To mourn MN as it was in the Moulden Days

[GregoriaTheGreat]

Admittedly, it was not perfect (full of quiches and Queen Bees). So much so that I gave it a rest for a considerable while. I may even have Flounced at some point (though was not a Mouldie. I would never have been cool enough).

But I now mourn the Olden Days when nobody had to bother with "lighthearted" when a thread was evidently lighthearted. Nobody took everything quite so seriously, even when they would have good reason to.

Posters generally had a decent command of spelling and grammar, too.

Maybe I'm just old and need to take up knitting or something.

I started posting in 2005 when I was having fertility issues. MN kept me sane during the baby and toddler years that started for me in 2006. Now that my adorable little baby is a somewhat smelly and stroppy nearly teen I’m back while I try and figure out what the hell I am doing parenting wise.

I’m more interested in the FWR board these days and it has really opened my eyes to things I hadn’t really considered.

Yes you’re absolutely right CarolDanvers, it wasn’t just about them being pals, I’d forgotten how if one of them were getting a pasting there would be an influx of so called pals jumping in to defend them, no matter what they were saying. That was pretty cringe.

shivering I've changed names many times. Get bored of them or feel like I've blabbed way too much identifying personal information and get paranoid!

I was Bugsy when the volcanoes were still erupting and I'm Molly in the book. I am proof that the universe existed before Cod!

there are still threads on mn that are not very welcoming. that hasn't changed.
there used to be a lot of accusations of calling in your pals. most times it was because the thread appealed to a certain group.

@MargoLovebutter I think I probably joined after reading the same article to ask about DS's lack of sleep. DS is now 20 and has no issues sleeping!

I've always been more of a lurker than a contributor - never cool or witty enough!

One thing I do miss is the BESH, on the fertility boards. I rarely posted there (under old usernames) because by the time they came into being I had reconciled myself to my lack of fertility, but that was a good example of a genuinely witty, sparky group of people who became friends and had in-jokes but who were genuinely welcoming of anyone who joined their threads in the position of being in their 30s, struggling to conceive and wanting support in terms a little less twee than babydust and babydancing. I used to have a little private squee of delight whenever any of them got their BFP and it stuck.

Brexit was Hully's idea and she leaks all the stories to the DM. It is also her fault that my Chinese take-away was shit. And Waitrose was supposed to open here and Hully stopped it.

LOL Eve, yes my DS sleeps pretty well too aged 20 as well! I remember wetting myself about sleep training and posting endlessly and very fretfully about it. All works out in the end but it seems so massive at the time.

I'm about as witty as a worm and as cool as a kettle but I don't let that stop me!!!!! I'm so glad there are other ancient relics around too.

I really don’t see how people expect alleged Queen Bees to see the error of their ways and just concede that they or the cliques that operated with or around them were shitty/nasty/hurtful/actually caused pain instead of just being benign, hilarious friendship groups, nor to feel much, if any, sympathy for those who might have felt that way.

I’m not saying anyone was (I don’t actually remember exactly when I joined up, nor have I personally ever really noticed any behaviour like that - but I do tend not to get involved in playground dramas, I find them so incredibly tedious and a huge waste of time and mental energy. I really don’t pay any attention to power plays and politics), but if they were, what do you hope to achieve by arguing over it here? Calling them out on it probably won’t make you feel any better, they certainly won’t agree with you, and if you know you’re as in the right as it’s possible for your subjective position to be and can stand by the courage of your convictions, then you’ve already got the moral high ground.

Let people reminisce. They weren’t all involved in whatever actions caused you difficulty, and MN itself most certainly was not all bad.

I remember one lovely poster who had a beautiful daughter that died of leukaemia. I remember reading her threads and crying and that despite going through the worst thing ever she was still able to advise and help others.

I think that was Expat in Scotland Pablos. I lit a candle for her daughter the night she died. MN can bring out the best in people sometimes.

@CarolDanvers spot on.

Her daughters name was Billie, funny what sticks with you. Yes that is very true

What I find really weird (apart from the amount of energy invested in going "You're a right cunt" over and over), is this idea that people summoned each other and flocked.

It's so paranoid. How or what on earth do you think happened?? Do you honestly think anyone somehow (and how would they anyway?) could be arsed to go and "summon" people?? Just so nuts.

I "knew" about 200 people on here. I said hello to anyone I recognised. I went on threads that I thought would be fun, and often there were like-minded people I knew on there. I can only speak for myself, even though I seem to have become the spokesperson for the 200 criminals that ruined MN for the other 40 thousand and 800 who seemed unable to talk to each other as they were too busy fulminating about people who didn't even know they existed, let alone deliberately ignored them, when I say you're all a bit mental.

Also, long lasting and persistent resentment, bitterness and anger will cause inflammation in the body and is really bad for your health. So maybe do some yoga or mindfulness or something instead.

HTH

Pablo, I believe Billie was Mrs De V's daughter, Expat's was A. Equally heartbreaking, of course.

I recognise a lot of the names popping up on this thread 😊
Tbh mn was a life saver for me back then, but god I moaned a lot lol.

I'm thankfully a lot more chilled out now lol.

I became great mates with another mner and we talk most days still and have met up a few time 😁

Expat’s dd was Ailish.

You have a very memorable name FuckYouChris!

Bertrand, I wrote A because i wasn't sure of the etiquette of full names on here these days. Daren't risk any more great big bloomers.

These things can look completely different from opposite perspectives, I guess. And when someone is in a particularly low or vulnerable place I don’t always think Internet forums are actually all that good for the psyche, which is paradoxical, because at the same time being able to exist in an anonymous space is very helpful indeed.

I’m just glad for all the good things I’ve gleaned from being here.

So maybe do some yoga or mindfulness or something instead.

Alternatively - KILL THEM.

That takes me back.

Is expat here any more? Her DD was Aillidh.

Such a long time ago now.

It wasn't her, im sure the poster im thinking of had Mrs in her username

Your great big bloomers are legendary.

I love a big comfy bloomer.

Thing is there are always arseholes, and there will always be people who get on and others who feel a bit left out. Sometimes things go to shit a bit but on the whole it is still a good place to fuck about a bit.

Pablo, that was MrsDeVere