Aibu - secondary and Santa

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So yesterday my ds (year 7) told me that his RE teacher had told them that Santa was made up and nonsense. Now I'm not being a snowflake or anything and we had already told him that Santa only comes to younger children and he himself would be being Santa this year for his younger sisters, so I'm a little bit peeved that a teacher has spoiled it all. Ds said a few girls were crying in the class. I just don't think it's a teachers responsibility to tell children about Santa it's a parental job but maybe AIBU?

By Y7 I wouldn’t have a problem with it

YANBU.

They need to have worked it out by then. Critical thinking is very important for secondary school.

I would expect secondary school kids to have worked out the truth years ago tbh. Girls were crying?

If you told him he would be Santa this year, and he knows he's not Santa, surely you already told him Santa is made up?

I wouldn’t be bothered by it.

You ARE being a snowflake though. Why didn't you just tell him the truth and then let him help with the younger ones rather than tell him Santa doesn't come to older children?!

Two points -1) by Y7, shouldn't be an issue. 2) The guy who is promoting a big man in the sky with a big beard and omnipotent powers is saying Santa doesn't exist? Maybe he was going for irony!

I told him Santa comes to younger children and he would be helping. He isn't bothered at all I just don't see why a teacher would feel the need to say it's all nonsense, to me it doesn't really fall under their remit but that's obviously my personal opinion.

Tbh . I would expect a year 7 teacher to use facts not fairy stories . It is not primary.

YABU. They assume (almost always correctly) that before secondary age children are well aware that Father Christmas is made up. I'm pretty astonished there were several crying!

Yes, I am afraid you are being unreasonable... there will be much bigger disappointments to come in life.

I agree OP. Fine for a parent to say it at this age, but not in a teacher's remit.

YABU! He’s year 7!

What age wouldn’t you have told him the truth OP?

*Would

We were trying to do this www.google.co.uk/amp/s/articles.aplus.com/a/how-to-break-news-about-santa-claus.amp

I'm no snowflake whatsoever! But that's your opinion.

no Year 7 believes in Santa.

Year 7?!!! Stop it..He already knew. YABVVVU. It's a parents job to. ensure their children know fact from fantasy by that age. You do know about the unicorns too?

I would be embarrassed if my children did not know by that age that Santa was just a thing for young children
You are being a snowflake. I can't believe girls were crying at this.

If my kids still believe in Santa by yr 7 I'll be disappointed and telling them myself to avoid inevitable teasing by peers.

It's a bit embarrassing if you still believe in Santa at secondary school! I can't believe kids were crying!! They would have got the piss taken out of them when I was at school.
No one believed at that age. My DD is going into year 5 and most of her class don't believe already.

I get the whole "you can be Santa too" thing but I still think you should have just told the truth rather than a half truth about santa not visiting older children.

Well I think that’s a perfectly nice idea but aimed at a child of about 7 or 8 - not 11.

Y7??? Do you mean age 7?