To have to tell someone

[FairyDust92]

Not to reach in and touch my child! Happened yesterday and my son is 10 weeks we were out for lunch and the waiter bent down and stroked his face! I said 'please do not touch my child' she then continued to touch his legs so I said again 'don't touch my child'. She actually took offence to this but I don't think I should have to tell people not to touch him. I don't know who she is or where she has been and to touch his bloody face! Wtf. Maybe I am over reacting but I cannot stand people touching him that I don't know. What comes over them to think they can stroke someone else's baby... it's bloody weird! 🤬

Stream of consciousness... Very James Joyce.

@NoSauce yeah of course they wash their hands... I'm there I can see that... it's not like I leave my 10 week old son with them is it 😂

You go into the bathroom with your nephews and nieces to make sure they’ve washed their hands?

I hope she spat in your food.

She was a waitress interacting normally and you were horribly rude. You don't snap at serving staff like they're too filthy to touch your precious child.

Wtf is wrong with you

It's ok to say 'please could you not touch him, he gets unwell easily' or something and it's fine not to want them touching him but you can't just act like people are beneath you.

Servers get enough shit

I hope she spat in your food.

Dear me. Well if she was the type to do that I'd definitely not want her touching my baby.

Some of these comments are way worse than the OP and show a person with a really disgusting frame of mind.

I'm on your side @FairyDust92

I thought it was really rude when people touched my newborn daughter. She's 1 now so I'm less annoyed as she's more robust etc but, especially as she was premature, I was really protective of people trying to touch her! Just carry wipes with you all the time - but so rude for someone to do it again after you (the mum) have asked not to!

Italian Mama waitresses
Isn’t that a touch racist?

YANBU to not want a stranger to touch your child, however your response was REALLY rude and unreasonable.

Oh dear god. Everyone is so fuming/angry/incensed by everything these days. FFS.

YANBU

MN amazes me, it's normally so germophobic, i thought everyone would be agreeing with you. I'm not a germaphobe but strangers touching you or your children is weird. Clearly this woman had the best of intentions but that doesn't make her actions any less inappropriate. You told her not to touch your baby and she carried on regardless.

I wonder the response you would have gotten, if this was a man who wouldn't stop stroking your baby, after you'd told him not to.

YANBU. Would people touch anyone older? No. So why are babies seen as ok to touch? I adore babies and would love to squidge them but I don’t because they aren’t public property.

YANBU! Who wants a strangers grubby hands on their baby?! Yuk!

Not over reacting. My baby was in NICU for a month and I hated people touching him when we out and about. It caused extreme anxiety. I like the stickers you can put on the pram about not touching the baby

If you subscribe to the idea that takes a village to raise a child OP, you're going to have a really hard time with the fencing in of your child. Babies are not public property of course but they are a leveller and breaker-down of barriers.

It's a nice cultural thing, sharing the gorgeousness of a baby with other people in the community.

I know lots will say my baby, my rules and of course they are correct. But the world can be a miserable place sometimes and babies make it brighter.

I think a lot has to do with how much you like other people in general.

I think a lot has to do with how much you like other people in general

I hate other people so this explains a lot!

If you overreact to a situation like that, you are going to find motherhood really, really difficult.

@zebraaa working in a maternity unit,as staff,conveys a legitimacy of purpose. It’s in context and generally ok to touch the babies although I’d expect you to ask

In a cafe,staff randomly touching a baby isn’t ok. It may be well intentioned and kind but one should ask. To continue to touch when directed not to is actually really bad

@FairyDust92 you are getting an unnecessarily hard time, it’s not ok to Randomly touch babies. Esp when you indicated you don’t like it

😂 @Butttons

UK has lost its measles free status, flu can be deadly so young and there are many other things going around now. Some kids have allergy issues. No you were right. Someone I know has a little girl with serious allergy problems so would flair up then be up all night crying in pain from such interaction. Another had a premie baby who everyone tried to touch despite a sign asking not to.

People telling you to grow up are the ones telling you to tell others to fuck off from touching you and not listening.

Consent at this age goes to the parents. End of. They aren't listening, it is because they are an entitled idiot.

I don't know where you have been, what you might have.

YANBU People equating a baby being touched to an adult. Being touched ad they are both people who should give consent. As a baby can't give consent you would ask the adult they are with.
People need to get a grip with boundries and start showing these boundries from childhood.
People like to touch my hair as it's very curly, should I let them as you can understand why they want to which is what people have said about a babies soft skin.

YANBU but you DID overreact.

Wait until somebody buys your toddler a little chocolate treat @FairyDust92 then we will have another AIBU

'Yes you are'
'No I'm not' response

YABU and s bit nuts.

What is wrong with people who say YABU? If I decided the woman in the road was cute and stroked her... or the pregnant belly touch? Utterly mental. Why does the the baby just get to be touched? Right with you here OP. I didn't want mine touched by randomers in the street.