to take my three year old into the women's loos?!

[LulaLandry]

Just that really. Went out to a farm park yesterday on my own with my three year old son and the loos available were male, female and disabled. I wasn't about to use the disabled loo and in any case someone was using it, so I did what I always do and took DS into the ladies, at which point I got a filthy glance from another woman and she said "he should be using the men's".

I was so taken aback I didn't even reply but the more I think about it the more I think how ridiculous this was. I am entirely supportive of female-only spaces but we are talking about a three year old child (who by the way does not look older than he is). He genuinely doesn't even have any concept of sex yet, he calls everyone "she". He's not old enough to take himself into the men's on his own.

Surely I was not BU?!?!

YANBU, way too young to go to a public loo on his own. DS was about 7 when he was happy to do so.

Yanbu.

What a stupid woman she was. He's still a baby really. I'd be horrified if I saw a mum letting her 3 year old into the gents by himself.

You did nothing wrong.

I took my almost 7yo into the women's toilets with me at the weekend.

He did actually use the men's but couldn't reach the taps / hand soap so I took him in to wash his hands. It was an empty toilet but I'd have done the same if it was full.

empty toilet - 6 cubicles but only us in there a the time1

Presuming you are female, then of course YANBU. Children go with parents to whatever sex the parents are toilets and changing rooms. 3yos can't take themselves to toilets.

I can't believe this really happened!

Of course yanbu! I’ve taken my ds in to the women’s for the past 6 years and no one has ever even raised an eye brow to me!

The woman's bonkers. I always take my 6 year old son in with me. There's no way I'd send him into the men's on his own.

Of course you weren't.

My 3 year old has recently learnt to get on and off the toilet by himself but he can't flush (handle too stiff) or reach the sink without a stool.

YANBU! My DS is nearly 7 and still comes in the ladies with me and I can't see that changing any time soon.

I've never had a comment yet and if someone did dare say something I'd tell them exactly where to go!

Uh huh

Yanbu at all. Imagine sending a 3 year old into the men’s loos alone!
I still take my 6yo in the women’s with me. He only goes alone to the men’s loos in places we know and feel safe.

Unbelievable.

I take my 7 year old grandson into the Ladies if he needs to go. I wouldn't let him go into the men's on his own yet.

YADNBU aside from the risk of letting him out of my sight in public I dread to think that would actually happen if I let DS3 go to the loo completely unsupervised.

Woman was batshit!

yanbu!

stupid woman!

What a ridiculous woman. What does she think a 3 year old child is was going to do to her??

Can I ask, In children type places are you meant to go with little boys to the boys toilet or the girls?

We were at a primary school summer fair and I had this quandry recently.

She's completely unreasonable! He's 3 FFS! Even a 7yo might struggle on his own, e.g. have trouble locking and unlocking the door.

Some 3YOs are still in nappies ffs, I’m struggling to believe this actually happened, not because OP seems off but because it’s so obvious a toddler can’t be left alone, especially not to use a public loo.

It depends. Are you a man or a woman?

Yes I'm female!

Tartsamazeballs not sure what the face is for, if you think I'm a troll by all means report me.

Little boys belong with their mothers

If you are a woman, that is absurd:

Up to about aged 8, a child can stay with their parent - who should take them into the loo for the parent's sex

Sorry I'm obviously a woman, I thought that would have been clear!