To have to tell someone

[FairyDust92]

Not to reach in and touch my child! Happened yesterday and my son is 10 weeks we were out for lunch and the waiter bent down and stroked his face! I said 'please do not touch my child' she then continued to touch his legs so I said again 'don't touch my child'. She actually took offence to this but I don't think I should have to tell people not to touch him. I don't know who she is or where she has been and to touch his bloody face! Wtf. Maybe I am over reacting but I cannot stand people touching him that I don't know. What comes over them to think they can stroke someone else's baby... it's bloody weird! 🤬

Claricethecat45,
Yes that’s one scenario and this is another ,
The person could be a child abuser .
Do you watch the Tv( news ) or read the papers??
If you did then you would know about the disgusting, vile Nursery assistant who has just been released from prison after serving a 10 year sentence for sexually abusing little babies in her care.
Would you want her touching your child’s face???

@avamiah

That not just a leap -it’s a pole vault. Bonkers🙄

That’s

How do you know that people you know have washed their hands and aren’t infected with anything?

Everyone that came to visit me made a point of washing their hands before holding the baby when she was a newborn. NHS guidelines recommend it too.

Strangers just need to ask before touching another strangers baby.

That way the people who dislike it can say no, and the people who like it / don't mind can say yes.

OP I 100% get it. I HATED it when people touched my baby, it made me absolutely fume! You aren't overreacting and your feelings are 100% valid. You told the person not to, they continued anyway, of course you were reasonable to tell them again. People need to learn to respect boundaries.

All you baby touchers will no doubt welcome sticky toddlers with chocolate/cereal/toast crumbed faces and hands grabbing at your face, legs and clothes then, after all as babies they'll have learned this is perfectly acceptable won't they?

YANBU.

You were rude.

All you baby touchers

For the second time, we are not all “baby touchers”. 🙄 I have no wish to touch random babies.

My objection is to the rudeness.

Why are you responding to my posts if they don't actually apply to you @NoTheresa? For the second time I cannot see where I have addressed you individually...

It is not rude to have to twice tell a stranger to refrain from handling a baby
Twice, the mum had to say it.1st request ignored so a 2nd was made
Rude is the waitress indulging her own whims and wilfully ignoring mum 2 requests to stop handling the baby

Agitetur is defo OP. Too invested with their replies.

To say that so rudely is super weird! 😱

@Agitetur couldn't agree more.

NoTheresa,
It’s FACT .
Shocking but it happened .
I agree with you, we are not all baby touchers but who knows at the end of the day the person was a “stranger” to OP .

Haha are you going to address anyone else supportive of op or just me

The person could be a child abuser

All you baby touchers will no doubt welcome sticky toddlers with
chocolate/cereal/toast crumbed faces and hands grabbing at your face, legs and clothes then, after all as babies they'll have learned this is perfectly acceptable won't they?

Hysteria has landed I see.

Conspiracy theories abound on mn, so @Zebraaa go on do reveal my other sinister skullduggery
My over invested state. My multiple name changes and nom de plumes

I think it’s unfair of people to say that a healthy baby would not be harmed, that’s just not true. Measles is on the rise in the UK, we’re about to enter the autumn/winter period so cold/flu virus and RSV are more likely, as well as the cold sore virus which can lead to neonatal herpes - all of which are known killers of babies, and not just immunosuppressed, premature, or newborn babies, there have been cases of otherwise healthy, 3 month old+ babies dying of these diseases that they’ve contracted from other people. I would personally rather be a bit ‘precious’ and rude and still have my child breathing.
Chances are this lady touching OPs baby on the cheek and leg will have done no harm whatsoever, but as she reached into the pram OP had no way of knowing whether the lady was going to touch baby’s face, hand, leg... so I understand how her reaction may have been rude, but she was probably shocked and a little concerned. The lady also didn’t ask, so would not know if the child had health issues, and it’s too late once the damage has been done. Maybe it’s because there’s more coverage of these risks to babies in the media now than generations gone by, so parents are more aware now. Regardless OP is the mother and what she says goes, why should some strangers wishes or feelings come above a mother doing what she thinks is best for her child?!

Spot on.

Perhaps the waiter was mourning the loss of their own baby or had suffered some kind of sadness....they were just reaching out to a new and doubtless adorable cutey, and you blew your horn....

Indeed @NoSauce.

I really don't like the word hysteria though. I prefer ridiculous hyperbole.

NoSauce,
Yes the person could be .
Who knows ??

Ferret27 I’m guessing you’re also okay with people touching your face arm or leg without asking? And if you ask them not to you are perfectly fine with them carrying on? Because if you aren’t you are a hypocrite.

This thread drips gloopy descriptions and ridiculous hyperbole. Laughable
Not to mention the conspiracy theorists.maybe I am a prolific name changer
What if all the posts supporting op are written by me.mah haa haa