SIL being paid for caring

[ladybird69]

My Mum is elderly and depending more and more on help. I do what I can ie washing and shopping for her. My SIL washes my mums legs once a week. My mum was taken Ill recently and I slept in a chair for a few nights then my SIL slept over 2 nights. I’ve since found out that my mum pays my SIL for everything she does including the sleeping over. Yet she tells everyone she does it out of the goodness of her heart, I’m really pissed that she would take money from poor old lady. AIBU? Thinking you don’t charge your own mother/mother-in-law

If she stopped helping with your mum would there be anyone else that could?

Things have happened that I can’t really put on an open forum as it’s very specific. But found out lots more things that I didn’t know about. My brother is a selfish shit who should grow up and my SIL is accepting money for things that she doesn’t actually do. Mum is aware but such a soft touch. I had couple of interactions with them today and I really am not a swearer but by god I called them some choice names. Mum has a lot of thinking to do and decisions to make, but will do that when she’s feeling on the mend.

Sounds awful. Keep us updated as much as you can. Your poor mum.

You need to tell your SIL not to help at all then, and help your mum find and fund alternative care surely. It shouldn't be just up to you, but your brother isn't going to change and you don't like her helping so