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To ask how you announced your pregnancy to your parents?

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Crazycactuslady · 29/09/2019 21:31

We're telling my parents we're expecting this weekend. I'll be 9+1, but it's the last time we'll all be together before Christmas as my dad works away a lot and my husband travels for work. This will be their first grandchild, so I would like to make the announcement memorable... But not tacky.

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OccasionalNachos · 30/09/2019 05:21

Blurted it out shakily over dinner after turning down a glass of wine. I was very nervous - no idea why, as I was 33 & in a long term relationship, but it was so nerve wracking! Me & my mum both cried. My dad hugged me & assured me everything would be alright Grin

LionelRitchieStoleMyNotebook · 30/09/2019 09:48

My parents we just went round to see them and told them. PIL we were going to visit them that day anyway and had said we would take them some photos from our wedding as they'd recently arrived and MIL has said she would like a few, we put the scan picture in with them, but wouldn't have planned anything like that or was just that we were giving her the photos anyway and thought it'd be funny to put the scan in too.

Lauriestory · 30/09/2019 10:48

Just to reference the ‘sometimes pregnancies doesn’t work out’ as a reason for not doing something.

My first pregnancy ended when I was 6 months pregnant.

When I was 12 weeks, we told my parents by giving my Mum a ‘Happy Birthday Grandma’ card. Instead of a lifetime of happy memories of my son, I have just a few happy moments of my pregnancy to remember him by. I’m glad we did it.

(Not saying this to be the voice of doom, OP. What happened to me is very very very unusual!)

EmAreSea · 30/09/2019 10:58

Jesus, the killjoys are out in force today!

DH and I took our PILs and my DM out for lunch on Mother’s Day, we’d had a scan the day before and I mounted the photos and on PILs put “Nanny & Grandad 2019” and “Grandma 2019” for my DM. We wrapped them and handed them over with a big bunch of flowers for our Mums.

Probably hideously naff according to the miseryguts on here but it was such a lovely moment watching their faces as they realised what they were looking at, and the pictures are now taking pride of place on their respective mantelpieces.

To ask how you announced your pregnancy to your parents?
GaudyNight · 30/09/2019 11:01

It's amazing how any experience can be converted into an opportunity to buy stuff.

misspiggy19 · 30/09/2019 11:04

God forbid the OP shows the slightest bit of excitement over her pregnancy and sharing the news hmm

^There are some real miserable people out there.

GaudyNight · 30/09/2019 11:08

There's surely an argument for it being the people who are most excited about being pregnant being the ones who just say 'I'm pregnant!' to their families, without needing to artificially inflate some happy news into some kind of 'Making Memories' Instagrammable Event?

Oysterbabe · 30/09/2019 11:09

I just called them both times. My kids were grandchildren 7 and 8. They were over the excitement of grandparenting by then 😂

meccacos2 · 30/09/2019 11:15

@ncqtime

Sent them a WhatsApp of my scan/ showed them the bump and said 'surprise'

I did this, I told my dad first though.

Now my sister has gone psycho because my partner’s family found out before them.

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Crazycactuslady · 30/09/2019 13:22

Thank you for all your replies. I honestly find the different views here interesting - even the ones others perceived as negative. They're just different points of view (pitch forks away now Grin) Part of me is nervous to tell them (I'm 33 and we've been married for 7 years... We've been trying for a child for a while). We had a crap time with my in laws (super religious and slightly nuts) causing issues in the past, so 'sex' became one of 'those' words for a while. Still not quite sure what we're going to do, but there's absolutely no way I can wait til we see them next with a scan Grin I'll crack before then....

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Witchinaditch · 30/09/2019 14:59

Called them and told them.

Sallyseagull · 30/09/2019 15:02

I was about 7 weeks but it was my mums birthday so we were all together (and I figured if something did go wrong then I'd need their support so they'd find out anyway) so I just said I had another birthday present for her.... it was also the first grandchild.

AloeVeraLynn · 30/09/2019 15:05

I really wouldn't bother OP, apparently it doesn't matter. I'd just rock up in a few months with baby. When they ask whose baby that is just nonchalantly say "oh yeah, forgot to tell you I was pregnant. Now we have this. What's for pudding?"

GiBlues · 30/09/2019 15:07

We were all sat round the table eating dinner and I said “I meant to tell you, have a guess who’s pregnant”.
Mum gave me a few names and in the end I said “me”.
Cue excitement and tears.

MissPepper8 · 30/09/2019 15:13

I'd just rock up in a few months with baby

I knew someone who did this, told close family then surprise.

mrsk28 · 30/09/2019 15:14

Just told my parents - I'm not close to either of them, really just letting them know.

For DH's mother we put a bodysuit with 'Nanny' written on it in a gift bag, was a lovely surprise for her. Did similar for the people we had picked as godparents.

Congratulations on your pregnancy, such an exciting time!

HavelockVetinari · 30/09/2019 15:22

I rang my parents and told them as soon as DH and I found out. I'd tell them about a miscarriage anyway so was happy to share early.

whiskersonkittenss · 30/09/2019 15:25

I told my parents via WhatsApp because I am a scaredy cat Grin

my boyfriends mum saw him buying pineapples for me and asked him if he was going to be a dad, he ignored her and walked to the kitchen like she'd forget she asked? then he went to the living room and she asked again Grin we were planning on telling his parents that night anyway.

DuggeeHugs · 30/09/2019 15:32

I called my parents in tears because the morning sickness was so bad I really thought I wasn't going to make it through the first trimester. They were very surprised and very supportive Smile

TimeIhadaNameChange · 30/09/2019 15:41

I told my mum result at about 5 weeks over the phone. I wanted to wait till the scan but I was scared to tell her and knew I couldn't enjoy the pendulum until I had.

DP told his face to face. She was definitely the more excited of the two.

KUGA · 30/09/2019 15:43

If you have a scan pic give it to them.
Other than that tell them your putting weight on and then tell them why.
I loved the look on my dp`s face they both burst into tears.happy ones I may add.

Loopydizzylove · 30/09/2019 17:19

I didn't have to announce..... The simple fact that my bottle of lager at a family do was zero alcohol was enough to give the game away Grin

ThisIsAPun · 30/09/2019 18:04

Sadly I can't have children, but reading the fun ways some of you shared your news has been wonderful to read!

I think it's lovely to put thought into telling loved ones about a pregnancy, ignore the miserable posters.

Heatherjayne1972 · 30/09/2019 18:13

I just told them No big deal. The family was all together -job done

Littlepond · 30/09/2019 18:16

I rang my mum and said guess what I’m pregnant 🤷🏼‍♀️