To mourn MN as it was in the Moulden Days

[GregoriaTheGreat]

Admittedly, it was not perfect (full of quiches and Queen Bees). So much so that I gave it a rest for a considerable while. I may even have Flounced at some point (though was not a Mouldie. I would never have been cool enough).

But I now mourn the Olden Days when nobody had to bother with "lighthearted" when a thread was evidently lighthearted. Nobody took everything quite so seriously, even when they would have good reason to.

Posters generally had a decent command of spelling and grammar, too.

Maybe I'm just old and need to take up knitting or something.

I’ll probably get flamed for this but I couldn’t stand the woman who called her husband ‘manshape’ and everyone was weirdly cliquey and strangely defensive about it.
I remember crying with laughter at Sharon and the T. rex. It was definitely more fun on here back then, so much more remarkable human interest stuff!

Does anyone remember when there was a secret Liz Jones watching mn group that defected to Facebook?

There was a rather lovely story behind 'Manshape' but I can imagine that if you didn't know it, it would sound pretty incongruous.

I definitely miss the 'Good Old Days'. There was a camaraderie when it was smaller that has been replaced by a lot of full blown confrontation now it's gotten so big. I miss the Secret Santas and the meet ups.

Baby DS is now a teen so I should probably have wandered off muttering a long time ago...

I liked usualsuspect

In some ways it is better and in some ways it is worse.

Threads in AIBU these days are just ludicrous, there are a lot of po faced posters around who pop up on threads that are quite clearly light hearted doing their faux offended routine, way too many trigger warnings, too many trolls, made up rubbish and weird creative writing styles.

But

There was definitely a closed shop feel to MN a number of years ago, BIWI described it well as a Head Girl/Prefects clique. When I first joined and lurked there were numerous threads where a poster would ask advice, poster A - new poster, not well known or part of the clique would give advice, members of the clique would join the thread greet each other and set up a virtual buffet whilst chorusing "OP wait for Poster X to arrive they will give you the advice you need", Poster X would duly arrive and dispense their pearls of wisdom which would be exactly the same advice as Poster A had already given and then the fan girls would spend the rest of the thread swooning over Poster X.

About the waving and greeting, doesn't bother me but I can understand why new posters got fed up of it when entire threads were taken up with people waving at each other and talking amongst themselves completely ignoring the OP or any new posters who dared to venture onto the thread.

However, there are/were a group of long term posters, a number of them on this thread and some who for various reasons are no longer on MN and are much missed, who don't and didn't treat new posters as outsiders to be ignored or belittled.

The Feminist Chat Board is excellent, inclusive, full of intelligent and interesting debate and for me personally the best part of MN and it manages to be so whilst under heavy restraint not applied to any other board of MN.

I found the melodramatic reaction of some posters to the NYE debacle hilarious, the way some of them carried on you would think MNHQ had asked them to sacrifice their first born. Some of the early/original posters seemed of the opinion that MN was their site and treated it and new posters accordingly.

On the whole people object to Reddit because they see through their “cloaks of invisibility” too.....

I think manshape is far less offensive to my ears (eyes) than hubby.

I’m around. But mostly on twitter.

Mumsnet is Not Funny. That’s for sure.

Blimey, what a lot of posts. Will catch up this evening. One that caught my eye just now when I scrolled through at speed was one saying that it's like the difference between seeing a band in a club, and then seeing them in a stadium.

Also just tried to search for one of the early usernames I remember from back in the day, and I have found myself apologising to BIWI for something, and flouncing as a result of something AF said. In retrospect, it was a very funny comment and definitely not flounceworthy.

The same search also reminded me of BoysAreLikeDogs, whose name I liked very much.

Also HUG MYSELF when I’m patronised on here and someone asks me if I’m new. 😂😂. Fcking 2003.

It’s when I hid the parenting topic I knew I was too old for it

When I was at the party and met Gordon brown. And was “in drink”. Mag was introduced as “she tells it like it is “. I could barely stand.
He lost the election shortly after 😂

Also met Boris and his then wife at another. That was odd. But interesting.

It did used to be so much better. I joined in my first iteration umm about 13 years ago and it was interesting. I mainly hung out in S&B which was actually fun back then.

I received and saw an awful lot of kindness. I don't remember seeing bullying but you were called out if you said something silly but it did feel slightly more honest and just light back then.

I miss Bonsoir and often wonder how she is. I believe someone said she had a brain tumour which was very sad.

I love getorf's enclyopaedic knowledge of the works of jilly cooper. And personally I found Cod to be funny and kind.

But most importantly I made some fantastic friends through the mn of old whom I see regularly and speak to on a daily basis.

Shame Justine went all fangirl with the despicable Jamie Oliver but hey that's another story for another day

It is funny how how we use mn. I started using it when I had babies for bf issues and now find myself ending up on here for advice on a level subjects. Which makes me feel very old indeed.

Hello gorgeous. Yes. I think it had a certain sort of brutal affection.
Cybilliberty became one of my very best friends in real life and I have had nights of absolute joy on here. Sadly no longer but maybe I’m past it. 😉

@PlacidPenelope, I agree with every word. And the cliques would get all faux-offended if anyone challenged the waving and talking amongst themselves.

Justine. Olivia Carrie Etc. So kind too.

A newbie banned me last year for something. I thought IT ONLY TOOK 15 YEARS ;)

I dgaf if people resent friendships. Make your own ffs.

Also. That bloody office xmas party photos thread. I actually fell off my chair.

Oh crikey.
The ego has landed.

Me neither. If you talk to people a lot then you become friendly with them - it happens everywhere.

Cybbo's eternal quest for boots was always an autumn high light. And the annual schoolrundress but in latter years people never really got that.

There were some bullies on here. I wasn't being sensitive or overreacting. I’m in my forties now and much tougher and they’re still lauding it up over other people on other social media, so I know I was right about them. Someone challenged me to name them. Why would I do that? It was a decade ago at least, what good would it do? I was merely pointing out that it wasn’t all good times and laughs here like some people seem to think it was

I remember having laughs with Getorf, - I was trying to recreate one of my Gran’s recipes and came here to ask if anyone else’s gran used to cook it, she said it sounds fucking awful why would I want to recreate that!!

And being not of the professionally offended ilk I actually found it funny.

Cybs funky combinations. She’s still the same