To find out who snitched on me?

[Mitzicoco]

So I went to pick the kids up from school today. I was quite early well actually 20 minutes early so had a quick kip in the car. I was awoken by the deputy headmaster who wanted to speak to me so I went with him to his office and he said that there were some safeguarding issues regarding my children. To cut a long story short whereby my nanny got involved in all of this by being there and my children getting confused on what day she was there, somebody reported me on Monday or Tuesday of smelling of alcohol. I have not drunk anything at all. I am meeting the headmaster tomorrow to discuss this as a safeguarding issue. Am I being unreasonable in wanting to find the fuck out who reported me? And then giving them a piece of my mind?! I would never ever drink anything at all if I was driving. I cannot Think why somebody reported me. Were they being malicious? Nosy? Bored? Do they realise the impact this has on me? I am seriously pissed off.

Try again OP?

Why are you name changing? I'm smelling bullshit.

Kipping in your car hasn’t helped things at all really. They probably thought you were sleeping it off.

What is going on?

Clear as mud.

Are you saying that the deputy head of the school walked along the road to find your car and that they would recognise you?

What does your Dd mixing up days of the week have to do with anything?

What does the nanny have to do with it?

So somebody reported that the person who collected your kids on Monday or Tuesday smelt of alcohol, and initially you thought it was your nanny, but it's actually you?

And the headmaster now wants to talk to you about this as a safeguarding concern tomorrow, after seeing you asleep in your car prior to pick up?

You would be unreasonable to give anyone a piece of your mind, if won't help. And I can sort of see why being asleep in your car might add to the concerns, although I'd also like a chance to nap in the middle of the day!

You need to refute the allegations if they aren't true, and work with the school. I hope it's resolved quickly.

Sorry using from phone and computer so different names and tuberose and Mittzicoc. Also don't have glasses on and I'm chronically dyslexic so apologise for mistakes

I think there are procedures for finding out the name of the person who reported you if you plan to take defamation proceedings, but that would be very OTT.

Have you had a drink today, by any chance?

I'm assuming:

Someone reported the person picking up the children as smelling of alcohol.
Initially they thought it was the nanny as children told teacher wrong day for nanny pick ups vs mums pick ups.
Now school think that in actual fact the mum collected them whilst having been drinking.

Whatever has happened and whatever's been said you need to remain calm.

"I do not drink when I am driving or when I'm collecting the children. Whoever made this accusation is mistaken. Thank you for your time and concern for my children's safeguarding. Luckily for all involved it's misplaced judgement".

Shake hands and leave.

If you rip anyone apart verbally and make non coherent sentences you are walking straight into their hands.

Are @Mitzicoco and @tuberr0se the same person?

I used to work in a regulation and complaints department. In that instance Complaints can't be made anonymously, you're entitled to know who made the complaint and what exactly they said so you could respond accordingly. If they didn't provide that information it could be dismissed as hearsay.

It may be completely different when it comes to children and safe guarding issues though

If you talk to people in real life in the same way that you post on here I’m not surprised people think you’re drunk.

You seem quite erratic, to be fair. Is there something else going on?

Was there a winey wall Sharon?

Bizarre !!!!!

Trying to use Dictaphone which is not working properly. This may explain why I seem erratic. As said, I am dyslexic and this in theory should be clearer

Why did they come and find you?

Someone saw you asleep in the car, plus the drinking accusation. You can see why they thought it could be true.

If the accusations are untrue then you have nothing to worry about.

The OP has explained she has dyslexia & apologised for mistakes (hence why original post is confusing) & is alternating between her phone & computer hence name change fail, honestly some peoples comments are just plain horrible accusing her of being drunk now but that is the keypad warriors of mumsnet so I digress.

OP if you were in fact sober and someone is being spiteful just go in calmly and explain this, it's their word against yours and so long as there are no other concerns I cant see much coming of it, you know the truth and if it is the truth then how could anyone prove otherwise.

No more kips in the car though as that would look quiet suspicious going with the accusation.

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Try not to take it personally. Someone was concerned for your children and tried to protect them. That's a good thing, as is the school following it up. Someone else's children may not be as lucky as yours.

Are you drunk now, OP?