretend you didn't get the message. It's not as if you socialise with her every week so easy to ignore.

Butchyrestingface I now want a shetland pony called Angus!

The OP hasnt been back so it doesnt look as though she is overly invested in responses from here.

I too just wondered at the "incredibly sporty" comment and its relevance to the request.

One thing some peoples boundaries are totally different to others. So the other lady can ask and take a chance and the OP is wel within her rights to say No, not possible.

Initially, I thought it outrageously rude and then as I scrolled through, I wondered how this person knew you were os. another Poster suggested FB and it all fell into place!

If this person is on your social media pages, yet you have nothing to do with them, isn't time to restrict their access to your information? Assuming of course you keep your pages private and not for the public to read... That way they still think you are FB friends (if that is the platform you used to spread the word you were going away) but from here on in, they will not see any new updates.

Make yourself less available OP then you are unlikely to receive cheeky requests!

Ignore