CF Request - just ignore?

[OpheliaBee]

I’m on a short break in Spain with DH and DC. Someone I know from a job I had 10 years ago and very occasionally bump into has just messaged me, asking to buy her cigarettes. Literally nothing about me suggests that I am pro-smoking. She’s never seen me smoke, I’m incredibly sporty, I’m asthmatic, and I have a young child. (She definitely know all of the things) I’m fine if other people want to smoke, far away from me, but no chance am I buying cigarettes for others.

AIBU to think this is really bloody inappropriate? Unsure whether to say something or just pretend I didn’t see the message. She’s quite a confrontational person.

cf most certainly ignore that one!

I wouldn't bring fags back for anyone

sorry no can do,

never mind about your attitude to smoking, but the fact that you so rarely see each other would be reason enough not to fork out, at your expense for her fags

People will know your house is empty and someone may break in!

You don’t know that her house is empty. They may have family staying there caring for her 3 dogs, 4 cats, iguana and a small shetland pony called Angus.

Do people really not understand an asthmatic being outraged at being asked to buy cigarettes?? I know everyone likes to shit on everyone on MN these days but OP has a valid point.

Even pointing out she's sporty. Smoking is a dirty fucking addiction. Who in their right mind would even slightly encourage it.

Buying cigarettes for someone is not encouraging it, it’s not like they’re going to quit smoking if you don’t do it.

I have never smoked and think it’s foul but I don’t judge others for their choices.

Just ignore the message OP. If you really want to send a response just tell her you’re already buying them for someone else.

Do people really not understand an asthmatic being outraged at being asked to buy cigarettes??

I’m asthmatic. I imagine some people who’ve commented may be too. It’s not an unusual condition. And so long as she wasn’t planning to smoke them near me, the request wouldn’t bother me on those grounds.

I wouldn’t be using up space in my luggage to bring cigarettes back for someone I’d struggle to pick out of a police line up though.

How does she know you are on holiday? I never put on Facebook that I'm away. I might put the odd photo on when I get back.

She is a CF though and I would just ignore the message.

@Fairenuff I came on to say that too but you beat me to it!

I think she’s being cheeky in so much as she is no longer in your life. This is one problem with FB, you are linked to people that you will really have no connection with any longer. Perhaps it’s time to alter your settings or have a FB cull! In regard to her request, I think I would say that you cannot bring back anything else for other people, because you have been asked too many times already. Then delete or block her on FB.

You don’t know that her house is empty. They may have family staying there caring for her 3 dogs, 4 cats, iguana and a small shetland pony called Angus.

I would love a Shetland pony called Angus but her house is probably empty.

@Butchyrestingface how dare you suggest she might have a dog - she has asthma, you know.

@Butchyrestingface how dare you suggest she might have a dog - she has asthma, you know

Shit. Scrap that then. Someone’s housesitting for the iguana.

I was always fine with dog fur. It’s cats that set me off.

'Hi. I stopped doing this for people back in the 90s. Hope that helps'.

You could just get them for her and do her a favour. Good deeds and all that.

Don’t even bother replying.

If she knows where you live then don't reply until after you're home.

Definitely ignore. Such a cheek. Especially as you don't smoke why would she think you'd support a disgusting habit and that for someone you barely know!

You sound a bit snotty OP, with your incredibly sporty body .

She has asked you, not ordered you. Just say no.

Do people really not understand an asthmatic being outraged at being asked to buy cigarettes??

This is so laughable, my mum is a chronic asthmatic and she bought 4 x 20 carton packs of Marlboros for smokers in the family when we came back from hols last week. My mum understands she is not smoking the cigarettes herself.

‘Sorry I’m already bringing some back for someone else’ is an easy, non-confrontational way to say no if that’s what you’re after. As long as you can cope with someone you worked with ten years ago thinking you would ever do that kind of thing.

If you’re more interested in emphasising how abhorrent you find smoking then just tell her what you’ve posted here, but that could well lead to a fall out.

Or just ignore.

I’m still pretty friendly with some people I worked with ten years or even longer ago. I might not bring fags back for them necessarily but in their case I’d go with the ‘already doing it for someone else’ white lie. If it’s someone who you never interact with but just happens to be on your Facebook and have your phone number still (or was it a FB message?) then I’d just ignore and maybe delete once home.

Unless she started her text "Hi OpheliaBee" I would assume she texted you by mistake. How would she know you are on holiday anyway if you haven't communicated in 10 years?

How would she know you are on holiday anyway if you haven't communicated in 10 years?

Facebook friend.

Hilarious. Incredibly sporty.