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Meghan Markle taking Mail On Sunday to Court *MNHQ tweaked title for accuracy*

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TheMustressMhor · 01/10/2019 23:20

And about time, too. They never stop castigating her.

Prince Harry has said that he's worried that she'll end up being the same kind of victim that his mother was with regard to the Press.

I hope she wins her case.

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grumiosmum · 02/10/2019 08:03

violettrose28

Tosh. I haven't read the letter because I don't want to feed the monster, but you cannot possibly know that.

cathyno5 · 02/10/2019 08:05

Harry is also rewriting history in his mind. The week before Diana died she was posing for the paparazzi and I seem to remember her saying something like 'wait until you see what I'm going to do next'. She was actively courting the press.

Her death was very tragic. She got into a car with a drunk driver and didn't wear a seatbelt. But it doesn't mean we should rewrite history.

Harry and Meghan are very privileged. They can as a couple spend much more time enjoying their young baby together than most couples can. They need to just focus on that, keep a low profile and get out and cut a few ribbons occasionally.

LillianGish · 02/10/2019 08:06

I agree with a pp who said Meghan had no idea what she was getting into when she married Harry. It is no coincidence his two previous girlfriends refused to marry him. Meghan made the mistake of thinking marrying into the Royal Family was the same as being a Hollywood celebrity - she failed to take into account that because the Royal Family is funded by public money there is a sector of the British public that feels entitled to some news in return. By refusing to play ball and pose for a few anodyne family snaps the newspapers have rushed in to fill the void with whatever they can lay their hands on. It's perfectly possible for Royals to stay out of the limelight - Princess Anne and Prince Edward have done this with their children - but they have largely achieved this by keeping their heads below the radar. Meghan and Harry's mistake has been to think they can turn the publicity on and off - happy to court the press round for a speech on the dangers of climate change, less happy to see it pointed out that they don't practice what they preach. Brits don't like jet-setting royals - the Queen always goes on holiday to Balmoral where she can be guaranteed privacy or Sandringham, accessible by public transport. Harry is comparing Meghan to to Diana, but I really a better comparison would be Fergie, who also spectacularly failed to understand what was required from a member of the royal family. I do feel a bit sorry for Meghan, but I can't help feeling in the case of her father she would have been better off meeting him privately on one of the trips back to the US to at least introduce him to Harry and his grandson rather than writing him letters that he could leak to the press. Sueing the MOS strikes me as rather counterproductive - stirring up yet more negative publicity for the couple at a time when they were getting lots of positive press from their trip to Africa.

CampingItUp · 02/10/2019 08:07

Quite right that the Sussexes are doing this.

But why have you just named her in your thread title? Harry wrote / signed the letter. To Meghan ‘s detractors the fact that ‘she’ is taking action draws yet more focus on her.

Be accurate. Let’s all be accurate.

TatianaLarina · 02/10/2019 08:09

Her death was very tragic. She got into a car with a drunk driver and didn't wear a seatbelt. But it doesn't mean we should rewrite history.

They were fleeing the paparazzi. If they hadn’t would have been driving so fast and on that route? Probably not.

Rachelover60 · 02/10/2019 08:10

Harry is not rewriting history. His mother was happy to co-operate with the media on her terms but she didn't want them around all the time, that was unreasonable. They were intrusive and everyone is entitled to have privacy. I would have thought the press would have been more considerate to the late Princess of Wales just because she was good to them. I understand how Prince Harry feels.

However I find this very sad and am glad he and his wife are taking action. The Duchess of Sussex was feted by the press for five minutes and then they turned against her, nit picking and goodness knows what else what. Not fair at all. I hope when they come back from their current tour things will have improved on that score.

TottieandMarchpane · 02/10/2019 08:10

According to the LA Times, the MoS are bullishly denying editing the letter (a large part of Harry’s statement alleges they did.) So it doesn’t look as though they’ll crumble early.

It’s her legal action. Quite honestly, his contribution of an over-emotional statement just looks odd. A brief, factual joint statement would have been better.

TatianaLarina · 02/10/2019 08:10

There’s a lot of bullying of Meghan that goes on on this forum. I hope those involved take note.

CampingItUp · 02/10/2019 08:13

“Harry is comparing Meghan to to Diana, but I really a better comparison would be Fergie, who also spectacularly failed to understand what was required from a member of the royal family”

The problem is the behaviour of the press, no matter who is the target. This post is victim blaming.

I am not a royalist, I think they need to be disestablished, but I think Harry’s letter holds true for all intrusive dishonestly edited prurient press and I hope the Sussexes win, and that the victory has good results for all.

