CF Request - just ignore?

[OpheliaBee]

I’m on a short break in Spain with DH and DC. Someone I know from a job I had 10 years ago and very occasionally bump into has just messaged me, asking to buy her cigarettes. Literally nothing about me suggests that I am pro-smoking. She’s never seen me smoke, I’m incredibly sporty, I’m asthmatic, and I have a young child. (She definitely know all of the things) I’m fine if other people want to smoke, far away from me, but no chance am I buying cigarettes for others.

AIBU to think this is really bloody inappropriate? Unsure whether to say something or just pretend I didn’t see the message. She’s quite a confrontational person.

I hate cigarettes and wouldn't buy them on principle, even if I wasn't having to smoke them myself! I'd message back saying "Sorry no, I hate cigarettes and don't want them anywhere near me; they're definitely not going in my luggage!"

She'll never message you again - no great loss!

Ignore the message. If she did ever contact you to see if you bought them I'd either ignore that too, or text back that you assumed her first message was for someone else.

I would either ignore or reply “sorry, no I can’t” and don’t give any reasons or excuses.
Then amend your settings for messenger to ignore all messages from her.

My view is that if people want to smoke they can jolly well pay their taxes in the UK to pay for their treatment from the NHS.

I’d just ignore and if she messaged through Facebook or WhatsApp, turn off notifications for her messages.

Just ignore it, you haven’t seen her for 10 years... complete CF

Hilarious. Incredibly sporty.

Apropos of nothing, I’m thinking of a username change.

Incredibly sporty seems like a relevant enough detail to me.

Apart from the fact you're not in regular contact with this woman, I really don't see the problem with buying her cheap cigarettes. Are you concerned people will see you buying them/carrying them and assume, despite being incredibly sporty, you are a secret smoker?

She’s quite a confrontational person

Translates as she’s not a doormat.

Incredibly sporty seems like a relevant enough detail to me.

Because she’d be more capable of lugging a heavy suitcase heaving with duty free fags than the average couch potato?

"I really don't see the problem with buying her cheap cigarettes"

I wouldn't buy anyone cigarettes, cheap or otherwise. It is a principle thing for me. My mum was a heavy smoker and died a slow, horrible death as a result. I hate the habit.

I'd just totally ignore the text

Isn't the problem really that when you are buying Duty Paid goods in the EU, they are supposed to be either for personal use or a gift.

Buying for someone and bringing back is technically against the rules. Personal use is presumed to be around 4 sleeves, and that is if you have smoking paraphenalia with you.

Haha based on the reaction to this thread just reply with "don't you know I'm super sporty" and she'll fuck off chuntering about you!

It's only cheeky because you don't know her very well, other than that you're being a bit high-horsey imo

she's not asking you to bring back crack!!! Just say no or ignore it. Incredibly sporty

@kmammamalto - I assumed everyone knew that cigarettes are the crack of the incredibly sporting world. Obvs.

Incredibly sporty sounds like a magazine that would be written as, “Incredibly Sporty!” on the cover in neon yellow, and feature people running sky marathons in Switzerland and bungee-jumping off the O2 and such. It better not just mean that you’re in slightly better shape than the average bear as I’ll be well disappointed, OP.

Just say no, sorry, you don't have the money to spend on them even if she paid you back when you got home.

Some people are so cheeky, but at the same time it's scary what they'd do to feed the addiction.

My partner and I know a girl who phoned him one time out of the blue - they were Facebook friends because they went to school together - and said she'd seen he was online, and could he go to the shop and get her some cigs, as otherwise she would have to leave her baby in the house to go to the shop - she would have actually done this! He didn't want that to happen and we were on our way home from somewhere anyway so we went round to get the money from her first (we had none on us, and had to pass the street to get home anyway) and she just said aw thank you so much, but I only get paid Tuesday (it was Friday night) so could she transfer it to us then!! No!! We left.

An acquaintance from 10 years ago who is a confrontational CF - time to delete from fb do you think?

Don’t think the sportiness is relevant. Anyone of slight acquaintance asking you to get stuff though is cheeky. I’d just say I won’t have room as already getting loads of duty free.

Just ignore.

Don't waste time thinking about it.

Burglars will love you now you've advertised your empty house.

I'd definitely just ignore.

Sorry but I have a rule to never buy cigarettes for anyone, as I don't agree with smoking.
Is a great reply and true

Just block her....

I’m with mummy2017.

I know quite a few smokers who are panicking about Brexit potentially hindering their cigarette runs to Spain and are trying to get anyone they know to bring them cigs back. It sounds as if your 'friend' is desperate, just reply saying it isn't possible.