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To ask how you announced your pregnancy to your parents?

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Crazycactuslady · 29/09/2019 21:31

We're telling my parents we're expecting this weekend. I'll be 9+1, but it's the last time we'll all be together before Christmas as my dad works away a lot and my husband travels for work. This will be their first grandchild, so I would like to make the announcement memorable... But not tacky.

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Silenttype · 29/09/2019 22:50

We wrote a poem in a card (googled) from baby to Grandparents, went round and made out the card had been posted, took about 4 lines of the poem before they twigged

Second time, got a book 'there's a house inside my Mummy' DC1 took it to GP's and told them it was their new bedtime story book

MrsRufusdog789 · 29/09/2019 22:50

My daughter suggested we met for lunch in a local department store .
And told me she was pregnant while we were waiting for our main course . At first she was so serious I was terrified she'd had bad health news of some sort .
It was a huge surprise as 6 months earlier I'd had her cat to stay for three weeks while she was on holiday and joked that it was nice to hear the patter of tiny feet again .
She told me then that was the closest we'd ever get to GCD . I said that was fine by us - it was her life and I meant it .
When I'd finished jumping up and down with excitement and telling everyone I was going to be a Granny she knew most definitely I was thrilled about the idea . But she was also a bit embarrassed . That's part
of my job description I guess .

Lennonade · 29/09/2019 22:51

It was my mum’s 60th birthday and I found a birthday card that said something like “Hope your birthday is filled with love, laughter and cake” and I stuck the scan picture on the inside and wrote ‘and surprises’ then ‘Happy Birthday Granny’. She cried and my poor dad had no idea what was going on!

EmmiJay · 29/09/2019 22:56

I wore a tshirt with tiny foot prints on my now (then) obvious bump. I didn't say anything until I was 16weeks (which was another bloody surprise for them!) Its funnier that my mum poked my stomach and told me I'd gained weight completely oblivious to the foot prints on it!

cardamoncoffee · 29/09/2019 22:59

I told her over the phone each time and I was painfully embarrassed My DM still says 'expecting' in hushed tones. Pregnant is a le wd word.

Bellsofstclements · 29/09/2019 23:01

Declined the offer of a glass of wine saying "no, I can't, I'm pregnant'

Tartsamazeballs · 29/09/2019 23:02

My sister was already pregnant with her first. Got a mother's Day card that said "twice the trouble" and annotated #1 Baby Sister and estimated date plus #2 Baby Tarts and estimated date. Low key but special, not much more was necessary.

WonderTweek · 29/09/2019 23:02

First time round I was so shocked that I just rang my dad after I did the test, and then thought I should probably ring my mum as well. Sadly the pregnancy didn't work out so no one mentioned any pregnancy related things for a while. When I got pregnant again I didn't tell a soul (bar my husband) until 13 weeks when I had my scan and the NT etc was ok, so I just texted my parents saying I was up the duff again. I'm not one for big displays but it really depends on the family.

DobbyLovesSocks · 29/09/2019 23:03

I told my DM and MIL on mothers day together. I'd found out a few days prior. They both opened their presents and then I said they had one more present - I was pregnant. Me and DH had been trying for a few years and were undergoing fertility treatment. The way I told them wasn't entirely planned, it Just worked out that way

GaudyNight · 29/09/2019 23:07

If it’s their first grandchild, won’t the fact of you being pregnant be memorable enough in itself? DS is my parents’ first and only grandchild, and we just went over — it did, admittedly involve flying in from abroad — and said I was pregnant.

EugenesAxe · 29/09/2019 23:08

I called and told them. I don’t know why you’d make a big thing - even in a non-naff way - because what if anything went wrong? I know it’s unlikely, but it could turn into another thing that commemorates something painful rather than joyful. I’m not really a twee person though.

If you’re set on the idea, why not make some baby shaped biscuits and say something fitting when you bring them out to have with tea.

Medievalist · 29/09/2019 23:14

I made my dsis tell my dm because I knew she would be furious as dh and I weren't married. We had been living together for a year and I was 34 at the time. She was indeed furious. 🤷‍♀️

MissPepper8 · 29/09/2019 23:37

This time, I had to tell my parents as I kept vomiting and ended up being hospitalised and my mum had to have DS while DH took me in 😂

With my MIL I bought a handmade heart that said "You're going to be a grandparents again!" in a box with the scan.

