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To mourn MN as it was in the Moulden Days

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GregoriaTheGreat · 02/10/2019 21:59

Admittedly, it was not perfect (full of quiches and Queen Bees). So much so that I gave it a rest for a considerable while. I may even have Flounced at some point (though was not a Mouldie. I would never have been cool enough).

But I now mourn the Olden Days when nobody had to bother with "lighthearted" when a thread was evidently lighthearted. Nobody took everything quite so seriously, even when they would have good reason to.

Posters generally had a decent command of spelling and grammar, too.

Maybe I'm just old and need to take up knitting or something.

OP posts:
Cod · 03/10/2019 19:37

Wnaky baskets

NoSauce · 03/10/2019 19:38

I liked usualsuspect

I did too. She was a decent soul with a bad temper at times 😍

PlacidPenelope · 03/10/2019 19:43

I dgaf if people resent friendships. Make your own ffs.

Classic example of proving the point some posters are making.

Hasn't it just dirtyrottenscoundrel, but hey let's all celebrate the Good Old Days!

SlightlyWizened · 03/10/2019 19:47

Lentil weavers

Hullygully · 03/10/2019 19:50

I agree with cod on the friendship thing. BUT I think the problem comes from it being so public. If you meet a group of mates down the pub/cafe/whatever, your laughs and friendship are unseen. This weird public-community hybrid doesn't fit with that. I think people come on here expecting equality and inclusiveness in a way that they don't in RL. They are sold a lie of anonymity and equal weighting. And are upset when they find that MN is pretty much like RL because people are people, (I feel a song and some lighter waving coming on) and tend to form like-minded groups.

Cod · 03/10/2019 19:50

🤷🏻‍♀️ And I don’t care.

Personal insults don’t bother me.

I’ll get back to lording. THANKS FOR STALKING

Hullygully · 03/10/2019 19:51

But Placid, where in the MN rules does it say you can't make friends?

Seriously?

In RL are you equally friends with everyone you know? Or do you find some more congenial than others and hang out with them?

TantrumsAndBalloons · 03/10/2019 19:53

Don’t worry, there are no friendships here now
No waving, no hello’s, everyone pretends they have no idea who anyone is

Mysterian · 03/10/2019 19:53

I remember the old days. Mumsnet was in black and white and cost 10s 6d a year to run. You got threads through the post back then, as long as the coach wasn't robbed by a highway man. If I recall the first couple of threads were "Francis Drake - CF?" and the infamous "Member tankard" one.

Hullygully · 03/10/2019 19:55

Don’t worry, there are no friendships here now
No waving, no hello’s, everyone pretends they have no idea who anyone is

Isn't that a terribly sad solution to some people feeling "left out?"

JellyBook · 03/10/2019 19:55

I remember when Chaos said she used to go to school with Matthew Wright and he was mean and stole her pineapple eraser, and he bloody mentioned her on his show, and said actually I went to an all boys school.

(MW was known to scan MN for stories for discussion on his show)

Sparklingbrook · 03/10/2019 19:55

I think the official line is 'I never notice user names' isn't it? While simultaneously noticing every user name Grin

HarissaPaste · 03/10/2019 19:57

I wasn’t talking about anyone who had contributed to this thread so far, honestly I barely remember you, but if the cap fits...

JellyBook · 03/10/2019 19:57

Well this is typical. it’s all going on while I’m typing away about sommat.

That hasn’t changed HmmGrin

Hullygully · 03/10/2019 20:02

I just had a look at that there reddit .

There is a chat about this very thread even as it knits.

So meta.

Coo ee!

JellyBook · 03/10/2019 20:03

It’s not that hard to just join in and chat, as opposed to the being snippy about people chatting, that is.

TantrumsAndBalloons · 03/10/2019 20:04

It’s very sad hully

Hence the reason you don’t see half the people on this thread on MN at any other time

Fun is a bad thing now. Everyone now types sh*t instead of helpfully calling a cunt a cunt iyswim

Hullygully · 03/10/2019 20:05

ps I agree about the photo thing

Sorry, I am quite elderly and so very much enjoying all the mad cross over. Is there a chat about the reddit chat about the MN chat on FB or whatsapp or summat?

Wouldn't that be great?

Hullygully · 03/10/2019 20:06

That's what I think jelly, just join in. Again, it's like RL. You wouldn't march up to a group of people who knew each other well and demand equal billing, you'd spend time, getting to know them and vice versa and letting the r'ship develop organically.

PlacidPenelope · 03/10/2019 20:09

Who is saying you can't make or form friendships?

What is being said is as I stated in my previous long post is that some of those friendships/cliques formed in the early days of MN excluded posters who joined the site later. Do you never welcome anyone else into a group once you have formed one? Do you just ring fence it and not allow any further members? I don't. Yes there are people in real life I spend more time with and gravitate more towards but if I was in a group of people chatting and someone approached I wouldn't ignore them or shut them out because they weren't part of the founding group, would you, do you?

A number of the original members/earlier members of MN deny they ever shut anyone out, but they did. Pages and pages of threads with posters chatting amongst themselves, ignoring or sniping at anyone attempting to join in all whilst giving only cursory consideration to the person who started the thread.

As I will reiterate that NOT ALL MN longer term members were like this but a fair few were, the impression they gave was that this was their domain and they ruled the roost which is I guess why the 'MN Royalty' tag came into being.

BullyBuster · 03/10/2019 20:11

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Hullygully · 03/10/2019 20:12

Placid, I can only say that was not my experience.

BIWI · 03/10/2019 20:13
Grin
PlacidPenelope · 03/10/2019 20:14

Don’t worry, there are no friendships here now
No waving, no hello’s, everyone pretends they have no idea who anyone is

Isn't that a terribly sad solution to some people feeling "left out?"

and the easy answer to that would have been not to leave people out wouldn't it? It wasn't just a case of leaving people out it was more a case of completely ignoring their existence in the hope they would go away.

Fizzypoo · 03/10/2019 20:14

My favourite thing to do as a young single mum years ago was to have a glass of wine on the friday night chat thread. It was like being down the pub with your mates.

Now I'm old.

@Sparklingbrook we used to chat about putting cats in wheelie black bins and you would be horrified - but it was funny. Now I would be diagnosed with a personality disorder.