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To mourn MN as it was in the Moulden Days

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GregoriaTheGreat · 02/10/2019 21:59

Admittedly, it was not perfect (full of quiches and Queen Bees). So much so that I gave it a rest for a considerable while. I may even have Flounced at some point (though was not a Mouldie. I would never have been cool enough).

But I now mourn the Olden Days when nobody had to bother with "lighthearted" when a thread was evidently lighthearted. Nobody took everything quite so seriously, even when they would have good reason to.

Posters generally had a decent command of spelling and grammar, too.

Maybe I'm just old and need to take up knitting or something.

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Hullygully · 03/10/2019 20:57

I do accept it as some people's experience, Placid, as I said before. I just think it unnecessary

BIWI · 03/10/2019 21:09

@keiratwiceknightly definitely not! I have no idea if I was ever put forward or blackballed for Moldies! Grin

perpetuallyperplexedbylife · 03/10/2019 21:10

I've been here for about six years and didn't come to it when my dc was very young. I'd been aware of it for a while before that. I think it's changed even in that time, it certainly moves very quickly.

My only real experience of a forum of any sort before that was The Ladies Loos on Livejournal, but that died a death. I find that any forum seems to get a bit cliquey at times. I've been accused of making up a thread on here years ago, when it was all true. I very nearly didn't come back, as it was one of my first threads, and it was so unpleasant that I had it deleted! It still merits a read though - I like to see people's takes on current affairs.

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 03/10/2019 21:10

So much irony on this thread
Lol

PrincessMargaret · 03/10/2019 21:12

I have very fond memories of stupid and funny threads, like when Chaos l0st her v0wels, and Hully and co derailing by talking about cupcakes. Getorf and her sheets, and whoever was the poster with Yum Yum Frankie, her local Dutch or Belgian policeman...? I do big sighs at those who remember a certain royal poster as she was a cow who reported everyone. It used to be much more FUN though, that's true. I can remember chortling in the office at many a thread, and those days when a proper big troll was spotted were the source of much excitement.

PlacidPenelope · 03/10/2019 21:13

What's unnecessary Hully, that people had those experiences, hold those opinions or that they voiced them on this thread?

ShirleyPhallus · 03/10/2019 21:14

Maybe one person's hilarious friendship group is another person's "bullying clique“

This is exactly it. But you only need to read threads about 14 year olds being bitchy to each other to know that when you’re in that circle, it’s hilarious and everything is wonderful and you feel invincible and it’s very easy to get carried away being far meaner to people than you would otherwise. But when you’re on the outside, it’s utterly alienating and can feel very personal.

I thought most people had grown out of that school girl mentality so it’s challenging to be on that receiving end as an adult, on a forum that’s meant to be predominantly supportive

perpetuallyperplexedbylife · 03/10/2019 21:15

Oh, and I had been put off the place before finally dipping my toe in by a group of local Mumsnetters who used to meet at my workplace, and whose ringleader was the nastiest little queen bee you could wish to meet - she really was vile, and actually had a first time visitor to the group in tears! Her kids were vile little brats too, but I suppose that wasn't their fault. I do remember thinking that that group was not a good advert for Mumsnet!

fattt · 03/10/2019 21:16

To be fair Shirley that would probably be the popular troll ...

ohwellherewegoagain · 03/10/2019 21:17

I agree wholeheartedly. I am an old git and recall fondly the early days of the internet when chat rooms were full of witty intelligent types chatting nonsense (probably away on business in a sad hotel room, but forget that, that's far less appealing). ...then everyone suddenly got in on it and it became all about ASL? - and in today's parlance on Mumsent, U ok hun? (DONT HUN ME OR I WILL EXPLODE!) or 101 tips for vacuously cleaning every surface in your greige home with zoflora and then posting it on the internet because you are SO JOLLY INTERESTING .
hun.
obvs
etc

untoldstories · 03/10/2019 21:18

I remember the rather wonderful Father Christmas thread, shall we have one again this year?

BIWI · 03/10/2019 21:20

One of the things I miss most is the horses going to the Olympics thread. It must have been in Chat as it's disappeared now. But it was one of the funniest threads I've read here. I did - actually, literally, - laugh out loud reading it. Why oh why it wasn't moved to Classics I have no idea.

karala · 03/10/2019 21:20

CAT me you Cunts!

derxa · 03/10/2019 21:21

Thank God I wasn't on here in ye olden days. Sounds bloody horrific.
I do keep in mind that 'it's only words on a screen' though. I'm too old to be bothered what people say.

gingersausage · 03/10/2019 21:22

@Hullygully et al what you don’t seem to want to acknowledge is that the way you act can actually hurt people. Even on this thread, you and your little group have swooped in (obviously heard the klaxon?!) and started the ridiculous brigading. Between Sparkling Brook making passive aggressive remarks about not being allowed to have friends and Cod shutting down anyone who has any opinions at all, you’d have to be incredibly obtuse to not see what people are getting at when they say they feel excluded. It’s the over-whelming tone of supercilious smuggery combined with faux naïveté.

Hullygully · 03/10/2019 21:23

Placid, unnecessary to feel that way

ShirleyPhallus · 03/10/2019 21:26

To be fair Shirley that would probably be the popular troll ...

The troll only accounts for about 1% of posts talking about that kind of hurtful behaviour. Plenty of other examples exist

LisaSimpsonsbff · 03/10/2019 21:26

Well I just googled 'lisasimpsonsbff + reddit' to see if I'd ever posted anything that had been mocked and found one post describing me as 'cool' in 2018 and so now I'm all for this Reddit Mumsnet thing that I'd never heard of before today.

Hullygully · 03/10/2019 21:26

Ginger sausage that is a quite extraordinary extrapolation.
Fwiw I don't know cod, and have spoken to sparkling probs twice several years ago.
I think your post speaks volumes about how you experience life and that sadly is your problem and not very nice for you

Also, klaxons. Really?

PablosHoney · 03/10/2019 21:27

Sounds so sad

NoSauce · 03/10/2019 21:28

Talk about holding a grudge for god knows how long gingersausage! Jeez.

fattt · 03/10/2019 21:28

Go and say hello on the drink thread Lisa. It’s good fun.

BIWI · 03/10/2019 21:30

@gingersausage

@Hullygully et al what you don’t seem to want to acknowledge is that the way you act can actually hurt people. Even on this thread, you and your little group have swooped in (obviously heard the klaxon?!) and started the ridiculous brigading. Between Sparkling Brook making passive aggressive remarks about not being allowed to have friends and Cod shutting down anyone who has any opinions at all, you’d have to be incredibly obtuse to not see what people are getting at when they say they feel excluded. It’s the over-whelming tone of supercilious smuggery combined with faux naïveté

I'm sorry, but this is ridiculous. There is no klaxon, just lots of people reading a thread that's been in active convos for most of the evening. There's been a clear acknowledgement that people might feel hurt, because Hully has been asking people to explain why!

Posters have different opinions, views and experiences - all of which are playing out on this thread!

dementedma · 03/10/2019 21:31

I miss catthief Keith. Her posts made me cry with laughter. Taken from us too soon. And Zombie, witty and courageous to the last RIP ladies.

PablosHoney · 03/10/2019 21:33

Is this for real 😳

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