For my grandmother I made her a small little painted gift with the picture in a box and she cried bless her.

HearMeSnore · 29/09/2019 23:41

We told my 3yr old nephew first, then let him run around shouting excitedly about his new baby cousin. DP's cottoned on after a while that it wasn't a game and he was actually trying to tell them something.
The best reaction was DSis. I've never seen someone's jaw literally drop before .

ParkheadParadise · 30/09/2019 00:01

Aw wish my pregnancy announcements had been like these.

I was 15 when I found out I was pregnant. I told my older sister, who told my mum,she cried. My dad was furious. It really wasn't a happy time. When dd1 arrived they both adored her.

With dd2, 23 years later we didn't find out I was pregnant until I was nearly 5mths. It was unplanned and a total shock. My family thought it was hilarious. My mum had dementia by then when I told her she said Omg are you not too old to be having a baby your older than me thinking about that now makes me laugh.

Sparklemummyx0x0x · 30/09/2019 00:03

I was 7 weeks
My parents, (1st grandchild) in the kitchen, just said I had something to tell them and my mum shouted out and started crying. My DB came running downstairs in a panic wondering what was wrong, then became very excited.

My (now ex) PIL and SIL, (again 1st grandchild), usual Sunday tea, similar announcement just after the roast beef as I'd suddenly began feeling 'off' afterwards. Cue very excited and happy family. Promptly followed by an unfortunate time spent in their bathroom.

I couldn't eat roast beef the rest of my pregnancy and can't eat it now.

Emmy5159 · 30/09/2019 00:03

We took our parents to the new house we had bought showed them around and said that's the babies room. That was DS1 but with DD we went to my parents for dinner and as I walked in dad said are you pregnant again? Nothing special.
Congratulations!

Nat6999 · 30/09/2019 00:16

I rang my mum with the test still in my hand, she was the first person I told after my then husband.

TinyMystery · 30/09/2019 00:41

We sat my parents down and told them the day before we were due to go to PIL for Christmas. It was really early (4 or 5 weeks) but it was unplanned and we were quite shocked and needed a bit of support.

We told PIL the next day too. SIL had already guessed based purely on a photo of me (at 4 or 5 weeks!) because she is some kind of witch 😂 so PIL were actually already suspicious!

FindusCrispyPancakes · 30/09/2019 00:46

We went around and said “you are going to be grandparents” and my mum replied “why who’s pregnant?” ... I was 32 and had been with my husband since I was 21. My brother’s wife can’t have kids and my sister was only 22 and single at the time. They aren’t the sharpest. Second time I can’t actually remember telling them! We did just say it in conversation though.

anothernamejeeves · 30/09/2019 02:08

Just told them like normal

I don't get this craze of having to stage massive announcements and do something show stopping. Seems very impersonal and all about attention. Social media has a lot to answer for

isabellerossignol · 30/09/2019 02:20

I announced my first pregnancy to my parents by turning up on their doorstep in tears and sobbing all evening about how devastated I was because neither my husband or I were ready for children. I'd imagine that was fairly memorable for them

Buddytheelf85 · 30/09/2019 04:42

I told her over the phone each time and I was painfully embarrassed hmm My DM still says 'expecting' in hushed tones. Pregnant is a le wd word.

Haha, my PILs are like this. They referred throughout my pregnancy to ‘your condition’

ShippingNews · 30/09/2019 04:47

I'm a grandmother, and believe me , you don't have to "make it memorable". You are going to tell them that they are going to be grandparents - that's all you need to do ! They'll be thrilled !

MrsMonkeyBear · 30/09/2019 04:56

Dd1 was a quick phone call along the lines of "Mum, I have something to tell you" and my mum replying "You're pregnant aren't you??"

With DD2, I told my mum very early but only as she was stopping with me as my morning sickness was quite bad. But we told the rest of the family with dd1 wearing a Big Sister in Training t-shirt

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