MilkTrayLimeBarrel · 02/10/2019 08:13

Cannot stand the woman, but hey, it's more free publicity for her, isn't it?

TottieandMarchpane · 02/10/2019 08:13

But why have you just named her in your thread title? Harry wrote / signed the letter. To Meghan ‘s detractors the fact that ‘she’ is taking action draws yet more focus on her.

Be accurate. Let’s all be accurate.

Yes, be accurate. She IS, necessarily, the one suing re infringement of HER copyright and breach of HER privacy. It was her letter to her father. How else do you imagine this works?

CampingItUp · 02/10/2019 08:16

“She IS, necessarily, the one suing re infringement of HER copyright and breach of HER privacy”
Oops, fair enough, fair point Grin

TatianaLarina · 02/10/2019 08:17

Cannot stand the woman

You’ve never even met her.

TottieandMarchpane · 02/10/2019 08:19

There’s a lot of bullying of Meghan that goes on on this forum. I hope those involved take note.

Oh please. What do you think will happen? MNHQ moderate just fine. You think the Sussexes are going to getting to get into the business of injunctions against MNers? Or is Harry going to turn up here and issue emotive prose?

TulipsTulipsTulips · 02/10/2019 08:19

I feel a bit torn about this, because everything MM and PA do is underwritten by the fact that they live luxurious lives at the expense of taxpayers, and by accepting the cash / lifestyle they are public figures. They also have access to a great deal of privacy if they want it, living away from the public eye on vast estates and just attending rehearsed public events. Instead MM and PH are trying to have it both ways, and also expressing their views on political and environmental issues. This doesn’t mean posting untrue material about them is ok, or that racism is ok, but there is a lot of context here. On top of all that, PH sounds like he is projecting his mother’s death onto how MM is being treated, when these are not the same scenarios. He sounds like he needs some help to separate these things.

Both PH and MM seem completely oblivious to how the public perceives them and the role they play in that.

The whole saga makes me think having an extended publicly funded royal family is unworkable. It is cruel to the children (PH seems deeply affected) and it doesn’t make sense in our modern world.

TottieandMarchpane · 02/10/2019 08:20

@CampingItUp Grin TBF, it’s odd that he’s issuing press statements and she’s the one suing.

BeerandBiscuits · 02/10/2019 08:20

Yabu.
A court case will make things worse.
Better a dignified silence and keeping a lower profile.

Trewser · 02/10/2019 08:23

Cannot stand the woman

How, for the love of god, can you dislike someone you don't know and have never met and who has no impact on your life whatsoever? It's beyond me.

I think anyone who gets themselves in a tizz over Meghan in particular must be a bit thick. I can understand being opposed to the royals on principle (although I think they attract a great deal of money to our country), but people who pick over them and feel anger and hatred...nah.

TatianaLarina · 02/10/2019 08:24

Oh please. What do you think will happen? MNHQ moderate just fine. You think the Sussexes are going to getting to get into the business of injunctions against MNers? Or is Harry going to turn up here and issue emotive prose?

Wtf. I’m talking not talking about injunctions - just the ethics of bullying and bitching.

And yeah MN generally has to delete Meghan threads because some posters cant help but be racist or spit venom at someone they’ve never met.

TottieandMarchpane · 02/10/2019 08:25

@Trewser this is a country in which thousands of people send gifts to fictional soap opera babies and fictional soap opera weddings. You haven’t got a hope of the masses emotionally disengaging from the royal soap opera Smile

TatianaLarina · 02/10/2019 08:25

I think anyone who gets themselves in a tizz over Meghan in particular must be a bit thick. I can understand being opposed to the royals on principle (although I think they attract a great deal of money to our country), but people who pick over them and feel anger and hatred...nah

Yes it’s fucking weird.

TottieandMarchpane · 02/10/2019 08:27

Wtf. I’m talking not talking about injunctions - just the ethics of bullying and bitching.

That’s what you mean by “take note”? No hope of that, either. See how many people are still emotionally enthralled by all things Diana, and she’s been dead for twenty years.

Andsoltbegins · 02/10/2019 08:28

Can I just clarify something ?

So if someone writes a letter- they can send to whoever they want but if anyone else then sends it on further/circulates it then that person is wrong ?

Trewser · 02/10/2019 08:28

TottieandMarchpane don't I cant bear it

TatianaLarina · 02/10/2019 08:30

That’s what you mean by “take note”? No hope of that, either.

I don’t think posters on here are so thick and such arseholes that feedback from the victims of their kicking wouldn’t impact some of them.