My mum asking for lifts

[StormyLovesOdd]

Just want to know if I ABU as I feel a bit guilty about this.

My Mum is in her late 60's and can't drive. My step dad used to be able to drive but lost his licence earlier this year due to medical issues.

Mum and Step dad live a few miles away from me and also have a caravan 50 odd miles away, they used to go to their caravan half the week and stay at their house the rest of the time. When step dad lost his licence mum asked if me and my sister would mind taking them to the caravan now and then as they didn't want to loose it. We both said yes as we know how much mum enjoys her time there.

Fast forward 6 months..... I have lost my job, money is tight and our car is old. My sister has got a new job, she doesn't finish work now until 5pm.

Mum mentioned a few weeks ago that she didn't like asking my sister to take them to the caravan anymore as sis works long hours so could I take them AND pick them up. Mum gives me money for fuel plus an extra £5 for driving them but I'm worried about the wear and tear on the car. The way things are at the moment I can't afford to fix my car or buy another one if/when it packs up and the trips to the caravan are a 100 mile round trip twice a week.

I told mum I can't do this all the time because I'm worried about the car and she needs to ask sis to help too. Mum said she doesn't want to ask sis as she works really hard so if I can't take her she'll have to give up the caravan. Mum pointed out all the times she's helped me over the years and made me feel really guilty. Am I in the wrong?

The fact remains that the older you are, the harder it is to learn new skills. That’s why many 17 year olds pass their test first time - and why I needed seven attempts in my late 30s! Learning to drive isn’t remotely like going to the gym because you don’t kill people if you’re a bit shit at an exercise class.

I did a skydive to celebrate my 60th birthday, it was easy because I had a man who knew what he was doing strapped to my back. I was a passenger.

so if I read this right your mum and stepdad have renewed the caravan lease for another year KNOWING they cannot get to it? there fore EXPECTING you and NOT sister to ferry them?

cheeky fuckers.

anyone with non cfuckery and common sense would have not renewed the lease.

I think op you need to put these to your mum? and " I bore you/ raised you" blah, blah, blah isn`t a reason to EXPECT you to be an on call taxi!

Can you drive them in your sister's car?
If she uses it to get to work, can she cope without it once or twice a week? I realise this is a big ask of her, as well.

I think your best bet might be to ring around the local taxi firms and see if you can work out a deal for them.

Don't they get free bus travel as they are pensioners? If they can't use public transport, then they can't go.

OP can I ask is your sister more likely to be the kind of person that says "no"? Is that WHY they don`t want to ask her?

And they know you`ll always say yes?