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To have to tell someone

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FairyDust92 · 19/09/2019 18:43

Not to reach in and touch my child! Happened yesterday and my son is 10 weeks we were out for lunch and the waiter bent down and stroked his face! I said 'please do not touch my child' she then continued to touch his legs so I said again 'don't touch my child'. She actually took offence to this but I don't think I should have to tell people not to touch him. I don't know who she is or where she has been and to touch his bloody face! Wtf. Maybe I am over reacting but I cannot stand people touching him that I don't know. What comes over them to think they can stroke someone else's baby... it's bloody weird! 🤬

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Ferret27 · 20/09/2019 20:08

Agiteur .... but it didn’t did it because you referenced it!

Itsonlymonday · 20/09/2019 20:09

@envelopeofpubes rude much????!!!! There’s no need to throw insults.

OP you were right to react that way. I feel the same when it comes to my baby.

YaySeptember · 20/09/2019 20:09

My mothering instinct must be faulty because I was never bothered when anyone touched, cooed over or even kissed my dc as babies. I took them into where I'd been working before having them and was happy for them to be passed around. I felt quite proud when complete strangers told me how cute they were. Now they're 7 & 8 no-one's bothered and I kind of miss it! I think it's a sad state when people daren't interact with others for fear of germs.

Yabu op, in my opinion. You came across as rude and unnecessarily sharp.

Itsonlymonday · 20/09/2019 20:12

@NoSauce WTF????

Why are people so rude on here??? I don’t get it.
There’s no need for it

NoSauce · 20/09/2019 20:15

Rude? Why, because I said the OP needs to calm the fuck down? Get a grip!

Itsonlymonday · 20/09/2019 20:16

Oh just shut up!!!

Agitetur · 20/09/2019 20:18

@Ferret27 you wrote a big irrelevant post which you followed up with baby niqab when your hyperbole was ignored

NoSauce · 20/09/2019 20:20

Christ calm down love. Weird overreaction Hmm

Itsonlymonday · 20/09/2019 20:21

@NoSauce you are such an ignorant idiot ‘love’

woblob · 20/09/2019 20:22

YANBU. I'm sure the stroker wouldn't be so impressed if a stranger walked up to them and started touching them randomly!

NoSauce · 20/09/2019 20:23

Seriously what is your problem?

Itsonlymonday · 20/09/2019 20:24

@NoSauce I know you. You can be so rude just to make a point.
There was no need for swearing in this case

NoSauce · 20/09/2019 20:26

Hiding behind a NC then?

Swearing is allowed. For now anyway.

Agitetur · 20/09/2019 20:27

So babies are strokable and one should allow this. Or you’re neurotic (apparently)
Unwarranted touching is it always ok? What about a 5yo? 9yo? 14 yo? Twenty something woman?older adult?
Touching children Is ok in all locations?restaurant?swimming pool?library?shopping centre

Gender,does it matter who does the touching ?

Itsonlymonday · 20/09/2019 20:28

You are making a young first time mum upset ... hope you are happy with yourself
There’s no need for such criticism if you don’t agree with her reaction

Tp93 · 20/09/2019 20:30

I would hate this too. People think that babies are public property.
Go and stroke their face next time and see if they like it 🤣

MMama18 · 20/09/2019 20:31

@Agitetur this exactly!
There seems to be no grey area here. Either our children are public property or we ‘need to calm the fuck down’ or are ‘freaky’ for not wanting them touched.
Can it not just be that OP was no BU in that she didn’t want her baby touched, but was probably BU in the way she snapped at the lady, and could have done so more tactfully. The lady however was BVU for not asking to touch the baby and not stopping when asked to. I really don’t see why people have got such a problem with OP.

NoSauce · 20/09/2019 20:32

The OP asked for opinions, I disagreed with her as did MANY others. Something tells me the OP is no wall flower here. Hmm

MrsBadcrumble123 · 20/09/2019 20:33

First baby syndrome? If she was kidding baby then I’d be worried about the spear of herpes virus which can kill babies but honestly YABU!

MrsBadcrumble123 · 20/09/2019 20:33

*kissing!!

MrsBadcrumble123 · 20/09/2019 20:34

*spread!

avamiah · 20/09/2019 20:35

Hi all,
I’m a mum to a naughty nine year old and I’m 46 so I had her pretty late and I have to admit I’m one of those “mums, weirdos 😬, who has to chat to every little baby I see , but I would never dream of actually touching the child ( holding the hand or foot etc ) as I personally don’t think that is appropriate .

avamiah · 20/09/2019 20:40

Unfortunately not everybody’s thoughts and actions are sincere.

StroppyWoman · 20/09/2019 20:42

Heavens, what an extreme reaction.

OP, relax. Your baby is fine, your baby is safe, and the more people s/he interacts with and is used to the more laid back s/he'll be.

Heyboyo · 20/09/2019 20:44

You’re weird OP. No wonder this country has a bad reputation when it comes to kids.

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