To find out who snitched on me?

[Mitzicoco]

So I went to pick the kids up from school today. I was quite early well actually 20 minutes early so had a quick kip in the car. I was awoken by the deputy headmaster who wanted to speak to me so I went with him to his office and he said that there were some safeguarding issues regarding my children. To cut a long story short whereby my nanny got involved in all of this by being there and my children getting confused on what day she was there, somebody reported me on Monday or Tuesday of smelling of alcohol. I have not drunk anything at all. I am meeting the headmaster tomorrow to discuss this as a safeguarding issue. Am I being unreasonable in wanting to find the fuck out who reported me? And then giving them a piece of my mind?! I would never ever drink anything at all if I was driving. I cannot Think why somebody reported me. Were they being malicious? Nosy? Bored? Do they realise the impact this has on me? I am seriously pissed off.

I.think.there are a few issues here, Someone smelling of alcohol.as a one off isn't necessarily a cause for concern ,I picked ds1 up from primary school.once having been on a Xmas lunch and had ,had a couple of glasses of wine ,I probably smelt of alcohol ,I wasn't drunk though and I don't drive and always got a taxi home ,had I smelt of alcohol ,been slurring my words and got into a car to drive home I think.that's a completely different scenario!

Someone is obviously concerned that you may have an alcohol problem. It will be regarded as a welfare issue, to ensure the children are not at risk of harm. If you don't drink during the day, and don't turn up at the school gates squiffy, then don't worry about it. I wouldn't bother trying to find out who told the school about this, it won't achieve anything. I doubt the person reported his/her concerns out of spite.

I also think school.would have to.have a lot more to go on than someone turning up.once smelling of alcohol to have safe guarding concerns , turning uo.once smelling slightly of alcohol but in all.other respects perfectly competent and not driving I don't think they would care, it could be anything you have met a friend for lunch and had some wine etc, turning up.frequently smelling strongly of alcohol , appearing under the influence and " driving a car" is completely different.

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Had meeting with school, it was fine. I haven't done anything wrong so I'm not worried BUT I do worry about other mums talking at drop off etc and really hope that this whole business doesn't have a negative impact on dcs.

They will probably be watching them a little closer that all

Glad it's all worked out for you. I hate going round the school. Too many busy bodies who gossip and make up rubbish about people they don't even know/bother getting to know. Very cliquey

Sorry Mitzicoco,
But what is going on?
It reads like theres something going on in regards to your children being unsure who will collect them on which day, someone smelling what they thought was alcohol (BTW there are lots of things that can create that sort of smell) and you sleeping in the car.

Like someone posted above, have you been tested for diabetes? This would make sense of extreme tiredness and the smell.

Is sleeping in a spare few mins in the car normal for you? Does your work pattern change around? The concerns together would also worry me.

I think that you would be better off considering the situation and that its making people concerned more than if someone grassed you up.

Could it have been another Mum that they confused with you?

I can't believe what I am reading

No me neither.

It seems like a very odd chain of events.

And then giving them a piece of my mind?! I would never ever drink anything at all if I was driving. I cannot Think why somebody reported me. Were they being malicious? Nosy? Bored? Do they realise the impact this has on me? I am seriously pissed off.

Or perhaps they had a genuine concern rather than a vendetta against you. Look at it from an outsider's perspective. There's a concern another parent turned up smelling of booze and then some days later they are found asleep in the middle of the day in the driver's seat of their car in the middle of the day. I would say nodding off like that would set alarm bells ringing, given the previous concerns about a person smelling of booze. Would you rather the school said nothing if there were genuine concerns a out the level of care was getting?

I'm not entirely sure why everyone is pretending to be so confused tbh. It's pretty clear from the OP's post what happened.

What's that then Hugs?

Thanks hugsaremydrugs. At least someone gets it....😊

This is madness.

Although there have been some deliberately facetious comments on here which is a shame.

What is madness?

Did you maybe drink the night before when the children were in bed and smell of stale alcohol the next day and someone wildly overreacted?

Actually think I have worked it out. Have been using a nicotine spray called wild berry or similar and think it must be that as both my husband and dad have commented on it smelling slightly alcoholic. Doh.

I have that spray. Can confirm it smells a bit

Thanks Sux2buthen :)