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To think this won't ruin Christmas?

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CaterpillarInTheGarden · 23/09/2019 09:14

Mil was saying it won't be long until dc will believe in santa-claus (dc is only 22 months so surely it would be next Christmas not the upcoming Christmas Hmm). I mentioned we were thinking of not doing the whole santa-claus thing and telling him the truth. Mil said how awful I was, and I will be ruining Christmas for my dc and that I'm a very selfish women.

AIBU to think that's a over reaction and it won't ruin Christmas. Any of you not do the whole santa-claus thing for Christmas?

OP posts:
EmeraldShamrock · 23/09/2019 10:18

Christmas morning smiles are priceless. DC suspect naturally Santa isn't real at a certain age, when you confirm they are right, they're usually so smug knowing the truth, the fact you lied is forgiven.
It is your child and your choice but be aware it may being more misery rather than respect for the truth. 🎅

Contraceptionismyfriend · 23/09/2019 10:18

Knowingly lie 😂

  • The park is closed
  • That toy is for display only
  • It's illegal for me to run that light on when I'm driving

Lies I told my children this weekend! There are probably more they just didn't even register to me.

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 23/09/2019 10:18

I'm actually going to open my first box of mince pies right now to mark this thread. I'll going to enjoy every last over-commercial crumb Smile

happycamper11 · 23/09/2019 10:18

Oh and @MadameButterface has really hit the nail on the head

Jellybeansincognito · 23/09/2019 10:19

Yeah I think that’s not great too. I mean, look at the news and how shit the world is.
To be wrapped in fantasy and magic about something so family absorbed such as Christmas is wonderful and to take that away is a bit.... miserable?

Some kids and adults still go along with it because it’s fun- that tells you a lot doesn’t it?

Contraceptionismyfriend · 23/09/2019 10:19

@tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz I honesty can't explain how jealous I am of you right now.

milveycrohn · 23/09/2019 10:19

I should add, that I personally think the concept of a strange person, creeping into their room at night, or coming down a non-existent chimney, quite scary.
So, they always knew it was mummy.

Contraceptionismyfriend · 23/09/2019 10:20

I thought I'd another one.

Mary Poppins has gone to bed. So we can't watch it for a third time at 7pm.

RedRec · 23/09/2019 10:20

You would be sucking the joy out of Christmas and alienating your son from his peers. Think about the impact on him rather than on you.

AdalindMeisner · 23/09/2019 10:20

With your MIL on this. Children are small for such a short amount of time and Santa is part of the magic of childhood. If you must be a total fun sponge please teach your child not to tell their peers that Santa isn't real.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 23/09/2019 10:21

the lesson has to come with a big dose of training in never revealing the ‘truth’ to his peers.

And unfortunately they DO reveal it to others - my children's delight in Christmas morning was ruined by one such little twat in my son's class.

StoppinBy · 23/09/2019 10:21

Depends on your reasoning I guess. Personally we didn't want santa to be the to delivering all the presents as we wanted our children to know that we work hard to buy those gifts. Santa delivers a small present, like a few dollars, a chocolate bar and a pretty dress in a package at our house.

Personally if you have no religious beliefs that go against believing in santa then I think you are spoiling something very magical for your child/ren.

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 23/09/2019 10:21

Contraception Grin

Please add "the ice cream van plays the music when he's run out of ice cream ".

3timeslucky · 23/09/2019 10:22

I'm with your MIL.

Contraceptionismyfriend · 23/09/2019 10:22

@tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz my kids are CMPA so I had to go with "that's the music man. He drives around playing music for everyone"

I got away with that for three and half years 😂😂

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 23/09/2019 10:23

Brilliant!

separatebeds · 23/09/2019 10:23

What a mean thing for you to do.

CassianAndor · 23/09/2019 10:24

Contraception

me: I'd like you to eat a couple more spoonfuls of that, DD.
DD: is a couple 3?
me & DH: yes

Bluntness100 · 23/09/2019 10:24

My daughter has so many happy memories though, writing her letter to Santa and us posting it together, and the post office sending a letter from Santa back, leaving foot prints in icing sugar on the carpet for her to wake up to on Xmas morning, leaving out a mince pie, a carrot and some milk, going to see Santa in his grotto, we even saw his reindeer one year. The excitement little kids get from Santa isn't really something that can be compared to anything else.

It's not as materialistic as here are some presents, we bought you them, be grateful.

NoisingUpNissan · 23/09/2019 10:24

That's just so mean. Cmon OP, where's your heart??

StarlingsInSummer · 23/09/2019 10:25

Is that you Hobbit?

Bwahahahahaha!

DS believes (age 5 this coming Xmas) but Father Christmas isn't a massive thing in our house and I wouldn't be surprised if he works it out sooner rather than later because we're not militantly careful about what we say and what others say about Christmas. It does make it a bit more magical though.

bluegirlgreen · 23/09/2019 10:26

Where is the OP? Hmm

ghostofharrenhal · 23/09/2019 10:26

The Easter Bunny is a load of tosh, of course.

Noooooooooo! This can't be true! Sad Sad

Contraceptionismyfriend · 23/09/2019 10:26

Running around popping children's balloons and stealing sweets from babies.

DtPeabodysLoosePants · 23/09/2019 10:28

I'm 43 and still believe in FC. He lives in our imaginations and memories.