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To ask how you announced your pregnancy to your parents?

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Crazycactuslady · 29/09/2019 21:31

We're telling my parents we're expecting this weekend. I'll be 9+1, but it's the last time we'll all be together before Christmas as my dad works away a lot and my husband travels for work. This will be their first grandchild, so I would like to make the announcement memorable... But not tacky.

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GooodGolly · 30/09/2019 18:30

Ds1 I live in another country so I took a pic of 2 positive tests, rang my mum then sent her the photo while I was on the (landline) to her. Her scream defended me and scared my dad who came running!

Ds2 I bought my little boy a tshirt that said 'Best Big Bro' on it and waited for them to notice Grin

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 30/09/2019 18:34

We just told DHs, no need for a big announcement we felt.

popcorndiva · 30/09/2019 18:41

For my in laws we took all the champagne we had been bought for our wedding to them and just casually said I wouldn't be able to drink it anyway for 8 months. This was just before Christmas which we spent down south with my family who we announced to on Christmas Eve.

Aaarrgghhh · 30/09/2019 19:16

I gave my Mum a knitting pattern

That’s really cute.

Andonandonan · 30/09/2019 19:29

We just told them but I’d had mc so it was all quite factual.

We gave my grandparents a ‘great grandparent’ Christmas card with scan photo in though and that is a very happy memory for me.

AlmostAlwyn · 30/09/2019 19:30

It was my mum's birthday and I was about 10 weeks. I got a little stone that was the same size as a 10-week embryo and put it in a box with a note with the "properties" of the stone (balances chakras and so on Grin) then on the other side that it was also the current size of her first grandchild. She cried Grin.

With MIL, we just showed her the scan picture (from 12 weeks so a couple of weeks later). My DH's hobby is cycling, and her reaction was to say to him, "well, you'll have to sell your bike now! You've got responsibilities!" Grin

Andonandonan · 30/09/2019 19:31

Oh & when I told my mum on the phone (October time) she said ‘oh I made a wish stirring the Christmas pudding and it’s come true.’ as we’d been having fertility treatment which she knew about. We still call DD our Christmas pudding wish.

Rachelover60 · 30/09/2019 19:53

Say, "Mum, Dad, guess what? I'm pregnant!". They will be delighted.
Congratulations Flowers.

Zebraaa · 30/09/2019 19:56

@GiBlues love that :)

Parker231 · 30/09/2019 19:56

We gave them a copy of the scan picture....... of twins

Gillian1980 · 30/09/2019 19:59

My poor parents had to put up with my non-stop chatter about it....

We’re going to try for a baby; no luck this month; oh I’m late! Oh no, false alarm; I’m getting loads of symptoms; I’m going to do a yes; I’m pregnant!!

Probably relieved that they didn’t have to listen to me go on and on about it anymore!!

Ellisandra · 30/09/2019 20:01

My brother and I booked them a spa hotel weekend in the year they were both 60. I wrote in the card “there’s another present but it won’t arrive until Jan”.

After a minute or two, they clocked my 7 month bump (I didn’t show much til 7.5 months!)

My mum was super pissed off, because she has this bollocks claim that she always psychically knows when someone in the family is pregnant. Busted Grin

Gillian1980 · 30/09/2019 20:01

With DS, they knew we were trying but officially DD told them by saying she was going to be a big sister.

1Bobbinwinder · 30/09/2019 20:10

I actually really like @GiBlues "guess who's pregnant?!". If I have a third...

My parents were deliberately laid back when I told them but I still clearly remember my MIL's reaction first time... We were walking in the park and after I told her she said "Oh darling, I'm so happy for you!", burst into tears and gave me a big hug. She's normally: not a hugger, not a cryer, and that's the only time I've ever heard her use the word darling! Such a happy memory. As everyone says, the news is probably enough, but if you know an added touch would make it even more special why not go for it?!

Babynumber2dueNov · 30/09/2019 20:53

We were secretly trying for our first for a while and when the time finally came I ordered a backboard sign that says ‘... weeks until we become grandparents’. We filled in the blank and popped it in a box so we could see their faces as they opened it and omg it was such a beautiful moment! Crying now thinking of it! But that might be the hormones from baby number 2 😂

Jazzybeats · 30/09/2019 21:04

We invited them round for tea and served in Best Grandma/grandad mugs. Mum dropped the mug when she clocked it. Memorable for sure 😂

MsAwesomeDragon · 30/09/2019 21:08

I phoned mine in tears from a backpackers hostel in Australia. It was certainly memorable, but probably not in a good way.

EdersonsSmileyTattoo · 30/09/2019 21:08

I phoned my Mum and said “Are you sitting down, I’ve got something to tell you”.

She wasn’t sat down, she was in M&S in Windsor at the time, she burst into tears Smile

Appletreehouse · 30/09/2019 21:09

I had HG, so had to tell them over the phone at 6 weeks as we were due to go on holiday the following week but knew I would be too ill to travel and couldn't come up with an excuse why me weren't going. I was so miserable with sickness I don't really have a happy memory, just wanted to get off the phone to lie down and close my eyes again. My mum found it hard those first few weeks as I wasn't really happy because I just felt so unexpectedly shit!

I have a really happy memory of telling them we were having a girl once I was feeling better at 5 months, we'd gone out for a pub lunch and everyone gave me a hug and it started to finally seem real and a more positive experience.

My DS I honestly can't remember telling them, I think we possibly said it on a phone call or during a visit, but again I was poorly, and this time with a toddler, so getting the news out was just a necessity so we could ask for more help with childcare while I was so ill in those first few months!

olivesnutsandcheese · 30/09/2019 21:32

I told my Mil whilst she was painting a door frame. There's still a drip there now that she refers to as DS's drip. Then she cried happy tears

Ragwort · 01/10/2019 08:02

Just told my DM over the phone, it wasn't a 'big deal' to be honest, I was 43 and it was totally unexpected (had thought I was going through the menopause Grin) and I was actually a bit embarrassed after always having made it very clear that I didn't want children Grin.
No idea how my DH told his mother.

CocoLoco87 · 01/10/2019 08:05

We asked my parents if they had any plans for August. They said no, why? I said we needed to book them in for some help with their next grandchild Grin

CocoLoco87 · 01/10/2019 08:07

For the next one we took DS1 to their house wearing a t shirt saying he was going to be a big brother and waited for them to read it!

theydontknowweknow · 01/10/2019 11:28

Currently pregnant with first child, we found out just before Mother's Day so we wrapped up a baby grow for DMs to open, both of them took a while to click on!

Emalmostfamous8 · 01/10/2019 17:37

Congratulations.

I cant remember for my first...telling my mum. But I remember my nan. It was the last conversation i had before she passed unexpectedly.

I just called her up, had a little chat and I said "oh, you'll never guess who I saw today...a midwife!" She replied "what did you see a midwife for?!" Then I let the penny drop then she said "oh, am i going to be a nana again???" I will never forget her voice in that conversation and it was nearly 8 years ago.

My second i wanted to tell the eldest first so needed a scan photo to he'd understand. Then we put it in an envelope so to show DH mum (DS told my mum over video call), then took the envelope to SIL. We just got back from holiday and she thought it was the classic fridge magnet we get every holiday. She's a midwife in training so she got VERY excited

Its not them remembering, I think it's a moment you'll always remember.

Good luck. Hope it goes well xxx