75% of mothers

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...do all of the housework and childcare related tasks - no matter how many hours they work outside of this

I was a bit depressed to read this in the Independent newspaper today.

I wondered how mush of this rings true in your experience?

Have quickly gone through all 6 pages and nothing more from OP, but has anyone managed to find a link to the article ? As it seems incredibly unlikely that all the housework and childcare tasks are done by such a high % of mothers.
I'm sure there are homes like this.
I'm pretty sure there are a OT of homes where the mother does the majority, just as I'm sure there are homes where the father does the majority and there are homes where it is equal. The headline seems unlikely though.

@Hallloumi I agree, I was brought up with a "progressive" dad and have an adult DH! And my brother is a hands on dad etc. I just wouldn't put up with laziness, I'd have sniffed it out long before children arrived.

It was 50:50 in our house until DH died - now 100% me obviously. Really grateful I can afford to work part time plus cleaner once a week - means I have enough time to focus on the DCs. And maybe me one day 🤷‍♀️😅

The OP is wrong. The survey doesn't say that 75% of mothers do all of the housework and childcare related tasks, does it, OP?

The survey says that 74% of mothers say they do the lion's share. Which is not the same thing at all, is it?

How much should we charge the lazy blokes, for pregnancy, child birth and 30 years (as yet unpaid) domestic labour

There are already court cases. This is why sahms or women who have taken the career hit, often get more than 50% in a divorce.

Would it be funny if a man counter sued for all those year of food and board for the sahm.?

And why would it be 30 years?

@BackforGood

It's this one. It doesn't actually say what the OP claimed.

www.independent.co.uk/life-style/men-women-parenting-housework-childcare-a9098091.html

it seems incredibly unlikely that all the housework and childcare tasks are done by such a high % of mothers

There have been screeds of academic papers on this including Anne Oakley. You can read? You have access to the internet? You are sentient.
Off you go. Good luck.

Oh in that case I do the lions share of the housework

But the rest of my post still stands

This is not true of XH and me, because he made two whole contributions to the running of our household. He washed up, sometimes (which involved leaving everything soaking overnight and me having to deal with it in the morning when it was cold and slimy) and he put the bins out. He wanted regular congratulations for these contributions.

Would it be funny if a man counter sued for all those year of food and board for the sahm.?

Bring it on.

Thanks @ItsGoingTibiaK

Hmm - you are right, the article doesn't state that at all

@cordeliajackson

Well as seen as the OP has completely misinterpreted what the Independent story said, your rude, patronising reply is a bit misguided.

I can read, have access to the internet and am sentient, yet I can't find a single academic paper, including by Anne Oakley, that backs up the OP's claim that 75% of mothers do all housework and childcare-related tasks. Can you?

It would be such a brilliant court case. Still thinking about it.
Privatised/ prostituted women work has so had its day.

My hubby works 6am to 5.30pm 5 days a week & every other Saturday for half day. He still comes home does 50% of housework, cooks at least once a week (usually when it's something quick like stir fry or pizza), gets up during the night with our toddler who's almost 3 but still wakes up most nights.

Not true in my house. Cooking is pretty much 50/50 but he does more laundry, more grocery shopping, more vacuuming and more loading of the dishwasher than I do. He also always puts the rubbish out. I do the household admin (insurance/utilities etc), car stuff and DIY.

My DP does do his fair share it but I do waaay more and we work the same amount of hours.

He won't cook proper dinners (only shove in the oven)
He doesn't iron, clean the bathroom, dust, iron, do washing, bath DD or any real cleaning.

He does however hovers, does dishes and does tidy (but at best it's putting things in piles). I do all of these too.

We do share child care equally though

Not true in our house. We both have always worked full time and equally share running the home and family.

Why would anyone agree to anything else?

Plinky - why doesn’t he do an equal share?

True when my ex lived here.

I can believe it. I do everything (happily) and work full time
Life is a breeze compared to when my ex lived with us.

I work more hours, DH does more of the house stuff. I do the laundry, we share the shopping and DH picks up the slack, he also does the morning school run.

Working it out on average on people I know, it does come in around 70, and then the 30 percent would be dhs that do equal/more than the wives

My DH would be out on his arse if I had to do all the housework and childcare. No point having dead weight knocking about.

I had children quite close together and when I was on mat leave we had no end of arguments over me doing pretty much everything child and house related and him doing very little. It made a tough time harder. I think he maybe saw that I was on holiday on maternity leave and wasn’t doing very much when in actual fact I never stopped and was up all night every night too.

I’m back at work and have to say I’m far more rested and he actually does more than me now, a lot more. Granted I do all the housework, but he does the shopping, ferrying kids to nursery and back, cooking, gardening, diy, baths and a lot of bedtimes. I might add I’m working very long hours, he has a demanding job too but he works locally.

I feel much happier in the 25% now!

But does it really, truly matter how much ‘more’ housework or child related matters mothers do compared to fathers?
And even if it was true, why should it be depressing?
In my personal experience no, it doesn’t ring true when I look at my situation and at other mothers I know with the exception of friends who, sadly, lost their husbands.