Was I wrong to ask for Costa points?

[Alldaygraze]

I was in the queue in Costa yesterday and the person in front of me ordered a lot of things for about 6 people, it came to around £40. The man serving asked if she had a points card/app and she said no. I couldn’t help myself doing this and have never done this before!!!
I asked “would you mind if I used my Costa card for your transaction as it’s a lot of points?” She looked at me like I’d asked for her firstborn, then looked at the barista open mouthed and then at her purse carrying on paying.

I said “Sorry I shouldn’t have asked I do apologise if I’ve annoyed you” and she just did a weird passive aggressive smile, raised her eyebrows and shook her head. It’s actually really hard to describe what she did without her saying any words but I got the impression she was very taken aback, embarrassed and offended.

She went to her table with her family or whoever they were and I ordered my drink and walked out. No one said anything but on the way out I passed their table and her and (I presume) I DH stared at me with daggers.

Ok help- I feel awful now and not sure if this is just not the done thing but like I said it was spontaneous and I didn’t want those points to go to ‘waste’ if you know what I mean? Prepared to get my arse handed to me!

Ywnbu. She was imo.

A lovely man in boots once was buying a lot of perfume, hundreds of pounds worth as colleague/staff gifts and the lady behind the counter asked him if I could swipe my card, he said ‘sure’ I got so many points I was thrilled. I don’t think I’d ever ask though.

Strange reaction from her. I dont have any of the loyalty cards and have been asked for my clubcard points before, Didnt think anything of it.

I wouldn't bother asking again though OP as you can see some people are weird about this tight

OP, don't give it another thought. She was just being a bit uptight.
I was in a supermarket queue recently and the shopper in front asked if I had a points card and then told the cashier to give me her points.
Random acts of Kindness makes the world a nicer place.
Your coffee customer obviously hasn't learnt that one yet.

If I didn’t want the points I’d gladly let someone else benefit.

You could have my points.....but then we would probably have had a chat in the queue anyway first as it's nice to talk.

Reminds me of the time when a man came up to me and my DD in Burger King and gave us a booklet type thing with loads of deals. I didnt end up paying a penny towards my meal and was well chuffed Passed it on to the next customer. Tis nice to be nice.

That's so strange, my response would have been "no, of course, go ahead!"... sometimes people are very uptight!

Don't give it a second's more thought OP!

I'm sort of on the fence here. On the one hand it wouldn't have massively bothered me if you had asked me, but I guess it was a tad cheeky.

Oh YANBU at all! I do the same and equally if I don't have mine and I see someone behind me already has theirs out I always ask if they want them.

I'd have given them to you OP. Weird reaction from her. If she's not using them ... whats the big deal

Like asking a stranger for one of their chips.

😁

I think I would have found it a bit odd, but I wouldn't have been offended. I think it would just have felt slightly invasive. But it was hardly a crime, and I don't think you should worry about it too much.

Thank you for the lovely replies 😊 They’ve helped a lot as I’ve been dwelling on this which is silly I know, but I’ve felt extremely CF-ish which I’d hate to come across as!

Aww @LuxuryWoman2018 how nice is that! Bet you were thrilled with all those points.
It’s nice to give someone else that feeling, I will keep offering to do it for others and will accept if someone asks but I won’t ask again as the feelings I got afterwards are just not worth it

I've heard people offer before, but I've never heard anyone ask for someone's points! I would be a bit taken aback if someone did that to me, yes but I have tons of loyalty cards so it's an unlikely scenario

I’m an antisocial git and I’d have let you have my points. I agree with LadyGrey1013 that she might have misunderstood what you were asking, her reaction seems totally OTT.

I would have given them to you. I often ask if the person behind wants to collect my points. I don't particularly like my data being collected but I don't mind if my transaction provides a few anomalies to their data being collected.

I would probably have been a bit surprised but that would have quickly diminished to be replaced with me thinking kudos to you! I would have happily let you have them after my initial surprise. The looks she gave you were ridiculous, it's not as if she was missing out in any way.

I think her reaction to your request was OTT and rude. And weird.

I am always delighted if I can give points or school vouchers or whatever to someone else in the queue. It feels like a little bit of sunshine you can spread at no cost whatsoever. Only a really sick person would mind that!

she sounds rude. if i am in a shop and don't have the loyalty card I always offer them to the person behind me! Some people are odd!

I would have given them to you too.

I’d gladly let someone have points I didn’t want to collect! I worked in Sainsbury’s many moons ago and didn’t bat an eyelid when people offered their unwanted points to the person behind them.

The woman was entitled to be offended, I suppose (and it was an overreaction IMO) but your apology was totally adequate.

Very grabby of you OP.

I think that it's extremely cheeky to ask though I'm happy to offer points if I won't use them, but asking is very different.

If I haven’t got my loyalty card on me (for whatever, Tescos/Costa/John Lewis) etc I always ask the server if they’d like them! Not often do they accept! I think it’s fine, it’s not like they are theirs, they are the companies and your getting something free from a corporate entity. Little wins against the ‘man’ so to speak.