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CF Request - just ignore?

159 replies

OpheliaBee · 07/10/2019 07:06

I’m on a short break in Spain with DH and DC. Someone I know from a job I had 10 years ago and very occasionally bump into has just messaged me, asking to buy her cigarettes. Literally nothing about me suggests that I am pro-smoking. She’s never seen me smoke, I’m incredibly sporty, I’m asthmatic, and I have a young child. (She definitely know all of the things) I’m fine if other people want to smoke, far away from me, but no chance am I buying cigarettes for others.

AIBU to think this is really bloody inappropriate? Unsure whether to say something or just pretend I didn’t see the message. She’s quite a confrontational person.

OP posts:
delorisvancartier · 07/10/2019 07:47

It's a faff to bring cigarettes back for people, going out your way in the airport or wherever etc If I'm ever asked I always just say "sorry I'm already bringing some back for someone else"

acatcalledjohn · 07/10/2019 07:48

I wouldn't say sorry. A simple "No, I won't be buying cigarettes" will suffice.

ChasingRainbows19 · 07/10/2019 07:48

A lot of my family smoke I don't. I hate it which they are very aware of. It's been the cause of family members deaths.
Anyway even they would never ask me and never have. Never mind a random you worked with once and don't even keep in touch with. Nope sorry either ignore or just reply with no can do!

BeanBag7 · 07/10/2019 07:50

Would you have the same problem if she had asked you to buy cheap booze, perfume or chocolate? Is it the fact its cigarettes that is the problem, or the fact she has asked you for a favour when you barely know her?

Yugi · 07/10/2019 07:51

Is she asking them to buy them as a gift for you? If she is going to pay for them, then you risk having them confiscated and your name flagging up on customs databases for ever more. I wouldn’t do it.

ReanimatedSGB · 07/10/2019 07:52

Well it's a little pushy and rude to be pestering acquaintances to do you favours, but there's no need for all this shock and pooing with rage and how DARE you.

OldEvilOwl · 07/10/2019 07:53

I would just ignore it

kmammamalto · 07/10/2019 07:54

🤣🤣 she's not asking you to bring back crack!!! Just say no or ignore it. Incredibly sporty 😂

mumwon · 07/10/2019 07:58

this kind of thing is where I state (poor dh wouldn't dream of being like this!) that my dh says no!

TheProdigalKittensReturn · 07/10/2019 07:59

It's the giving someone who you barely talk to and haven't worked with in years your shopping list bit that I'd be raising my eyebrows at rather than the has asthma and a child bit. Ignore. And yes, CF.

AmIThough · 07/10/2019 08:07

She's not asking you to buy and smoke them for herHmm

She's a CFer for expecting a favour from someone she hardly knows but your views on smoking are irrelevant.

Likethebattle · 07/10/2019 08:08

OP Spain do better analgesics over the counter. Can you grab me a couple of boxes of Ibuprofen 600mg please? Ta much!

GeneHuntLover · 07/10/2019 08:09

I'd say no as I hadn't seen her for months and you'll probably never get the money back for them, same if it was booze or anything else. Not sure why the rest is relevant though

GeneHuntLover · 07/10/2019 08:10

pooing with rage 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Chocolatedeficitdisorder · 07/10/2019 08:21

Can you grab me a couple of boxes of Ibuprofen 600mg please? Ta much!

Can't you just take 3x200mgs?

LtJudyHopps · 07/10/2019 08:21

chuckeeee I didn’t say they were duty free, but the shop in the airports is called World Duty Free... if you’re going to be pedantic at least be right about it.

acatcalledjohn · 07/10/2019 08:21

this kind of thing is where I state (poor dh wouldn't dream of being like this!) that my dh says no!

If he wouldn't dream of being like that, why would you pretend to others that he is?

CalmdownJanet · 07/10/2019 08:24

The fact she knows you don't smoke is the very reason she asked though, because she knows you won't be buying them for yourself.

Just ignore or say "Nope, no luggage space in packed or hand luggage, and we are over in weight"

Penners99 · 07/10/2019 08:28

Buy then and ask for full UK price from CF

Chewbecca · 07/10/2019 08:33

Just say 'sorry, no luggage space'

northerngirl2012 · 07/10/2019 08:37

I'd just ignore the message, if she ever brings it up again, say what message.

CharityDingle · 07/10/2019 08:40

Just delete the message and forget about it. Why even start a thread on something so trivial - you're on holidays, go and enjoy them!

Purplecatshopaholic · 07/10/2019 08:41

I would genuinely think this was a mistake and ignore it

Butchyrestingface · 07/10/2019 08:42

You don’t have room in your luggage, what a shame.

As for the stuff about you being asthmatic, a non-smoker, sporty (!) and having a kid - irrelevant to an embarrassing degree. She’s not asking you and your kid to sit in an airtight 3x3m container with her while she puffs her ways through the lot.

Mammylamb · 07/10/2019 08:42

Yabvu to have it posted on Facebook that you are on holiday.

People will know your house is empty and someone may break in!

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