To mourn MN as it was in the Moulden Days

[GregoriaTheGreat]

Admittedly, it was not perfect (full of quiches and Queen Bees). So much so that I gave it a rest for a considerable while. I may even have Flounced at some point (though was not a Mouldie. I would never have been cool enough).

But I now mourn the Olden Days when nobody had to bother with "lighthearted" when a thread was evidently lighthearted. Nobody took everything quite so seriously, even when they would have good reason to.

Posters generally had a decent command of spelling and grammar, too.

Maybe I'm just old and need to take up knitting or something.

I was on a thread that had been going a while and a newbie to MN arrived, explained they were new and joined in. Then the thread went poof as it was a troll OP.
So I PM'ed the newbie and said to come over to another thread I was on and join in with that instead, and they did.

As a newbie myself I just threw myself in so to speak which is probably why I got that really strange PM a week in asking who I used to be.

I agree - ironically in the older days when there were fewer users, it was actually harder to enter conversations due to cliquishness.

It may not have been your experience Hullygully but as is clear on this thread it was the experience of others.

Placid, So do you expect to be included in any conversation you wish to join?

I don't, if I see people are really chatting away and enjoying themselves I leave them to it because that is fine, how nice for them. I'd just go and chat to someone else both on MN and in RL

Another day I might see the same person/some of them somewhere else where they are not so engaged, and get chatting then. Isn't that normal?

I was made to feel like a twat by a poster on here many years ago
Doubt they remember it
They're still here behaving like a queen bee self satisfied twat
Thankfully far less than they used to be
It hit me at a crap time
I left for ages

This is fascinating as I've only been on Mumsnet for a few years - I assumed it had never been any different!

But can someone explain what "the whole Moldies thing" was??

Likewise as a newbie I just joined in Sparklingbrook but some people are not quite so confident or robust and don't deal well with being ignored or belittled.

hobnobs, but that is life everywhere, no? Arses to the left of us arses to the right. Just tell them to fuck off.

I am in no way confident or robust, in fact quite the opposite but I had spent quite a long time lurking and getting the measure of the site before I took the plunge to post.

Hullygully

No one is objecting to people making online friendships. You can make wonderful connections online without being part of a bullying clique.

see what I did there?

Too soon?

@ReadyPayerTwo if you read the thread you'll see someone has already explained it!

I’ve been on Mumsnet on and off over the years and whilst I understand that a new generation of posters will have different views and opinions, it’s the moderation that has become biased and unfair.

There was a horrible clique a few years ago headed by a self appointed Queen Bee who had posters fawning over her because she had suffered in life and that somehow made it ok for her to air her ignorant and nasty views with others trailing after her not wanting to challenge her as she would bring up her suffering to silence anyone who spoke against her.

She’s probably gone over to the Reddit group as that seems to be populated by equally bitter and nescient women wittering on about threads and bitching about posters in their little coven! 😂

Ok, I give up.

Maybe one person's hilarious friendship group is another person's "bullying clique"

I don't know.

I don't think there's any need for any of it. You want to talk, talk. If no one acknowledges you, talk louder. JUST LIKE REAL LIFE

I honestly cannot believe that there are a group of people who are so sad and obsessed with mumsnet that they stalk the threads on here then go over to reddit to discuss the threads

I mean, get a life?!

Placid, So do you expect to be included in any conversation you wish to join?

On an internet chat forum or in real life? Surely a forum such as this by it's very nature is open to all and therefore to close ranks and exclude someone wanting to join in goes against the whole premise of it? You either haven't seen it happen on here or don't remember it but it was prevalent a number of years ago as even long term posters on this thread have acknowledged.

I went over to Reddit o CS and searched for myself. I do not recommend it.......

It would never actually occur to me to do that! Why would you?

I’m fine with remaining blissfully unaware of whether a bunch of randoms on t’internet might have ever discussed something to do with me, and/or what their opinions might be.

It always goes the same way on these threads some original/long standing members acknowledge and accept criticism of the way the site was in the olden days, some do not and take it as a personal attack on them.

Posters have voiced their opinions and experiences of the site both good and bad, why is it so difficult for some to accept that for some it wasn't all blissful?

There are, I'm sure (because I'm a member of at least 2!), countless places on the internet where MN is being discussed. Usually these are spin-off places where people have created friendship groups that they want to keep private. But inevitably threads (and posters) here get discussed.

Shock!! Are you a ...Mouldie, BIWI??!

Shoulda done a wink and a fishy tail

“t would never actually occur to me to do that! Why would you?”
Idle curiosity! It was quite entertaining.
At the time, I did find the Moldie thing quite upsetting- because a lot of the people I had thought of as friends went. And they didn’t just go, the kept popping back to say what fun it was! It was a very strange experience.

I can imagine, and yes, I’d probably have felt at least a twinge of hurt too.

I’m scared of Reddit (so many observed instances of uhm, just plain weirdness, plus the utterly baffling interface) so I’ve never taken the plunge. And I’m quite certain I never, ever will.