To ask how you announced your pregnancy to your parents?

[Crazycactuslady]

We're telling my parents we're expecting this weekend. I'll be 9+1, but it's the last time we'll all be together before Christmas as my dad works away a lot and my husband travels for work. This will be their first grandchild, so I would like to make the announcement memorable... But not tacky.

I slipped it in to conversation the first time, I think my mum nearly broke her chair with excitement when it registered what I'd said lol. Second time I had my son wearing a 'I'm going to be a big brother' t-shirt and I asked mum to take his coat off.
My best though was how I told my husband, I left some cards against humanity cards on the table saying 'for my next trick I will pull our out of __' and next to 'baby' and 'my vagina' cards 🤣

I based mine on the old MasterCard advert. I put the scan pic in the envelope and wrote on the outside something like:

Cost of petrol to drive to your house: £30
Price of meal in roadside diner : £20
Coat of this envelope: 5p
Finding out you're going to be Grandparents: PRICELESS

Cue lots of whooping, hugs and hearty handshakes.

After 12 week scan I told my parents via Skype that I wouldn’t be able to come on a long-planned family holiday that summer because...
My dad looked extremely angry and said ‘What? Why?!’ so I was quite relieved I could tell them some good news that blew them away

First 1 after 12 weeks I was able to include a scan picture in their Christmas card.
Second 1 after 20 weeks. I put my eldest in a t shirt saying big sister to be and let her wander around at a family party. They didn't like that
After 24 weeks. I let my two older children tell them (they were 10 and 8 then) but at this point I barely had contact.

It was close to Mother’s Day so I made my mums card and gave it her at a family meal which said:

“This mother’s day we couldn’t find a present special enough to buy you. So we are making you something instead”

And then inside it said

“A grandma”

She loved it, my dad had to read it about four times and my sister screamed and throw her phone in the air and smashed it so I think it went down well

We were planning on telling PIL on MIL's Birthday, but ended up telling them the week before.
We called round with a gift box, telling her it was an early birthday present but inside it was this babygro.

I was only around 7 weeks pregnant but had horrendous nausea and we see the in laws often, so they would have easily guessed.

I understand what PPs have said about it being early so not to make a "grand" gesture, but the people you are telling early on are also probably the people who would know if something did happen. Everybody is different and it's your prerogative who you tell and when.

Over 30 years ago mums daughters friend worked ìn our practice so the cheeky # rang her mum who told my mum and mum was on the phone within a few hours. I could not report her as did not want a row. Yes it was first grandchild.
My mil who was much older told me I was both times . She said she just knew . 2nd time I was puking from day 1.

@FluffyEarMuffs sorry just seen your message. I completely understand your viewpoint.

I'm actually quite an introverted person and never usually make a 'fuss' or announce anything so this was very out of the box for me even just a simple babygro and scan.

In now 16 weeks and have only told our parents still and a couple of people i work who may have guessed plus a friend. It still seems too early and cautious of what could happen so completely understand your point.

I was 20 and still living at home when I fell pregnant with my eldest dd now 11, firstly I called my sister and begged her to tell my parents and she said you must do it , my dad was scary and up until then was convinced my husband then boyfriend slept separately on a sofa, I told my mum and after telling me how disappointed she was she said il tell your dad and oh I'm going to be a grandma again! I remember going home to see my dad he shouted at me made me cry but when I refused to be bullied in to a termination he said ok I cant make you it's your life but il try and be a good granda, my brother was ok until he realised I'd not be having a termination he was worse than my dad, called me every name under the sun and refused to speak to me for 12 weeks. With my second dd I told my mum and she did the rest , I just got a cold stare off my dad. I'm currently trying with my 3rd child and couldn't give a sweet sh+t what my family thinks, they know I'm trying.